The women (or men) you tend to fall for.

[BlindMessiah94]

Another relationship thread!

(Sorry BonsaiK, didn't know if you prefer me posting in your thread, or if you prefer moving your replies there)

I've noticed that lately the only women I meet who I have any strong connection with are all unavailable. All of them in long term, committed relationships that show no signs of ending (we are talking like going on 5 years). I know that I share a connection with these women, and I know in another timeline we may have wound up together, but I feel like I just arrived late to the party. Like really late. Its gotten me down as of late because I don't know if I purposely attract myself to these people knowing nothing will come of it. Therefore it is safe and I won't get hurt. But part of me also feels like "all the good ones are taken". Before you ask, I do get out quite a bit, meet new people, I've even tried the online dating thing a bunch with no luck so I do my best to put myself out there. I just always seem to wind up in situations like this.

TL/DR or Don't care:
What kind of person do you tend to fall for? I'm not really talking about physically, but maybe you notice a trend personality wise or something, though if its always physical attraction, feel free to say that too.

 

[SimuLord]

I have a very dominant personality so I have a tendency to attract submissive, quiet girls. This can be a mixed blessing, since so many of them seem to have major-league daddy issues or don't know the difference between being supportive and kissing my ass.

Mind you, I LIKE quiet, introverted, cute-rather-than-hot girls, especially if they, y'know, read books and play games and stuff. There's just a line between a cute, quiet, cuddle-and-talk-all-night girlfriend and "I feel like a child molester even though she's 25" that gets crossed a bit too often.

You know anyone?

 

[xDarc]

Lately my problem is they all pretty much disgust me and I'm painting with too broad a brush, missing out on capturing the finer details.

Here's some examples of my unfair generalizations:

The shy and quiet ones can be tremendously clingy and emotionally undeveloped. The outgoing and saucy ones have unrealistic expectations and are in for a wake up call.

The dorky or nerdy ones are typically some kind of awful crazy that I can't wrap my head around. You know, things like talking about being an otherkin, shopping at hot topic in their mid to late 20's, just generally creeping me out.

Then there are the sweet and funny ones that hollywood likes to vomit up repeatedly. For some reason these ones seem to be the worst. Prone to violent outbursts because they're always insecure that the jokes really on them... i.e. it's a defense mechanism.

P.S.

The one positive thing I could say... Ladies that read into your subtle moves, sending little hints back your way are okay in my book.

There's also the 45ish divorcees. I have never been treated with more respect and consideration.

P.S.S.

Mom if you're still e-stalking me around the internet, and you get upset about the kinds of things I post, why do you keep reading them? You really don't want to or need to know.

 

[BlindMessiah94]

Mind you, I LIKE quiet, introverted, cute-rather-than-hot girls, especially if they, y'know, read books and play games and stuff. There's just a line between a cute, quiet, cuddle-and-talk-all-night girlfriend and "I feel like a child molester even though she's 25" that gets crossed a bit too often.

GET OUT OF MY HEAD!
[sub]Seriously. My head. Get out.[/sub]

You know anyone?

Yeah, do ya?

Sorry guys have a hard enough time finding someone myself lol.

 

[Pokenator]

I suppose 'nerdy' would be one of the first things I notice, but at the same time the kind of nerd who isn't afraid to make a complete ass of himself for lols (public cosplay anyone?). The trouble with nerdlings is they are mostly quite conservative, I miss the days of high school where everything seemed like a good idea. Someone who is generally stable in mood but fun to hang around, random competitions complete with victory dances make things interesting, the type of person who keeps friends close and doesn't ditch them on a whim for a 'cooler' crowd, and respects people for who they are rather than the clothes that they wear. Likewise I am also drawn to someone who is particularly passionate about something, but someone who is compassionate in their general demeanor, someone who cares about the little guy and doesn't believe that the entire world owed them. Someone who is a bit of a hippy but not too extreme. Wow I sound like a pre-teen diary writer, this is kind of scary, I think I'll stop now before I am corrupted forever o.o"

 

[SimuLord]

I always seem to end up with older guys who act like they're superior to me and try to change me. It's always, "Oh, when I was your age..." and it pisses me off! But I still fall for them, because I'm stupid. /headdesk

You couldn't be any more ironically named if you tried.

