Intelligence, good judgement/reliabillity, not afraid to be direct and blunt, a few shared hobbies. Tolerance for dark humour or hell we wouldn't even be able to be friends X D
What non-physical things attracts you to a girl/guy?
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A nice girl that is independent, strong willed and have hobbies that I also have or at last find interesting
Kind, caring, feels empathy (strongly), does not try to follow the current trends in all things, does not care about popularity, has a sense of humour (doesn't have to be great, but MUST be there, especially for my style of absurd writing humour and analogies), a little bit crazy, not a daredevil. Good romantic and quite flirtatious. And again on the kind and warm, I don't take coldness well 
Also, relatively intelligent, I do not want to go out with someone who is not going to understand me.
But they do exist, just gotta look
Also, relatively intelligent, I do not want to go out with someone who is not going to understand me.
You are, but they are out there, I would know as my girlfriend fits thosegothic wolf said:For personality: quirky, cute and intresting to talk to, have simialr intrests as myself, and must have some intelligence. (i dont mean she has to be a brainbox but smart enough to understand the long technical words i have a tendency to use in a conversation)Not looking for much am I?
But they do exist, just gotta look 
Does 'voice' count? Physically, a great smile. Eyes to go with it. Hair. Mm.
Honesty, a great sense of humor, relaxed, fun going without a need to constantly be having fun, down to Earth. Someone who appreciates if I spend money on them rather than expects me to.
Someone who makes me happy.
Honesty, a great sense of humor, relaxed, fun going without a need to constantly be having fun, down to Earth. Someone who appreciates if I spend money on them rather than expects me to.
Someone who makes me happy.
I really wanted to post that, but it would probably get me banned, so thanks!MiracleOfSound said:
On topic, I like women who are soft spoken and not too controversial. I guess I've reached an age where I avoid relationships that are too crazy and intense, and I really hate fighting over small, meaningless things. A caring demeanour and a rich emotional side are also a must, I'm tired of dating robots. That's pretty much everything. I honestly don't care about the physical aspect, except for extreme cases. Physical attraction is a fragile, ephemeral thing. When it's gone, all you are left with is chemistry.
Intelligence and scientific worldview are the most attractive qualities in a woman. They can be as physically attractive as can be (my idea of a physically attractive woman is petite and feminine) but if they have no brains, I'm not interested.
And I have been attracted to women I wouldn't if I just saw their photo or something because they have intelligence and have challenged me intellectually.
That's another thing, someone who would be straight with me and challenge me if they think I'm wrong (and support that argument with logic and facts).
Also liking animals and nature, although that might be less that it's attractive and more a quality I'd like to have in a partner for practical reasons.
And I have been attracted to women I wouldn't if I just saw their photo or something because they have intelligence and have challenged me intellectually.
That's another thing, someone who would be straight with me and challenge me if they think I'm wrong (and support that argument with logic and facts).
Also liking animals and nature, although that might be less that it's attractive and more a quality I'd like to have in a partner for practical reasons.
I like when they're witty, and funny, smart, and serious when they need/have to be. Kindhearted, understanding, compassionate, has empathy, is emotional but strong. Those are some things that I like about a girl, but I also like the sound of their laughter because it relaxes me and makes me happy. And if they're shy it's a total plus because I find that to be extremely cute.
Another thing is that I'm attracted to how a person spells and what words they use; I guess I like their grammar.
I feel lucky enough to have a girlfriend who fits pretty much all of those things.
Playing games is a plus, too, but it's not important--so is music.
Another thing is that I'm attracted to how a person spells and what words they use; I guess I like their grammar.
I feel lucky enough to have a girlfriend who fits pretty much all of those things.
Playing games is a plus, too, but it's not important--so is music.
I like when I have something in common with guys. I am a big music-geek and I like LARPing, Cosplay, Manga ect. So if a guy stuff like that (or maybe just one of them) we have something to talk about, which for me is very important.
And besides that, I have a big accent-thing XD Personally LOVE the sound of English (I am danish myself), so American, Brittish, Irish, Scottish accents just sounds GREAT in my ear :3 BRING THEM ON! (My bf is from the north west so I'd say that that is the cutest of them all )
And besides that, I have a big accent-thing XD Personally LOVE the sound of English (I am danish myself), so American, Brittish, Irish, Scottish accents just sounds GREAT in my ear :3 BRING THEM ON! (My bf is from the north west so I'd say that that is the cutest of them all
)Non-physically, I basically only require four things: a relatively stable personality (i.e. one that does not require habitual anti-depressant, anti-anxiety etc. meds), a love of all things entertaining and bad that piss off reviewers of pretty much every form of media, being absolutely hilarious, and a willingness to have sex with me prior to marriage.
She can't be an idiot, and she needs to have a sense of humour that is compatible with mine.
Also, and this seems to be by far my biggest problem in getting a girl, she can't think of spending time with me as a chore.
Also, and this seems to be by far my biggest problem in getting a girl, she can't think of spending time with me as a chore.
Confidence without the creepy (EX: told a guy I was a teacher and he immediately said, "Can I be your student?"...note, this was the FIRST conversation I'd had with him) or the typical big man ego commonly found with douchebags. I've had guys on both ends of the spectrum flirt with me, rarely getting anyone who is just seemingly normal.
Yes, I understand that talking to the opposite sex romantically is difficult, but most girls will not bite your friggin heads off. Seriously...
Confidence is the most important thing to me, but some minor details are:
-They have to be a bit nerdy, but not ENTIRELY engrossed with fandom. Guys that own nothing but figurines and DVDs are a turn off. I want someone who likes exploring the world, eating fine food (i.e: not top ramen every night), camping on the beach: basically, getting out once in a while. I'm not really much of a drinker, but I would love to be able to walk in and say, "Let's go dancing!" and him jump up and be ready to go for a night on the town.
-Basic grammar skills. I'm an English major and horrible grammar just is a big pet peeve.
-Good dress sense. No, I don't want a guy that owns nothing but suits...but I really like seeing guys who are well put together. Suits ARE hot and starched white button-ups with ties are smoldering. He can keep his nerd shirts and jeans, but sometimes...can I not be the only one to get dolled up? Please?
-Smart, but not so smart that he's a complete dick to those of lower IQs, or one of those people who 'thinks' they are smarter than everyone else just because they know how to use the internet/memes/4chan/etc. I've dated both and it's not fun.
Yes, I understand that talking to the opposite sex romantically is difficult, but most girls will not bite your friggin heads off. Seriously...
Confidence is the most important thing to me, but some minor details are:
-They have to be a bit nerdy, but not ENTIRELY engrossed with fandom. Guys that own nothing but figurines and DVDs are a turn off. I want someone who likes exploring the world, eating fine food (i.e: not top ramen every night), camping on the beach: basically, getting out once in a while. I'm not really much of a drinker, but I would love to be able to walk in and say, "Let's go dancing!" and him jump up and be ready to go for a night on the town.
-Basic grammar skills. I'm an English major and horrible grammar just is a big pet peeve.
-Good dress sense. No, I don't want a guy that owns nothing but suits...but I really like seeing guys who are well put together. Suits ARE hot and starched white button-ups with ties are smoldering. He can keep his nerd shirts and jeans, but sometimes...can I not be the only one to get dolled up? Please?
-Smart, but not so smart that he's a complete dick to those of lower IQs, or one of those people who 'thinks' they are smarter than everyone else just because they know how to use the internet/memes/4chan/etc. I've dated both and it's not fun.