What non-physical things attracts you to a girl/guy?

[Gudrests]

Intelligence......
Not trying to sound like a dick but stupidity is a serious turn off for me.
I'm not saying she has to be the female version of Stephen Hawking but some common sense and not being your stereotypical air head blonde would be great!

Be glad you do not live on Staten Island my friend....You wanna see dumb...WELCOME TO STATEN ISLAND....We BROUGHT 2 of the Jersey shore characters from this island. (granted Vinny is probably the smartest one there(not saying much) but...also the other one.)

 

[Secret world leader (shhh)]

A girl who can provide me with intelligent and engaging conversation and has lots in common with me in terms of interests and personality.

 

[Mister K]

Well, I like girls who are a bit shy, kind and wise.

 

[Agarth]

If her alignment is either True Neutral or Neutral Evil. If a girl is either of these alignments she probably isn't doing something "for the greater good of man kind."

 

[idodo35]

mostly personality
like if someone is cheerfull it can be very atractive in my opinion cause it makes her fun to be around
on the outher end if someone has a deep slightly darker personality it can be a great thing to cause it makes it much easier to conect on a deeper level...
also laugh can be a very atractive thing it can make a person so much more fun to hang with/ date

 

[Antagonist86]

Intelligence, a deep sense of self awareness and self esteem (not arrogance more in the way of total acceptance of who a person is, for themselves).

I want a girl, to be truly 'in love' with themselves, because only if one accepts oneself completely as they are, saying 'I love you' is a gift, before that it's a burden.




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Needless to say, I am single.

 

[Mr.Numbers]

My girlfriend is nice, slightly Emo...Very quirky, excellent personality and a total nerd.

Expert archer/swordfighter, D&D legend, Leather worker WINK and amazing shot in paintball and laser skirmish.

SIGHHHHHhhhhhh

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I very much like people who will not put up with my ornery bullshit.
Because they stay the fuck away from me.

Hateboners etc.

 

[trollnystan]

Sense of humour, definitely; preferably one that gets my own special brand. Kind, empathic, but tough enough that he won't take shit from anyone - including me.

 

[Sgt. Dante]

Intelligence......
Not trying to sound like a dick but stupidity is a serious turn off for me.
I'm not saying she has to be the female version of Stephen Hawking but some common sense and not being your stereotypical air head blonde would be great!

I'm with you, I dated an idiot once... I just couldn't spend any time with her, conversations were labourious at best.

 

[thenumberthirteen]

Hidden mental psychosis. It seems every girl I like, or get in a relationship with ends up having deep seated problems. Either they were abused, are drug addicts, bipolar, nymphomaniacs, or a combination therein.

These things don't turn me on (far from it), and it's not something I look for in a partner, but I just end up with people like that. My best, female, friend (who's a former addict and abuse victim) says it's because I'm too caring, but I think it's just that nobody else wants to go out with me.

 

[GLo Jones]

Intelligence......
Not trying to sound like a dick but stupidity is a serious turn off for me.
I'm not saying she has to be the female version of Stephen Hawking but some common sense and not being your stereotypical air head blonde would be great!

I'm with you, I dated an idiot once... I just couldn't spend any time with her, conversations were labourious at best.

I too suffered through this, though I wouldn't mind her not being intelligent as long as she had wit. I like some kind of banter between me and my partner.

 

[pyrokin]

Well I'm sure like most of the people on Escapist, I'd want her to at least be somewhat interested in games. Just an overall acceptable personality really. We should also have stuff in common of course

 

[Belated]

I like a girl who likes anime. And video games. If she's into those things, I'm gonna get excited about her immediately. Provided she's not fat. (I know you said nothing physical, but if a girl is obese, my mind automatically rules her out.) I need a girl who can share my interests. A girl who likes the way "Halo Legends" moves me to tears. A girl who plays Co-op with me. So if a girl shares my interests, I usually like her almost immediately because my mind jumps too "Alright, this girl is gonna be fun!" And as I'm writing this, I'm reminded of this song. [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiqmZLOaD8o]

 

[Thamian]

I generally quote my holy trinity: 'Heart of gold, spine of steel, mind like lightning' but well... That's not really accurate. Certainly, intelligence is a must, and being a decent person is the same.

The strength bit is a bit of a odd one since most of the girl's I've loved have been well... hellacious bitches. Certainly towards anyone that tangled with them or theirs, and often towards just about anyone they didn't much care for. But the most recent one (lets call her Jen) is very different. Yes, may the gods have mercy on those who cross her,and she's still a tower of strength to her friends when they need one, but in a very different way to the others. While the others tended to be direct in their methods, Jen works on the assumption that she has no strength (one of the gentlest, nicest girls you'll ever meet) and so achieves similar effects via manipulation, misdirection and misinformation.

I'm not sure where I'm going with this but...

 

[CorinthianRed]

Being able to talk about similar or dissimilar interests is a good start. Enjoys people, would have to like going to concerts of the prog-rock, metal, rap, and jazz varieties.
And be huggable. That hug part is reeeeeeealy important.

 

[ReaperGrimm]

I'll just sum up everything with one word "personality" a good one, and I want to spend time with them, bad one, and I won't

More or less whats written above.

 

[EcstaticObsessive]

I'd really like a guy who's intelligent, funny and good hearted. Sounds really cliche, I know, but still.

I want someone carefree. Someone I can sit down and have an intelligent conversation with sometimes, and kick back and have a good laugh at other times. Those are my main things, at least.

Then you've got the small stuff, like being understanding and confident. Outgoing, someone who can make me laugh and cheer me up when I'm feeling down.

Of course, I don't want to give myself some high standard that all must males must reach for me to consider being more than friends. I'll be happy with someone who's sweet, smart and funny c:

 

[Knusper]

Intelligence is really the number one factor for me. That and being into gaming.

 

[Xaio30]

Sincere, open-minded, the ability to appreciate books.
(I've had enough of people my age screaming "BOOKS SUX!")