Transgender and gender roles

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Beautiful Tragedy

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Rawne1980 said:
Beautiful Tragedy said:
I was born a man
That must have been one painful birth....

Get it? You said man and not baby meaning fully grown...

It was a funny...

No?

Okay, i'll be leaving then.....
oh i'm gonna slap you! or rather i would but you'd like it ;P

adding an edit here (as i have skimmed the rest of the thread)

gender roles have NOTHING to do with my decision to fix my birth defect. My brain is feminine, my body WAS masculine, I am just trying to align them the best i can. I found a fascinating article the other day i will try and find it for people having difficulty understanding.
 

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Its pretty simple really. In a world where gender roles are completely broken down, we'd still have Gender Identify Disorder. We might not have other Transgener groups like cross dresseres (because their would be no real differnation between what is considered male and female choltes beyond the way its cut), but we'd definitely have Transexuals. Its hard hard thing to convey to people in an age where "artificial beauty" is so chastised, but when you look good you feel good, and you if you look like the opposite sex in your mind, you don't feel good. For transsexuals its pretty fundamental, for other trans people its a wide range of things so it depends. Thats the best I can explain it.

thaluikhain said:
This happens to be a major point for Radical Feminists.

Most RadFems seem to be absurdly transphobic for various reasons, most charitably because the idea of transgenderism is based on the gender binary. OTOH, Dworkin[footnote]Who was very influential amongst radfems, and is notable outside them for being the feminist that you say said something awful when you want to discredit feminism. It's always her for some reason[/footnote] simply believed that once the gender binary was done away with, there'd be no need for transgenderism. IMHO, that's probably an over-simplification (radical feminism is often a bit myopic like that), but nobody can really say for sure.
Is she the same one that said the only reason Transsexuality exists was so men could rape women in female only spaces like public bathrooms? And that Trans people are supported by the patriarchy? Anti-trans feminism says some pretty crazy things, hell one of the prominent ones believed that FtM transsexuals where just a myth.
 

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that was quick! I found it

http://www.cristanwilliams.com/b/2013/01/11/the-missing-link-gender-orientation/

also, it's not gender identity disorder anymore...it's not Gender Disphoria. changes in the DMS V
 

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I do agree gender is a social construct. Personally I am not trans*though I do know a few people on here who are. Greatest people ever. Me personally? Well according to my 'scapist profile I am female. But I change that depending on how I've been mostly feeling. I'm genderfluid. I am neither male nor female all the time. Sometimes I am more one than the other. Other times I am more the other. And then there are times when I am just there. I am neither male nor female. I am just me. And as I get discriminated a lot because I typically present myself as female and I tend to gravitate towards more "male" types of jobs. Because I am good at them. But I get told I can't because I'm female. Or because I don't have this or that to cover up the blatant sexist discrimination that I can sue people for. I think the world would be a lot better if we let people define what they feel they are without any pressure and have no more gender roles period. But that's me living in my fantasy world again...

Personally though from what I understand about trans* people is that THEY feel incomplete themselves. It doesn't always necessarily have something to do with society on why they do/don't transition. It is a huge decision to make and their decision of course. All society does is just make them feel even more inadequate. I could be completely wrong about that but from the ones I've talked to that is the general feeling I've gotten and a few have actually flat out said so. I've been thinking for a while that society needs a huge re-vamp on their feelings as a whole. But again me living in my fantasy world again in which discrimination, racism, bullying, and all that other bull shit doesn't exist and the world itself doesn't exist outside of my head.
 

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Eclectic Dreck said:
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The closest I've come to any sort of consensus is simply that, no matter how far you take the procedure, you won't ever actually be the gender you self identify and as a result I take mild offense when someone attempts to officially identify as something other than their actual gender.
I don't understand. Why would you take offense when it doesn't directly affect you in any way?
It is a statement that I see as being untrue. Biologically, hell, genetically at the least, you are whatever gender you are. That is not mutable. Introducing yourself as something other than what you are because that's what you think you are makes the entire purpose of identifying a gender largely meaningless.

It's the sort of offense you take if someone says "the sky is purple". Basically, I'm rejecting the proposition because the fundamental idea is alien to me.
To be honest, I wouldn't give a shit if I knew someone who genuinely believed that the sky is purple. But don't compare the two. I mean, it's not as if there's any known disorder that makes someone believe the sky to be a different colour than it is.

"Offence" is an odd word to describe something that doesn't even affect you.
 

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Thats awful, I was trying to figure out why it would be a problem until I saw your post. It honestly didn't occur to me that a government agency would behave like that, I figured there would be rules on equality and that a government agency has no right to tell anyone what clothes they should be wearing. You must face so many issues in life like this, I cannot imagine how tough it must be at times.


I'm glad I haven't had to deal with TSA when I fly.

