Eri said:
The site is just so stupid. Not even talking about the ugly people thing. Good looking people DON'T NEED a dating site to find another person. I'm sure they get asked out like every other day. I know several girls who are just -moderately- attractive and they get asked out all the time when they are at work. And that's just at work.
Bingo.
I don't socialize but I've seen two seriously attractive women come through my workplace. To set some context, the boss is an overweight middle-aged man with two delinquent teenage kids, an unhappy home life, and a sour old hippo of a wife. He's not an evil man but he *is* a prime candidate for affairs and/or harassment.
The first of these women was a stupid, lazy, loud-mouthed *****. However, because she was also six feet of slender raven-haired beauty, two of the guys developed serious crushes on her despite her personality. She got away with shit on a daily basis that would have gotten anyone else fired, mostly because the boss liked looking at her ass. To this day I wonder if she gave him quickies in the restroom to keep her job.
The other was pleasant, helpful, and one of the finest workers I've ever seen. As a reward for this she was subjected to sexual harassment from the boss for most of the time she was there. This is not a rumor, I personally witnessed it on multiple occasions. Yes, she was pretty, with a fondness for painted-on pants. But smooth, naturally bronzed skin and an indescribable ass are not grounds for having that ass repeatedly grabbed by a horny doofus old enough to be your father.
Yes, I am aware not all men are like this. I myself am not. Not all men harass their female subordinates, either. Nor is harassment one-way. It's just mostly one-way.
The issue is control. Some guys control themselves and some don't. The problem at the heart of it, I think, is that many guys aren't even willing to try. Employing the unutterably flimsy excuse that they "can't control themselves," they gleefully abandon any notion of control, becoming the kind of knuckle-dragging cat-callers that give my gender a bad name. And they're so deep inside this problem they can't even see it as a problem. Guys have called me a ****** for looking away when a pretty woman came in to my work. This is how deep it goes. Many men are so shallow, so into themselves, not only do they not control themselves, they think extending women a small measure of courtesy is seriously aberrant, deviant behavior, deserving only of ridicule.
Edit: But then, what do I know? Being courteous never did anything for me. [foreveralone.jpg]
