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Mick Golden Blood said:
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I had a female friend who was "discussing" equality in battle with me at a bar when a fight broke out, telling me how women are just as capable fighters are men. A short hour later a fight broke out in the bar (the fight had nothing to do with us, and was unlikely to effect us at all) and her first reaction is to hide behind me.

Now I have no problems with a woman hiding behind me, but it makes her previous point seem invalid. If someone is going to have a conviction, they need to stand behind it. This is similar to someone harping on recycling and the fact that not enough people recycle their plastics that end up in landfills, then five minutes later you see them throw their soda bottle into a trash can. It is hypocrisy and you know it.
Why? Was she saying that she herself wanted to fight on the front lines, or felt that she could? Just because she wants women to be given the same opportunity to, doesn't mean that she wants it for herself.
Her statement was that women were just as capable in combat as men. Given that at that point neither of us had any combat training or experience we should be equally able to defend ourselves (from her statement), yet she hides behind me because I am a man. We weren't that different size wise, so you can't go with the usual statement that men are larger and therefor better suited to combat.

I understand why she did it, I am not a dunce, but by her doing it she shows the hypocrisy inherent in such statements. I think we need to embrace our differences and get over this whole rigid equality thing. I think we should be treated as equals, I don't think we should ignore our own personal strengths and weaknesses. I think women would make better snipers as they are more limber and tend to be smaller, this means they can get themselves into tighter places and stay there for longer periods. Meanwhile in a fist fight men are better suited due to size and strength differences. This doesn't mean there aren't exceptions to the rule, but that is kind of the point isn't it? Some people are better suited to other jobs, stop making generalizations on both sides of the fence.

Edit quick aside, I'm sending you a PM about your job, if you get a chance check it out.
Women compared to men are not the prime choice for the job AT ALL.

Fuck no, fuuuuuuuuuuuck no, do you have any idea what a sniper has to do? Any fucking clue?

I can see someone else ninja'd me on some of this, but also think about laying prone is like for a woman? Her breasts pressing against the ground constantly for hours and hours maybe even days if necessary. As well, men have better eyesight for these kinds of jobs. (They have been predominantly hunters and fighters after-all. They are more adapted to noticing movements, even slight) And think about if a woman is sent for a month or more. Her periods. A sniper under no circumstance can just get up and clean up whenever, you need to keep a lookout forfuckingever, no change, constant attention. Snipers are fucking patient... But even a patient woman would have to deal with that issue. Just another reason why you are so frigging wrong...

In short: Women make terrible snipers compared to men. They can do it, obviously, but men are definitely better suited in every possible way. (And lol at that limberness excuse, that's so out-dated gender stereotyping.
Please see my previous post. I get that people have these preconceived notions about what women can and can't do, but may of them are wrong. I am a guy, so I won't pretend to know what it is like to be a woman, but I can tell you that historically speaking some of the fiercest fighters have had their women fight along side their men in combat. As for knowing what it takes to be a sniper, see previous post.
 

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barbzilla said:
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Video games are great, I know! But they don't show you the part about sniping where you have to carry ~20-25kg of equipment and climb/hike up to 10km+ on foot in hostile areas and difficult terrain. They also don't show you the part where the snipers are put through even MORE gruesome physical training compared to frontline soldiers/marines, people can't simply walk into the army and tick a box which says "I wants 2 be sniper!", this isn't Call of Duty.

So of you think it's a good idea to start enlisting small flexible women into the army solely for the purpose of becoming sniping specialists some day, all I can say is...well actually no, nothing needs to be said :p

And on the topic of wanting "equal treatment", in the past 10,000 years of recorded history there hasn't been a SINGLE culture/society/civilization where women were expected to do exactly the same work as men, take on exactly the same roles, and therefore be treated exactly the same. No such thing exists or has ever existed, and even if such a society did exist it obviously didn't fucking work and they went extinct.
Before you go insulting someone because you think you know anything about them, you should really try to do some research. Women are very capable of endurance training, and can easily accomplish carrying up to 50lbs of equipment on hikes in high altitude situations, just look at the 73 year old lady who climbed Mt. Everest ( in case you are too lazy to do your own research http://www.cnn.com/2012/05/19/world/asia/nepal-everest-cimb/index.html). I grew up in a military family, and I am very aware of what enlistment is, and how it works. I am also aware that women are not currently allowed to be snipers. This does not mean that I am wrong. Women are well suited to the type of conditions that snipers are placed under, and are very capable of completing the training (which is usually far more rigorous than the missions) as they are the actual mission. The biggest (environmental) problem that most snipers face in the field is hunger. Snipers on mission will often go days at a time sitting in the same place with minimal movement and very limited supplies. Intel is not very accurate and they work off of known habits. This doesn't mean that their target will actually go to the place they are expected to in the time frame they hope. The sniper is in place and they don't scrub the mission, they wait.