 

[Toasty]

Basically I seem to go for guys that are in some way different or damaged, as I feel I can actually relate to them(yeah, my life so far has been interesting and unusual to say the least). But as they are damaged in some way their problems/insecurities often lead to me getting hurt. So Im thinking I should somehow change this pattern.
So basically now they need to be able to think indipendently(i.e. prefferably not be a football fan, not be into too many drugs or violence, have an interest in travel, read books and appreciate and respect me. There are probably a couple other critera, but that pretty much sums it up for the moment.

 

[SimuLord]

I always seem to end up with older guys who act like they're superior to me and try to change me. It's always, "Oh, when I was your age..." and it pisses me off! But I still fall for them, because I'm stupid. /headdesk

You couldn't be any more ironically named if you tried.

Ahahahaha! Oh, that made me laugh. Yes, it does seem ironic, unless you count the fact that I've financially supported at least two of my exs. But that's not as funny, so forget I said anything.

Just how young are you? And how old are these guys?

 

[Kikosemmek]

Warm, motherly, altruistic, and harmonious. That would make up the core of what I'm looking for.

For some reason, if a woman can sing, I'm instantly interested. There's something extremely attractive to me about a good voice.

 

[WaderiAAA]

I actually no idea if there is any logic to the part of my brain that decides this thing. Out of the three that I've really liked to now, I can't think of anything they have in common. here are their descriptions.

1. She is a daddy girl, whose dad works selling estates. She is more republican than most people in the republican party (which is rare for a Norwegian girl) and also pretty racist in my eyes. She is a speed skater, she gets high grades and she is good-looking in a somewhat boyish way. She can be very childish at times, but most of the time she isn't, and a test online said she had a mental age of sixty.

2. Break-dancer whose hair-style is a pretty cool creation with a very unnatural colour. She is a huge fan of Final Fantasy and was crowned "nerd of the year" on our folkhighschool's best of the year ceremony. She is very cool though and she is the kind of girl that never sits with her feet on the ground. Either she curls up in the chair or her feet are on the table. Also, she is very confident in herself and not afraid to be in the spotlight. She is also in a long term - and currently long distance - relationship.

3. Kinda quiet girl. She also goes to my folkhighschool, and she takes the vocal class. She spends a lot of time with her friend - in fact during the whole year only three times have I seen her without her friends around. She has a beautiful voice and likes to perform, but she always seems nervous when she goes on stage. She also have beautiful eyes and a beautiful smile. She doesn't seem nerdy in nature, but her best friend is, and it seems she is gradually converted into a manga-reading Japanophile. She wants to be a psychiatrist. Her favorite colour is purple. She seems to fall in love easily, but never with the guys who like her (such as me).

The only thing I can think of that they have in common is a healthy physique. Not fat, but not too skinny either. Although number 3 does eat very little, so I'm a little worried about her (my mom is a nutrisionist by the way, which might be why I worry about those things).

 

[[Kira Must Die]]

Nice girls, very pretty, smart, short shoulder-length hair, and to an extent, the polar opposite of me.
I also have a thing for blonds, for some reason.

 

[SimuLord]

Just how young are you? And how old are these guys?

I'm 25. My last ex was almost eight years older than me, he was the oldest of any of my exs.

Ahh, women in their mid-twenties going for early-30s guys. Gives my tired old soul hope for a brighter tomorrow (I'm 32).

Also, if she's not smart, then it's an automatic disqualification. If I can't have an intellectual/philosophical discussion with the person I love, then my life sucks ass.

Doesn't that seem to be a bit circular? If you can't have an intellectual/philosophical discussion with someone, how did you fall in love with her? She had nice tits? Because a guy could totally get taken in against his better judgment if an airhead has nice enough tits (I speak from unfortunate experience).

 

[acosn]

Cute over hot, shy over out-going, and nerdy. The capacity to be blunt and understand when I am too helps. Not necessarily a gamer, but someone who's not going to say, "video games? Those are for kids!" and understand why I can play a game for 2 straight hours.

Now, if I could work up the balls to ask one out....

 

[Klarinette]

I don't know why the Hell this happens, but I always fall for someone who's at least a little bit of an asshole. On more than one occasion, I reminded my [now ex] boyfriend, "You can really be an asshole sometimes," to which he replied, "I know." It was never towards me, but still. Ex fiance was an expert asshole. Boy I'm attracted to now is definitely an asshole. I don't get it.

I also like boys with musical inclination. I'm a massive band geek, so being able to at least play an instrument is somewhat crucial for a potential significant other.

I think that's where similarities end in terms of what I've been attracted to. Then there's the basic stuff like sense of humour, trustworthiness, monogamy, etc.

 

[Kiju]

*Points at the Spartans from the movie 300* ...haminah... <3