I usually like nerdy and alt girls. They usually have more in common with me and that is always something. As for guys, I tend to like the more effeminate type. If the guy likes to cross dress, thats a major plus for me.
What qualitys do you like about a girl/boy?
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Sure thing.ObsidianJones said:
Short girls are used to getting jabbed at for their height, never being able to reach things, having to stand on chairs for everything--and people make little side comments and it's kind of a pain.
Until we get older and discover that guys are very tall and can do all those things that we can't and that they seem to think it's absolutely adorable that we can't reach the top of the refrigerator--but they can.
So, comments about being short change subtly. It's no longer an insult/jab but becomes something to joke/talk/flirt about. A lot of women are brought up to be self-conscious about how they look and so it's kind of nice to hear--whether she's insecure or whether she isn't--that something about her is appreciated.
But--this only works with particular people. I do the same thing, smartass nicknames from people I am indifferent about or comments from other women (especially other women, because relations between women can be complicated) are always taken with a grain or salt, a bracing smile or annoyance.
But men have this way of making short women feel like they are happy that she is small; like he feels like she is cute. And with a guy she can trust, she can come to enjoy it. Not necessarily because she knows he will 'protect' her (though he well might), but that she knows that she doesn't have to have her guard up around him.
Gosh, sorry for the rambling, what it comes down to--basically, is an issue of vulnerability. A tall guy who is trustworthy makes a short lady feel small but safe--like he thinks it's a good thing instead of something to make fun of her about.
Just from my experience anyway.
Rambling is just the act of stringing along thoughts to some sort of covalent structure. Think nothing of it and please accept my sincerest thanks your attempts to enlighten me.historybuff said:Sure thing.ObsidianJones said:
Short girls are used to getting jabbed at for their height, never being able to reach things, having to stand on chairs for everything--and people make little side comments and it's kind of a pain.
Until we get older and discover that guys are very tall and can do all those things that we can't and that they seem to think it's absolutely adorable that we can't reach the top of the refrigerator--but they can.
So, comments about being short change subtly. It's no longer an insult/jab but becomes something to joke/talk/flirt about. A lot of women are brought up to be self-conscious about how they look and so it's kind of nice to hear--whether she's insecure or whether she isn't--that something about her is appreciated.
But--this only works with particular people. I do the same thing, smartass nicknames from people I am indifferent about or comments from other women (especially other women, because relations between women can be complicated) are always taken with a grain or salt, a bracing smile or annoyance.
But men have this way of making short women feel like they are happy that she is small; like he feels like she is cute. And with a guy she can trust, she can come to enjoy it. Not necessarily because she knows he will 'protect' her (though he well might), but that she knows that she doesn't have to have her guard up around him.
Gosh, sorry for the rambling, what it comes down to--basically, is an issue of vulnerability. A tall guy who is trustworthy makes a short lady feel small but safe--like he thinks it's a good thing instead of something to make fun of her about.
Just from my experience anyway.
However, I'm chagrined to say I understand less by understanding and I'm probably going to end up alone if female thought processes and mine variety to such a degree.
I'll be over there in the corner, hugging my 360 and hoping it will never leave me.
I know at least 2 things a girl needs for me to fall in love with her:
- Like me for who I am. Embrace my nerdyness (not necceserily share them, although that would be a huuuge plus), things like that.
- I need to be able to have an intelligent conversation with her.
As for the rest, I honestly can't tell, I don't have specifics. I think I can only tell when I actually meet her.
- Like me for who I am. Embrace my nerdyness (not necceserily share them, although that would be a huuuge plus), things like that.
- I need to be able to have an intelligent conversation with her.
As for the rest, I honestly can't tell, I don't have specifics. I think I can only tell when I actually meet her.
You can only swagger if you're wearing leather~Monkfish Acc. said:
Haha, it's okay. Don't worry.
I'm glad to know that my expectations are not crazy.
Guys are naturally taller and bigger than girls. It makes them feel safe at a basic level. Other girls that are taller than them are competition and makes them aware of their short comings.ObsidianJones said:
Besides, it's kinda sad to have a guy shorter than you. For her to have a guy taller than her he'd only need to be 5'3/4 which is very short by male standards.
At least this is what i attribute it to. I suppose i can't really answer on the behalf of women everywhere (especially as i'm male)
A girl that i can hold a conversation with about anything, Even if its very random and retarded.
I like also that she has a good music taste (aka similar to mine). I like skinnier girls, i'm not that much into overweight girls.
I can deal with some overweight. but when girl got a bigger belly then me i get jealous.
Musical talent is a huge plus, even if it's only a good singing voice.
They also have to respect me and my nerdyness
Also LOYAL... I had 5 real girlfriends. 2 of them cheated on me. Yay >.>
I also like them being unique in some way. Piercings, Tattoos, Different clothing taste. Or just a non-airhead personality.
Bottom line. A girl that i can have a fun time with and enjoy life.
I like also that she has a good music taste (aka similar to mine). I like skinnier girls, i'm not that much into overweight girls.
I can deal with some overweight. but when girl got a bigger belly then me i get jealous.
Musical talent is a huge plus, even if it's only a good singing voice.