So please go do some research before you go around insulting people. It is very crass, and tends to make you look like something that rimes with a word in this sentence.
Doesn't change the fact that for every 1 woman who is capable of passing that level of training, there are a 100 men who can do a better job.
If they truly aren't allowed then I feel that should be changed, they should be allowed to have access to every role and the requirements should remain unchanged for them. But even if they ARE allowed, I don't think we will see more than maybe ~1% representation.


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as for the second part I quoted, check out the Celts, Celtic women fought and trained alongside their men, hell just like their men they even fought naked most of the time to instill fear in their opponents.

I really think you need to research before you post things.
"There are instances recorded where women participated both in warfare and in kingship, although they were in the minority in these areas."
That's all I found. You do your research :)
 

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barbzilla said:
Chemical Alia said:
barbzilla said:
I had a female friend who was "discussing" equality in battle with me at a bar when a fight broke out, telling me how women are just as capable fighters are men. A short hour later a fight broke out in the bar (the fight had nothing to do with us, and was unlikely to effect us at all) and her first reaction is to hide behind me.

Now I have no problems with a woman hiding behind me, but it makes her previous point seem invalid. If someone is going to have a conviction, they need to stand behind it. This is similar to someone harping on recycling and the fact that not enough people recycle their plastics that end up in landfills, then five minutes later you see them throw their soda bottle into a trash can. It is hypocrisy and you know it.
Why? Was she saying that she herself wanted to fight on the front lines, or felt that she could? Just because she wants women to be given the same opportunity to, doesn't mean that she wants it for herself.
Her statement was that women were just as capable in combat as men. Given that at that point neither of us had any combat training or experience we should be equally able to defend ourselves (from her statement), yet she hides behind me because I am a man. We weren't that different size wise, so you can't go with the usual statement that men are larger and therefor better suited to combat.

I understand why she did it, I am not a dunce, but by her doing it she shows the hypocrisy inherent in such statements. I think we need to embrace our differences and get over this whole rigid equality thing. I think we should be treated as equals, I don't think we should ignore our own personal strengths and weaknesses. I think women would make better snipers as they are more limber and tend to be smaller, this means they can get themselves into tighter places and stay there for longer periods. Meanwhile in a fist fight men are better suited due to size and strength differences. This doesn't mean there aren't exceptions to the rule, but that is kind of the point isn't it? Some people are better suited to other jobs, stop making generalizations on both sides of the fence.

Edit quick aside, I'm sending you a PM about your job, if you get a chance check it out.
I really don't see the hypocrisy. All men are not built equal, nor are all women. I think in general, women and men should be pretty equally able to defend themselves to the best of their ability, but that doesn't mean everyone is equally brave or capable of doing that.

If both of you were in the military, then yeah. But in your example, you just seem defensive and looking for criticism.
 

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I have done my research. Celts had their women fight along side with them, same goes for Vikings. As a matter of fact Vikings is where we get the term battle born, that is where a child is born during a battle. As for the every 1 woman we have 100 men passing, that is because of social stigmas and expectations. If as many women tried as men we would see much closer to equal numbers. But instead we tell women they have to wait for their knight in shining armor to rescue them, and that they are all princesses when the grow up. Society is what makes women out to be what they are, not the other way around (as proven by the celts and vikings).

I'm not going to continue the discussion on it, as it seems we both have our own views on the subject that are unlikely to change. I just wanted to go out as saying my piece. If you respond I will read it, and if there is something valid and researched I might respond, but as for now I'm done.

Edit: I took out a false fact, I accidentally put that there was a legion of women who fought for rome, I was backwards, a group of women fought against a roman legion.
 

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Oh God! Not this again.


The dreaded beast has returned to our fair forums. Flee to the underground vaults in an before the flames consume us all!

