I guess my biggest one actually happened earlier this year. It involved this girl who's a couple years younger than me. See, she's had this crush on me since we met a few years back. We were alright friends, and actually pretty close for awhile. The one night she caught me rebounding from a pretty brutal betrayal by a really close friend, and "admitted" her feelings to me. I use quotes around admitted because we both knew that I was already aware of them. I was feeling pretty shaky at the time, so I told her that I felt the same.
Now, despite what you may think, we aren't anywhere close to that "I'm going to hell" moment yet. A few days after this conversation, she broke off the relationship, told me that she'd done some thinking and didn't feel the same way about me anymore. Literally, just like that. Didn't even have the decency to tell me in person, or even have a conversation with me about it. She left me a message over Facebook, and that was that. I let it be, and we went back to being friends, because I honestly did not have the strength or presence of mind to fight it out.
Cut to a few months later. We're at a camp, and she's dropping clues that she has feelings for me again. I tell her it's not going to work several times, but I'm still not in my right mind. Technically, for this whole period, I was under treatment for severe sleep-deprivation that had sort of climaxed a week or so before this camp. She knew about that. She actually tried to take advantage of it by making up stories about how I dumped her, and because my memory wasn't working so good, I believed her. A few weeks later, after my surgery and subsequent recovery for said sleep-dep, I realize what a crock of shit she fed me. Our friendship started deteriorating after that.
Finally, cue December of last year. I was doing one of those stupid Facebook "ask me any question in my inbox" games. I hadn't spoken to this girl in a good month, mind you, and I wasn't too disappointed with that prospect. Then she randomly messages me with the question, "Do you miss me?"
I should have just said no. I know I should have just kept it simple. But I was still picking up the pieces of everything she'd done to me(and there was a lot more than what I included here. In all honesty, it was a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship that I'm glad to be out of), and so I gave it to her with both barrels. I told her that there was not a single facet of our relationship that I missed, and that the silence had been so delicious until she'd interrupted it. This escalated into her saying she was better off without me too, and named off five or six people who would always have her back to support this. I had to laugh. This list included a group of people I had just talked to who envied just how distant my relationship with her had become and were looking for a way to do the same. I told her as much, and took it a step further, saying that all her secret fears about people wanting to abandon her, about how nobody wanted to hang out with her, the one's I had talked her out of some many times, they were all true. Nobody liked her. I was just the only person in our circle of friends with the stones to call her out on her BS. I told her she was a cold, manipulative, wretched human being who would inevitably alienate every person she ever knew. I clarified saying that saying that there was an important difference between "knew" and "cared about", because I didn't believe for a second that she could ever actually care for anyone. I said a lot more than that, but I don't have the heart to reprint most of it.
I know I was out of line. I still haven't recovered from some of what she put me through before then, but nobody deserves everything I told her. I've got a talent of sorts for tearing people down, for knowing exactly where to strike to hurt them the most. I hit every last point I could find, and I did it with a sadistic smile. I've since apologized to her, even though everything inside me screams that she isn't worth the words, but I don't think I'll ever forgive myself.