I flew twice when I was still pre-op and fully living as female, but I didn't have any problems, I think it was only because of where I was flying to and from. Both times I was flying from Montreal (Canada) to London (England) and back. The only comment I had was when leaving Montreal the first time, the check in person looked at my passport and said "This says female, was that a mistake?" (My passport had my current photo), I just responded "I'm working on it", got back an "Oh, okay", and checked me in. Every other time I showed my ID there wasn't even a flicker of "Huh, what'?" in the eyes of the person looking at them. I just don't think a lot of them even bother looking at the sex marker on an ID most of the time?

I'm glad though that for the flights I didn't have to go through a full body scanner. (I don't even know if Montreal has any, maybe for the american bound flights? They're in a different section that the rest of the international flights)
 

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Nice to see you had no problems, the TSA do seem to be the bane of any traveler that flies to or out of the US but even more so for things that should be private or treated with understanding.
 

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I think you should visit India which if I recall right recognizes 4 genders. (That is officially!). They all have their position in the society.


But the issue here with the idea of "Female Man" or "Male Female". Is language cultural. We have certain definitions that can be considered absolute, on which we construct the ideas of other words and with that we can understand concepts and meanings of words.
Issue here is that genetically "Male" and "Female" are quite absolute. It can be defined at the most meta-level of human biology, in the DNA. This is a fact we can not escape, unless we come up with new words for "male" and "female".
It is very much like "positive" and "negative", + and -, They are absolute and we cant escape their meaning without creating a paradox of language.

For example:
If there can be a "male female". Then what is the definition - meta - of "male". Unless we have a concept for this we can not define "male female". And what is female then? How can male be female, while still being male?

If you been reading even a bit about language philosophy you can understand how the infinity loop, paradox, begins. If X is Y, then Y is X, X = X, Y = Y, Y = X... How is it possible to create understandable concept that we can use as language references.

Ofc this is just cultural concept here.(Culture being philosophical jargon that holds in all aspects of society, language, culture, history, words, religion, concepts... etc...)

I will sadly not dwell in to the social aspects of this issue. Mainly because I believe that there is no male or female, but human. We are all humans and that should be only defining feature that we have!

On personal note: I believe people in general are shit (including me), this society is shit, this world is shit. The humanity is stupid and primitive. So I don't believe there will be a huge cultural revolution over a VERY SMALL minority. I wish there could, but it is just Utophistic thinking.

"I wish for the humanity to be fixed, for the ground to be healed, for the sky to be mended and that life wouldn't hurt. But this is only a dream and should remain as such, dreams are as important as the reality. They both need each other, both must exist."

The last paragraph from the last letter a local philosopher wrote before sleeping away. I respected him dearly. If we all could be as wise as he was... But we can't.
 

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Beautiful Tragedy said:
oh i'm gonna slap you! or rather i would but you'd like it ;P
Who?

Me?

Nooooo...

Slapping is the worst punishment I could possibly think of, please don't do that, THE HORROR.

Now, i'll just be stripping so you can slap away to your hearts content :)
 

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Seeing as a lot of the deconstructive payload of 'gender politics' is rooted in feminism, which, in turn, is currently still held hostage by people intent on transforming society and bring about the post-nazi übermensch, I find it quite hard to even attempt to contribute something worthwhile to this thread that doesn't completely derail or blow up one way or another.

Just these random thoughts off the top of my head:

My love and respect encompasses people of all sexual orientations and gender-politics-conformist stances, even though I believe gender politics to be some of the most disruptive, evil crap since Lebensborn.

Gender outlaws and 'third sex' folks already exist, most of them you have to pay cash to get straight access to the naughty bits, though. All this does not even touch the subject of intersexed children, which still tend to get thrown into the LGBT bin, for whatever stupid reasons.

Oh, and then there's the fact that an alarming lot of feminists have a very hostile stance towards transsexuals, and a lot of gay guys are completely unable to 'get it'. Just the other day, there was a piece on Jezebel that called for non-lesbians to be outright banned from gay bars. The LGBT community isn't exactly one big, loving family, and when you throw hardcore feminism into the mix, tick-tock goes the clock and it's 1933 Nazi Germany or Stalin era Russia all over again. Both are not exactly known for featuring lots of liberties or self-service buckets of love for non-conformists.

So, I think a current issue on my mind that manages to get right on topic does a far better job than I currently could:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2261756/Council-worker-refused-believe-transsexual-woman-row-parking-fine.html

Further reading (3 years back):
http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2010/02/01/trans-woman-told-it-was-illegal-for-her-to-use-womens-toilets/

Read it. Think about it. Put yourself in her shoes, no matter who or what you are. See what her issues are specific to the case outlined in the article. See if 'gender politics' address her issues properly. See if a gender neutral society would really be a place where she would have it... easier. I think not. Destroying traditional gender roles is not the path to a better tomorrow. Weeding out the evil and the assholes and the intolerance within each and every one of us is... or could be, at least. But how to go about it? I have no clue. Do you?
 

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Aaron Sylvester said:
Even our brains (by which I mean most "normal" brains) are incredibly hard-wired to subconsciously associate EVERY person we meet with their gender first. Age is a close second, but gender always comes first.
Can you prove this?
 