ERR... also welcome to The Escapist OP, stay out the basement and all that jazz.
 

barbzilla

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Chemical Alia said:
barbzilla said:
Chemical Alia said:
barbzilla said:
I had a female friend who was "discussing" equality in battle with me at a bar when a fight broke out, telling me how women are just as capable fighters are men. A short hour later a fight broke out in the bar (the fight had nothing to do with us, and was unlikely to effect us at all) and her first reaction is to hide behind me.

Now I have no problems with a woman hiding behind me, but it makes her previous point seem invalid. If someone is going to have a conviction, they need to stand behind it. This is similar to someone harping on recycling and the fact that not enough people recycle their plastics that end up in landfills, then five minutes later you see them throw their soda bottle into a trash can. It is hypocrisy and you know it.
Why? Was she saying that she herself wanted to fight on the front lines, or felt that she could? Just because she wants women to be given the same opportunity to, doesn't mean that she wants it for herself.
Her statement was that women were just as capable in combat as men. Given that at that point neither of us had any combat training or experience we should be equally able to defend ourselves (from her statement), yet she hides behind me because I am a man. We weren't that different size wise, so you can't go with the usual statement that men are larger and therefor better suited to combat.

I understand why she did it, I am not a dunce, but by her doing it she shows the hypocrisy inherent in such statements. I think we need to embrace our differences and get over this whole rigid equality thing. I think we should be treated as equals, I don't think we should ignore our own personal strengths and weaknesses. I think women would make better snipers as they are more limber and tend to be smaller, this means they can get themselves into tighter places and stay there for longer periods. Meanwhile in a fist fight men are better suited due to size and strength differences. This doesn't mean there aren't exceptions to the rule, but that is kind of the point isn't it? Some people are better suited to other jobs, stop making generalizations on both sides of the fence.

Edit quick aside, I'm sending you a PM about your job, if you get a chance check it out.
I really don't see the hypocrisy. All men are not built equal, nor are all women. I think in general, women and men should be pretty equally able to defend themselves to the best of their ability, but that doesn't mean everyone is equally brave or capable of doing that.
Um... I agree? That is pretty much what I said, with the exception that making broad generalized statements and then not following through on them is hypocrisy. They are saying one thing and doing another, which is the very essence of hypocrisy.

I do agree though that we need to embrace our individual strengths. We aren't built equally, and we should try to make it out to be as such. In reference to combat, women should study things along the lines of jujitsu and tai-chi if they want to compete with brute force. Anything that allows them to counteract that force using agility and fluid movements, meanwhile a big burly guy might be better off with Muay Thai boxing to do as much damage as quickly as possible. They don't have to conform to those roles, I am just saying they can be equally effective.

Either way we are on the same page, sorry for any confusion.
 

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So wait...who is being sucked up by a whirlpool? Is it every single woman...or a bunch of transexual puppies? I'm confused.

OT: I'd agree with the double standards being a problem. But this topic has been done a trillion times and I imagine that most people are just...tired of it. I wish you luck in finding a decent discussion of it.
 

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barbzilla said:
Um... I agree? That is pretty much what I said, with the exception that making broad generalized statements and then not following through on them is hypocrisy. They are saying one thing and doing another, which is the very essence of hypocrisy.

I do agree though that we need to embrace our individual strengths. We aren't built equally, and we should try to make it out to be as such. In reference to combat, women should study things along the lines of jujitsu and tai-chi if they want to compete with brute force. Anything that allows them to counteract that force using agility and fluid movements, meanwhile a big burly guy might be better off with Muay Thai boxing to do as much damage as quickly as possible. They don't have to conform to those roles, I am just saying they can be equally effective.

Either way we are on the same page, sorry for any confusion.
Oh, gotcha, thanks for the clarification. Also, tai chi is awesome.
 

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I have done my research, Romans had entire legions made up of women, Celts had their women fight along side with them, same goes for Vikings. As a matter of fact Vikings is where we get the term battle born, that is where a child is born during a battle. As for the every 1 woman we have 100 men passing, that is because of social stigmas and expectations. If as many women tried as men we would see much closer to equal numbers. But instead we tell women they have to wait for their knight in shining armor to rescue them, and that they are all princesses when the grow up. Society is what makes women out to be what they are, not the other way around (as proven by the celts and vikings).

