Wanting another guy's girl

[trooper6]

Oh trooper6, you and your adequate social adjustment, LMAO, i keed i keed. But thanks for the advice .

*tips hat* No problem. I just bet that you are an awesome guy who deserves better than a girl who's already in a relationship.

 

[Baby Tea]

So have you guys ever had an experience like this / are experiencing this?

Yup.
Even went out on a limb and told her how I felt, and tried to get her to be with me instead.
Didn't work.

You learn quick that no matter how much you like someone, they may not reciprocate those feelings, or even if they DO like you back (As in my case), that doesn't mean they don't like their current boyfriend more. So that's how it went.

They are still together, as far as I know, and I'm now married to my amazing wife. So, frankly, I'm glad that didn't work. And I'm glad I got over it, too. I was able to meet and fall in love with someone who is a better person in every way. Can't complain about that, can I?

So my advice? Just tell her. She digs the idea? Away you go.
If not? Respect that, and respect her and back off. You don't get everything you want even when you really really want it.

 

[MakerOfRoads]

No, you do not "Give fair warning" about COMMITTING ASSAULT! If you think that you might hospitalise or KILL someone FOR ANY REASON. Then you need to seek professional help.

I may be a scumbag, but if you think that putting a guy in the hospital is in ANY way justified, then you are not only a scumbag, you are also a psycho.

If your trying to justify sleeping with someone else's mate, then yes you are a scumbag.

And the reason for the fair warning isn't to feel justified when the assault happens, it's there as a reminder. I don't just say to a woman, "Baby, if you cheat on me, I'm going to kill the guy.", its more in depth than that. I would rather be dumped at the first inkling that she may be unfaithful, and that is the idea I would like to give to my mate. The punishment for which is something soo absurd, that it makes an impression.

Does this make me a psycho?

Possibly.

Does it mean I'm not actively seeking professional help?

Certainly not.

But the reality of the situation is, everyone who your girlfriend sleeps with besides you while your dating may or may not share the same personal flaws as me, or possibly be more far gone than I.

Food for thought.

 

[Hoplon]

Hey everyone,

I certainly hope I'm not the only one who is in this boat. There's a girl who I'm pretty much besotted with but she's been in a really long relationship with another guy that doesn't look like it will end any time soon.

Anyway, I'm good friends with this guy so I would never want those two to break up as they're really good together, but at the same time I really wish I was with her.

So have you guys ever had an experience like this / are experiencing this?

P.S - Girls, I know this can work the other way round too, it would be good to get your thoughts too.

Just because there is a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score.

 

[Madara XIII]

Yeah, it's tricky. My advice though; leave it be.

I was there, their relationship went rocky, I had sex with her and though that everything was going my way. It wasn't. My friend resented me, she turned me down, and they got back together a short while afterwards.

Everything's very awkward around either of them now.

^ THIS times 1000

As the saying goes "Bros before hoes"

 

[Madara XIII]

Bros before hoes, depending on how close you are.

Dammnit! Ninja'd!

 

[Kris015]

This happens for me too.. Every fucking time!

 

[Griffolion]

Hey everyone,

I certainly hope I'm not the only one who is in this boat. There's a girl who I'm pretty much besotted with but she's been in a really long relationship with another guy that doesn't look like it will end any time soon.

Anyway, I'm good friends with this guy so I would never want those two to break up as they're really good together, but at the same time I really wish I was with her.

So have you guys ever had an experience like this / are experiencing this?

P.S - Girls, I know this can work the other way round too, it would be good to get your thoughts too.

Just because there is a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score.

Haha, this made me laugh out loud, literally .

 

[Brad Shepard]

Hey everyone,

I certainly hope I'm not the only one who is in this boat. There's a girl who I'm pretty much besotted with but she's been in a really long relationship with another guy that doesn't look like it will end any time soon.

Anyway, I'm good friends with this guy so I would never want those two to break up as they're really good together, but at the same time I really wish I was with her.

So have you guys ever had an experience like this / are experiencing this?

P.S - Girls, I know this can work the other way round too, it would be good to get your thoughts too.

Ho boy, Ive been here, (Thank god not now though, no offence) It can be rough, trust me, but if it doesent look like its going to end, its best to move on, your only causing yourself pain and problems by thinking there might be a chance with her. (This comming from the guy whos dated at least 3 of his friend's exs) its never worth it.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Excellent taste, good sir.

Find someone else? That probably the best possible way of getting over this kind of thing. I've never been in a situation like this myself, but I like to think I wouldn't do anything dishonourable.

He was in the hospital for quite a while.

Sure.

 

[MakerOfRoads]

I'm not justifying sleeping with a mate's girl. I'm justifying taking a girl from a mate.

I would never sleep with a girl who is still in a relationship, but i have no quarrels with convincing a girl to leave her guy.

I'm sure your friends would be very happy to know this.

Sure fire way to show your appreciation to your good friends, convince the woman they love that they would be better off without them.

And you say I have no right to preach about morals...

 

[UltraBlumpkin]

Go for it! No regrets!

 

[Woodsey]

Bros before hoes, depending on how close you are.

Why choose one, when you can have both?

I said "depending on how close", and it's gotta be pretty close.

 

[MarlaminLTarmiko]

Oh if only polyamory was common practice. Anyway, It would seem from your description the girl in question is quite happy in her current situation, so I'd say leave it and pursue someone/thing else.

 

[stabnex]

Been there. Done that. Took her. Lost her. Now she's a complete slut who's into abusive guys.

 

[Kathinka]

Hey everyone,

I certainly hope I'm not the only one who is in this boat. There's a girl who I'm pretty much besotted with but she's been in a really long relationship with another guy that doesn't look like it will end any time soon.

Anyway, I'm good friends with this guy so I would never want those two to break up as they're really good together, but at the same time I really wish I was with her.

So have you guys ever had an experience like this / are experiencing this?

P.S - Girls, I know this can work the other way round too, it would be good to get your thoughts too.

been there, seen it, with reversed gender though, obviously.

when i was 16 i met this guy when on holliday at the see. i know it's horrible, horrible kitsch, but this love at first sight thingie? that's exactly what happened to me. i looked at him and i knew in the first second i had to be with him.
after talking to him for a bit however it turned out that he had this girlfriend, since two years. the most gorgeous, cutest thing, tall, long legs, thin, beautyfull raven black hair, imaculate skin, perfect breasts. so, frankly i thought that i was screwed. still, i talked to him. and no clue how i did it, but still the same day i somehow talked him into being with me.

it's been six years now that i tricked him into this relationship, we're still together and i'm happyer every day that i have him.

so, tl;dr: go for it, talk to her, if you think she's worth it. it can work, worst thing that can happen is that everything remains in status quo .

 

[Count Igor]

I'm in a similar situation myself except that my friend's boyfriend isn't really a friend of mine. I still don't want to break them up though. They might break up on their own though. They were very close about a month ago. I'll just wait and see like I've always have. I've fancied her for a long time but she's always had a boyfriend in one form or another. So I've never really been able to get my foot in the door so to speak.

Wow. That is, word for word, EXACTLY the same as me!
Life-Snap!

OT: Joo gotta plant drugs in his pocket! That way they get broken up, aye? ...

Obviously kidding. Stop tat. Waste of good drugs.
Kidding again!