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Rawne1980 said:
Beautiful Tragedy said:
oh i'm gonna slap you! or rather i would but you'd like it ;P
Who?

Me?

Nooooo...

Slapping is the worst punishment I could possibly think of, please don't do that, THE HORROR.

Now, i'll just be stripping so you can slap away to your hearts content :)

OK I am glad we are on the same page at least
 

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I'm trans, MtF. I also fit totally comfortably into the male gender role. I sit around on the internet all day, playing competitive online games and swearing at people, socialise with my friends by insulting them and making dick jokes, I play D&D and Magic and Warhammer 40K and I like moves with explosions and swords and guns and superheroes killing nameless mooks by the dozen. I've never really given a shit about anything 'girly' except for My Little Pony, but that too is a guy thing nowadays. I'd be absolutely miserable if I had to spend my whole life doing what society deems is feminine, and plan on continuing to act generally masculine for the rest of my life. I still want to be female though, for reasons totally unrelated to gender roles. So no, I don't think that eliminating gender roles would really change much. Facial hair isn't a social construct sadly, it won't just go away if I stop believing in it.
 

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Well I've got absolutely nothing to add to this discussion. But still it was an interesting and enlightening read.
 

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The metaphor I'd developed (even though I have NO idea if it's accurate or not) is that of ghost limbs. When someone's brain is telling them that something is supposed to be there (or not be there, as the case may be), but the physical reality runs contrary to those signals. Obviously in this case the physical pain that ghost limbs create would be likened to the emotional pain that trans individuals feel.

What I have to wonder is, if someone who was born with this affliction was born on an island with no real conception of gender, would they have the same desire to physically "become" a female? Would they still feel even a vague sense of dissatisfaction with their bodies?
 

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drisky said:
thaluikhain said:
This happens to be a major point for Radical Feminists.

Most RadFems seem to be absurdly transphobic for various reasons, most charitably because the idea of transgenderism is based on the gender binary. OTOH, Dworkin[footnote]Who was very influential amongst radfems, and is notable outside them for being the feminist that you say said something awful when you want to discredit feminism. It's always her for some reason[/footnote] simply believed that once the gender binary was done away with, there'd be no need for transgenderism. IMHO, that's probably an over-simplification (radical feminism is often a bit myopic like that), but nobody can really say for sure.
Is she the same one that said the only reason Transsexuality exists was so men could rape women in female only spaces like public bathrooms? And that Trans people are supported by the patriarchy? Anti-trans feminism says some pretty crazy things, hell one of the prominent ones believed that FtM transsexuals where just a myth.
No...radical feminists tend to follow Dworkin on most things, but they got their transphobia on their own. There's one or two things she said that can (and are) taken out of context, though.
 

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So what are your thoughts on this whole can of worms I may've opened?
Personally, I see no point in denying the point-of-view of transgendered people or trying to tell them they're wrong or the hundred other mountains of bullshit the TG community faces everyday, most of which boil down to saying "no, you're wrong and don't know your own experiences".

FUCK. THAT. NOISE.

And the bullshit of telling TG people what they are and what they aren't... fuck that as well.

It's all the insecurities of other people having things harder and it's a load of shite. We're all people and should be treated as such, without bullshit judgements and without trying to cram other people into convenient box for our own piece of mind. Are our societies so weak that they need to make everyone conform to these strict, constraining, sometimes utterly and destructivelty inappropriate labels? Because if they are, I would say that the problem is withour societies not with the people who make them uncomfortable by being who they are or who they want to be?

I mean, shit, isn't striving to be who you feel you should be one of the most fundamental goals for humanity?

Or as Gandhi said "be the change you want to see in the world"
 

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Relish in Chaos said:
Eclectic Dreck said:
Uhura said:
Eclectic Dreck said:
The closest I've come to any sort of consensus is simply that, no matter how far you take the procedure, you won't ever actually be the gender you self identify and as a result I take mild offense when someone attempts to officially identify as something other than their actual gender.
I don't understand. Why would you take offense when it doesn't directly affect you in any way?
It is a statement that I see as being untrue. Biologically, hell, genetically at the least, you are whatever gender you are. That is not mutable. Introducing yourself as something other than what you are because that's what you think you are makes the entire purpose of identifying a gender largely meaningless.

It's the sort of offense you take if someone says "the sky is purple". Basically, I'm rejecting the proposition because the fundamental idea is alien to me.
To be honest, I wouldn't give a shit if I knew someone who genuinely believed that the sky is purple. But don't compare the two. I mean, it's not as if there's any known disorder that makes someone believe the sky to be a different colour than it is.

"Offence" is an odd word to describe something that doesn't even affect you.
Their choice to change their gender as much a possible neither affects not offends me. Their choice to lie about their gender, something that is thus far immutable, is what causes offense. A perception of gender and a gender may be different things - I can respect that. But if I ask what someone's gender is, chances are very good I want to know what the actual gender is not their perception.