I'm not going to continue the discussion on it, as it seems we both have our own views on the subject that are unlikely to change. I just wanted to go out as saying my piece. If you respond I will read it, and if there is something valid and researched I might respond, but as for now I'm done.
Pretty ironic coming from a someone who hasn't posted a shred of research or source material themselves, other than playing the "I've done my research" line (which FYI doesn't count). I'm the only one who has posted a quote sourced from wiki, and yet it is me again who is sourcing more stuff and I can't find any evidence of anything you have said so far.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Military_of_ancient_Rome
"There is no archaeological evidence that suggests that women constituted a significant proportion of troops even amongst the federated troops of the late empire. For the majority of its history, the Roman army was open to male recruits only, and for a greater part of that history only those classified as Roman citizens (as opposed to allies, provincials, freedmen and slaves) were eligible for military service as legionaries, though a great deal of non-citizens could join as auxiliaries, and perhaps earn citizenship in return."


Wait why am I the one having to look up YOUR sources?

I'll bother responding to YOU if you post any research, I just wanted to go out saying my piece. Though I'm actually curious what you may come up with next...the Spartans having armies entirely made of 6-year-old girls I suppose?
 

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Aaron Sylvester said:
...the Spartans having armies entirely made of 6-year-old girls I suppose?
5 years old actually. And they didn't have armies made up of them. The rigorous training those 5-year old girls went through killed 90% of them. They were small elite teams given the finest armor crafted by Hephaestus himself; made from the bones of falling kings, forged in the fires of hells fury and cooled with the wailing tears of the men they rejected. Warrior goddesses one and all, they could tame the mightiest lion with their courageous gaze, and lived life on the edge of their blades. Why, they could fight 20 men without breaking a sweat, all without ruining their perfect hair. Their prestigious order was so secretive, even Leonidis didn't know only 4 of them held off another 2 million Persians on what was commonly referred to as the "cool gates". It's been speculated that they are responsible for the original myth of the 'Valkery', since they were known to swoop in, as if from the heavens, and carry off the bodies of the fallen heroes. No doubt to harvest their genes to spawn more of their bad ass sisters. It's where the inspiration for Xena came from no doubt. And that's what one might look like after the tolls of middle age start affecting their fighting skills; they tend to lose their quick step.

True story.
 

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DevilWithaHalo said:
Aaron Sylvester said:
...the Spartans having armies entirely made of 6-year-old girls I suppose?
5 years old actually. And they didn't have armies made up of them. The rigorous training those 5-year old girls went through killed 90% of them. They were small elite teams given the finest armor crafted by Hephaestus himself; made from the bones of falling kings, forged in the fires of hells fury and cooled with the wailing tears of the men they rejected. Warrior goddesses one and all, they could tame the mightiest lion with their courageous gaze, and lived life on the edge of their blades. Why, they could fight 20 men without breaking a sweat, all without ruining their perfect hair. Their prestigious order was so secretive, even Leonidis didn't know only 4 of them held off another 2 million Persians on what was commonly referred to as the "cool gates". It's been speculated that they are responsible for the original myth of the 'Valkery', since they were known to swoop in, as if from the heavens, and carry off the bodies of the fallen heroes. No doubt to harvest their genes to spawn more of their bad ass sisters. It's where the inspiration for Xena came from no doubt. And that's what one might look like after the tolls of middle age start affecting their fighting skills; they tend to lose their quick step.

True story.
If you came up with all that yourself then bravo, you made me laugh pretty hard especially at the "cooled with the wailing tears of the men they rejected" part XD
 

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Sexism Doesn't exist!
I'll keep repeating this phrase whenever someone asks me about it. I'll treat every human equally, and if other people do the same, we'll have sexism starved out of humanity in a few years.
Sounds good? Then join me!
 

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As opposed to all of the fake problems we have addressed thus far in one of out many many MANY threads of this very same topic.

Couldn't you just pull a necro?
He shouldn't have as necros are actually a reportable offense.

OT: I agree with you OP. Nothing more that I can really add to it other than when I asked to do something at work and I point to someone else to do it because they are more experienced with it and sexism is called.
I work in a place that is like 80% women, so the person I point to is most likely a woman.
 

barbzilla

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Mick Golden Blood said:
barbzilla said:
Aaron Sylvester said:
I have done my research, Romans had entire legions made up of women,
"Only men could be in the Roman Army. No women. Every Roman soldier was a Roman citizen. He had to be at least 20 years old."

http://www.bbc.co.uk/schools/primaryhistory/romans/the_roman_army/

Bull-shit more.
Sorry, you are correct, I mispoke, women fought against the roman army and won when they went against the celts. I wasn't paying attention when I wrote that post. It will be edited to reflect as much. Sorry again.

