The Right Way to Get Over A Girlfriend?

[rackham234]

Recently, my girlfriend dumped me. I'd rather not go into the reasons, but let's just say it left me pretty devastated. It's been about a month or so, but I still get some unpleasant pangs of loneliness. Does anyone have any tips on getting over someone, outside of getting another girlfriend?

 

[Titanguy654]

Play video games. Many, many video games. Lock yourself in your room and only come out whwn necessary. Do not ever talk to anyone except over the internet.

Or, you could get another girlfriend and move on with your life, which you said not to reccomend. Your choice.

Edit: Being a little more serious, just hang out with friends and get over it. Chill for a while.

 

[Bigeyez]

Start doing new things. Find a new hobby, go take dance classes, learn a new language, whatever. Focusing your mind on something brand new helps to keep it off of old things. And don't feel bad about feeling bad. Everyone goes through it. Just find something to preoccupy yourself.

It ain't the end of the world and as much as it might suck at the moment, you'll eventually get over it and wonder why you were even so beat up about it in the first place.

 

[Wildrow12]

There is no one right way to go about it, champ.

I can however, make a suggestion for a place to start: get rid of your old photos of her and your old love notes/misc sugar coated crap. Then begin looking towards joining a social group of some kind like a sports team, bar regulars, gaming group, volunteer organization secret special forces unit (GI JOEEEEEEEEEE), etc.

Its gonna sting for a awhile, I won't lie to you. But in time it will dull, and you will be stronger than you were before.

 

[eels05]

Pointless one night stands and booze.

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

Screwing her best friend always helps. : )

 

[TheLastCylon]

Just relax, hang out with friends, and some electroshock therapy couldn't hurt either.



[small]kidding about that last bit.[/small]

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

Booze and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8OipmKFDeM

On a unrelated note, does anyone know how I can put a link in a word? So for example, I could write "Booze and this", then make it so you could click this and it would take you to the above posted page?

I see you've only got 8 posts in almost a year, so on the bright side, not having a girlfriend will give you more time to post on The Escapist.

 

[sms_117b]

Everyone has their own way, some people take longer than others.

Hanging out with friends during the day helped me last time. Other friends have binged on food or alcohol for a week or so, another got plaster every night for a week and had a number of one nighters (he's got a silver tongue I swear, the bastard), another became a recluse on WoW, he was the worse off.

Point in case, try different things to take your mind off it, maybe to get out and meet some new people.

 

[barryween]

kill her bad Idea
-Get really deep into a new hobby
-hang out with friends/family
-get a new one(?)(doubt that one will work)

 

[Insanum]

Recently, my girlfriend dumped me. I'd rather not go into the reasons, but let's just say it left me pretty devastated. It's been about a month or so, but I still get some unpleasant pangs of loneliness. Does anyone have any tips on getting over someone, outside of getting another girlfriend?

First off, /hug.

Delete her number from your phone, Block all contact you can make to her. Console in a close friend (that isnt going to stab you in the back).

Gaming is fun. Sleeps can good, but watch out - dreams can be nasty sometimes.

Time heals all wounds.

 

[Destal]

If you're of age it's time to go to the bar with your buddies get smashes and hit on random girls. If not...steal some beer from the fridge and play video games all night with friends. Don't be alone you'll just obsess over it.

 

[Flying-Emu]

Just Safety Dance. She obviously didn't dance, and if she doesn't dance, she's no friend of yours.

 

[Mozared]

Ask yourself what you really want. If you don't want to 'get over it' you might have some more mourning to do until you actually reach the point where you get sick of mourning. Your emotions should be steering you really.

 

[chromewarriorXIII]

Well, when my girlfriend broke up with me, I was sad the first day, and then I just focused on school and friends. It definitely helped me.

 

[Pandalisk]

Screwing her best friend always helps. : )

It didn't for me, ah well.

Just delete her number, block her completely from all contact, and then go pursue another romance, It was the best thing i ever did.

I find that romantical tention between you and a new person is a quick way to forget about the other person completely, that or booze and video games.

 

[Sion_Barzahd]

Do something that takes your mind off of things.

Also if you have any momentos or keepsakes from her, put them out of sight.

 

[AboveUp]

Whatever you do, don't hate her. Don't ask yourself why you were with her.
Instead, accept you loved her, and as amazing as it was it was over and for the best that it ended now.

If you try to hate her and spend time brooding, chances are you're going to realize you still love her, which only makes it take a longer time before you get over her. You could get stuck in a cycle like that for a while.
Trust me, I've been there.

Just try to live your normal life and regain your balance.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

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Recently, my girlfriend dumped me. I'd rather not go into the reasons, but let's just say it left me pretty devastated. It's been about a month or so, but I still get some unpleasant pangs of loneliness. Does anyone have any tips on getting over someone, outside of getting another girlfriend?

Feel sad when you need to. Don't block it out.

Cry.

It is a rollercoaster ride of ups and downs, almost like kicking a drug addiction, but I promise it evens out eventually and gets better.