They also have to respect me and my nerdyness
Also LOYAL... I had 5 real girlfriends. 2 of them cheated on me. Yay >.>
I also like them being unique in some way. Piercings, Tattoos, Different clothing taste. Or just a non-airhead personality.
Bottom line. A girl that i can have a fun time with and enjoy life.
A lot of people say this just to "Get Some", but I truly do not care what a woman looks like. My favorite qualities of a woman are..
-Must be funny
-Know when to joke and when to be serious
-Understand that there are some things that I have to do, even though I don't want to
-Must be a hugger. Necessary.
-Trustworthy. I should be able to not worry if she's out at a club at 2:30 in the morning
-Have a brain in her head.
-Not be a fanatic. If I say I'm christian, then I am. Going to a fancy building once a week does not make me more of a christian. If you aren't a christian, then that's okay, we just won't talk about religion.
-A plus if you have similar musical/general tastes.
Now, that's not to say there isn't "Love at first sight", because there is, it happened to me. It also does not mean my wife is ugly. Hell no.
-Must be funny
-Know when to joke and when to be serious
-Understand that there are some things that I have to do, even though I don't want to
-Must be a hugger. Necessary.
-Trustworthy. I should be able to not worry if she's out at a club at 2:30 in the morning
-Have a brain in her head.
-Not be a fanatic. If I say I'm christian, then I am. Going to a fancy building once a week does not make me more of a christian. If you aren't a christian, then that's okay, we just won't talk about religion.
-A plus if you have similar musical/general tastes.
Now, that's not to say there isn't "Love at first sight", because there is, it happened to me. It also does not mean my wife is ugly. Hell no.
Qualities I like in a girl are; breathing, physically attractive, sharp, fun/personable, red head (if a red head not albino pale or with alot of freckles), and kinky.
A very deep sleeper, and hopefully one that doesn't move around in their sleep, it makes things a bit more difficult.
(I'm bisexual leaning towards heterosexual, and I'm male, so this is for females.)
- Boyish/androgynous looks.
- Vaguely Japanese facial structure.
- A deep voice.
- Aforementioned cracking boobs.
- Intelligence. Not quote-pop-culture-at-you intelligence - I'm talking the legitimate kind.
- Creativity that manifests via more than one medium.
- The ability to enjoy all forms of art/entertainment: film, music, sculpture, photography (real photography, not I'm-a-misunderstood-teenager-with-a-digital-camera photography), video games...
- Big eyes.
- A beautiful smile.
- Fashion sense.
- Knowing what she believes in.
- Being honest about who and what she is, and not hiding any of it regardless of the social situation.
Basically, my current girlfriend. Yes I am going to marry her.
EDIT: Also, an insatiable sexual appetite.
- Boyish/androgynous looks.
- Vaguely Japanese facial structure.
- A deep voice.
- Aforementioned cracking boobs.
- Intelligence. Not quote-pop-culture-at-you intelligence - I'm talking the legitimate kind.
- Creativity that manifests via more than one medium.
- The ability to enjoy all forms of art/entertainment: film, music, sculpture, photography (real photography, not I'm-a-misunderstood-teenager-with-a-digital-camera photography), video games...
- Big eyes.
- A beautiful smile.
- Fashion sense.
- Knowing what she believes in.
- Being honest about who and what she is, and not hiding any of it regardless of the social situation.
Basically, my current girlfriend. Yes I am going to marry her.
EDIT: Also, an insatiable sexual appetite.
You need to build some confidence. Know that you have something to offer the world.thebrainiac1 said:
Embarrassed or just not know the proper answer?sirbryghtside said:
I don't really think there has been much I have done in my life that I am embarrassed about. Ashamed, sad, wish I had done differently, sure. Not Embarrassed.
As far as what I look for. Well it really varies depending on what I want at that moment. One night stand? Well then I can care less about how intelligent the girl is, looks matter more. Relationships are always tricking, of course there already has to be that initial attraction or you are never going to fell they are relationship material.
Then again I knew the girl who has been by girlfriend for a couple of weeks now for nearly a year. It was more our circle of friends over lapped from time to time thing, then actually knowing her and hanging out with her as a friend. I think she is smart, funny, attractive, and fairly mature for her age, but how much of that is because I like her, and how much is because I truly saw those qualities before?
For me to like a girl, she has to be smart, funny and have pretty eyes.
I tend to avoid tall girls, since they usually are shy and insecure. Unfurtunatly I'm pretty tall (6'10''), so they tend to latch on to me.
While I'm on the topic: Can some one (preferably a girl) tell me why girls want boyfreinds, who are taller than themselves? I've never figured it out myself...
I tend to avoid tall girls, since they usually are shy and insecure. Unfurtunatly I'm pretty tall (6'10''), so they tend to latch on to me.
While I'm on the topic: Can some one (preferably a girl) tell me why girls want boyfreinds, who are taller than themselves? I've never figured it out myself...
Personality wise I like girls I can have an intelligent conversation with and have a sense of independence. I can't stand woman who won't do anything on their own without a man.
In terms of looks, I've always liked small girls. I really hate the whole cookie cutter blond and tan look that's become popular in the last decade. My favorite hair color is red. (I know I'm weird.)
In terms of looks, I've always liked small girls. I really hate the whole cookie cutter blond and tan look that's become popular in the last decade. My favorite hair color is red. (I know I'm weird.)