Also calm down, I wasn't trying to bull-shit you, I just miss-stated what I was aiming at. A group of women fought against one legion, and a woman led a successful rebellion against the roman empire. I am sorry again for the mistake though.
 

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Aaron Sylvester said:
barbzilla said:
Aaron Sylvester said:
I have done my research, Romans had entire legions made up of women, Celts had their women fight along side with them, same goes for Vikings. As a matter of fact Vikings is where we get the term battle born, that is where a child is born during a battle. As for the every 1 woman we have 100 men passing, that is because of social stigmas and expectations. If as many women tried as men we would see much closer to equal numbers. But instead we tell women they have to wait for their knight in shining armor to rescue them, and that they are all princesses when the grow up. Society is what makes women out to be what they are, not the other way around (as proven by the celts and vikings).

I'm not going to continue the discussion on it, as it seems we both have our own views on the subject that are unlikely to change. I just wanted to go out as saying my piece. If you respond I will read it, and if there is something valid and researched I might respond, but as for now I'm done.
Pretty ironic coming from a someone who hasn't posted a shred of research or source material themselves, other than playing the "I've done my research" line (which FYI doesn't count). I'm the only one who has posted a quote sourced from wiki, and yet it is me again who is sourcing more stuff and I can't find any evidence of anything you have said so far.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Military_of_ancient_Rome
"There is no archaeological evidence that suggests that women constituted a significant proportion of troops even amongst the federated troops of the late empire. For the majority of its history, the Roman army was open to male recruits only, and for a greater part of that history only those classified as Roman citizens (as opposed to allies, provincials, freedmen and slaves) were eligible for military service as legionaries, though a great deal of non-citizens could join as auxiliaries, and perhaps earn citizenship in return."


Wait why am I the one having to look up YOUR sources?

I'll bother responding to YOU if you post any research, I just wanted to go out saying my piece. Though I'm actually curious what you may come up with next...the Spartans having armies entirely made of 6-year-old girls I suppose?
Yeah, as I said to the previous poster I was wrong about rome, I wasn't paying attention, that should have read women fought against a roman legion. I am actually a dunce this time, and I apologize for that. I have edited the previous post to reflect what it should have said. I do love how you jumped on my one mistake though, yet you fail to provide any hard proof on the topic at hand. Anyway this topic isn't about history lessons, I was only pointing out that historically women have fought alongside men and have done well.

I have posted outside research to someone earlier, but when people come at me with you don't know this you don't know that, and I do know. Especially about snipers. My second stepfather was a marine sniper who was paralyzed in Korea by a grenade. I have heard all the stories about his job and his training. I am well aware of what they have to do, and I am also aware that women can do this. I am sorry if this bothers you, but its the truth.
 

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Yeah starting off your forum going career with a controversial topic probably wasn't the best idea.
Anyway the big problem as I see it is that the major champions for female equality, both female and male, fail to realize that true equality is a double edged sword. Sure it would come with some nice perks, but it would also mean not hiding behind the fact that you're female when you don't want to do something or playing the weak defenseless woman to get out of a confrontation. It also means not crying foul every time something doesn't go your way. You can't throw a hissy fit if your passed over for a job/promotion in favor of a man, because unless those in charge of making the decisions consistently chooses men over women, there's no way to prove you were passed over because you're a woman and you just have to accept that maybe the man was legitimately more qualified than you.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for the the equality of woman provided, of course, that everyone involved understands what that truly means.

Oh and incidentally, welcome to the Escapist.
 

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I don't know a single feminist who hides behind double standards like that, and I hate seeing that used all the time about why feminism is annoying.
 

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Bhaalspawn said:
Hell, when I was a kid, I didn't even know there was a time where people of a different skin color were looked down on until my school decided to beat the idea into my head and call it "History."

Same thing with gender and orientation. If I hadn't had my school beating the idea into our heads as kids for the sake of History Class, we would have all grown up not knowing it had even existed at all.
Yes, because:
A) Being ignorant of the mistakes of the past is totally the best way to do things
and B) We only learn things in school and can't get information from anywhere else.

Please. Stop being so fucking naive and realise that sexism and racism would still exist even if we weren't taught about it.