Where to find a gamer girl?

[anteru]

i think the reason its so hard to find a girl who is into video games is the negative experiences they have. I know a few girls that have had bad experiences where the boyfriend/husband ignores them completely for days on end because of gaming. and once that sets in, there becomes this intolerance for gaming after that.

i guess i lucked out, my wife is more of a casual gamer, but understands when sometimes i just want to veg out and play TF2 or Halo for hours on end. (she is usually in the living room playing The Legend of Zelda.)

don't rest your sights on just a "gamer girl" you will have an extremely hard time finding someone. just go with it. who knows? you may find a girl who needs an introduction to the world of gaming.

 

[Jinxzy]

I'll Share this little story with you:

I met my boyfriend threw xbox live, we actually met threw friends and the frist game we ever really started to play together was L4D. It's funny how our relationship came around, he thought since I was a girl I would be awful at video games. I proved him wrong and kicked his butt most of the time. After being friends for awhile we agreed to date. Yet the problem was he was in vegas and I lived in new york. We went threw the whole long distance relationship, heck we played almost every game online together. Then we agreed to meet up in real life after about 6 months have passed. We met and things were great he stayed for a week and then he went back to vegas. After the general meet we started to talk about lvining together and about 7 mothns later we moved in together. We're still together, we've been together for 3 years now.

Sometimes you just have to give it a try and work things out together. If you feel it's right then go for it. You have to make sure with long distance relationships that you'll be ready for the long road ahead. With any relationship you have to make sure your ready to commit to someone else, before you even start one or then it's gets messy. You have to also be open minded about her hobbies too, when you can share hobbies the more fun it is.

Meet new people anywhere, everywhere. Learn from your experances and hopely you'll find the one <3

 

[BathorysGraveland]

beat you for isolated. i live in tasmania

Aye! Of all the millions and millions of people in massive cities across the globe, I happened to be born in Tasmania... Though I'm sure I can 1-up on you even. I'd be willing to wager you don't live in a rural village with a 290-population.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

i think the reason its so hard to find a girl who is into video games is the negative experiences they have. I know a few girls that have had bad experiences where the boyfriend/husband ignores them completely for days on end because of gaming. and once that sets in, there becomes this intolerance for gaming after that.

Heh...my girlfriend sent this comic to me the other day...

But generally yes, you do need to be careful to attend to areas of the relationship OTHER than gaming, no matter how nuts about it both of you are.

 

[DeathQuaker]

Well, I'm at my desk, personally.

Oh.

This is a can I haz girlfriend thread, not just a general poll.

Some serious, well intended advice, in that case:

1. Do not by default refer to "gamer" as default male. According to the ESA, somewhere around 40-48% of gamers are women. When you meet a woman, ask her if she is a gamer, not a "gamer girl." Gamers are not separate species divided by gender.

2. Do not make arbitrary decisions about what is and isn't a gamer. I've seen some whacky stuff especially at this site where people claim to effect you're only a REAL gamer if, say, you put 100 hours a week into first-person-shooters, which is silly. Don't make weird rules about what makes or doesn't make a gamer and then expect people to follow them. You meet a woman you like, ask if she likes games. What kind of games? If she says she prefers Fallout: New Vegas whereas you're more of a Sims fan, you may still be able to find some common ground, try out the games each other likes, still complain about DRM and other external industry issues, etc. etc. etc. But she says she's a gamer and then you scoff because the kinds of games she likes are different from your favorite games, you have just lost yourself a date and several other opportunities.

3. Get out. Get out of the house (and it should go without saying, but freshly showered and wearing clean clothes and with your hair combed). Talk to people, build your conversational skills. Talk to women, build your conversational skills with women. Chances are the more you do, the more likely you will find a person who will share interests with you. Maybe the shared interest is a love of cheddar cheese instead of gaming, but it's a place to start (and besides, cheddar cheese is delicious). A single hobby should not define you, nor should it define a relationship you're in. If she's not a gamer, you can always invite her to play a game and try it out.

4. If you find a woman who is not into gaming but you are otherwise a good match -- if you ask her to game with you, you also have to agree to try out a hobby she likes. Fair is fair.

Good luck.

 

[DestinyCall]

If you are looking for a local gamer girl, why not try for the girl part first, then work on adding the "gamer" part later on?

There are plenty of good games out there to help introduce someone to gaming. It will take some patience on your part and willingness to try new things on her part, but not impossible. And co-op games work will for building a relationship.

 

[Smooth Operator]

But the gamer girls you're looking for are probably girls you wouldn't spare a second glance for. Most of us don't care as much for appearance and don't spend hours working out and then putting in hair extensions and fake eyelashes and caking on the make up.

Sorry but this is incredibly foolish, if a girl looks halfway decent she doesn't need more then jeans and a shirt for a regular guy to take note.
Question is however if the girl can be found in places of socialization and more importantly if she is open to it, most girls tend to fend off guys before they even get a word in.

 

[Vkmies]

Exactly the reason why I want to move to another country with more people and diversity. Try finding a gamer girl in Finland. Yeah, that's not happening any time soon. Really pisses me off.

 

[Pyro Paul]

play games.

You know if you play games online you've probably run across more girls then you know...
If you acctually start trying to talk on these online games you'll start making friends and relationships that can really last because no matter what you always have one thing of common intrest.

I found my Girlfriend in a game of Left4Dead.

 

[kouriichi]

If your looking for places to find girl gamers, your best options (from what ive learned) are:

A: Japanese produced games. Harvest Moon is almost a chick magnet. Everyone female gamer ive met has played, and enjoyed a Harvest Moon game. I think its because of how much more adorable and fun Japanese games can be. (Im not saying women ARNT into hardcore gaming, im just saying its slightly less likely from my own experience.)

B: League of Legends has a pretty large female demographic compared to other games. Its a competitive game, but the important part is, its VERY team based. And while id never say women cant be lone wolfs, from my experience, team games tend to have a larger female following. Ive met more women on LoL then i have in most other games combined.

C: Reddit. While it may sound like a joke, there are a lot of women on reddit. Chances are, if you go to a cosplay thread, your going to run into at least 2-3 women. (You could always lurk the "LadyBoners" subreddit. its literally a forum full of women fawning over good looking men. If you can clean up really nice and take a great picture, you'll probably find a woman willing to chat there.)

D: Anime Conventions/Renaissance Fairs. Id be lying if i told you i havent met/hit-on/got hit-on by women at a renaissance fair. I happen to have a really nice suit of leather armor then makes my butt look nice. And apparently, quite a few women find the "Naughty Bandit" type attractive (At least until they see my eating habits). And ive been to a few Anime Conventions. They go on everywhere, you just have to take time to look, and plan ahead.
http://www.animecons.com/events/ Just look ahead of time, and see about going to one. Even if you dont go to pick up babes (*cough hack* i mean, fine ladies....), you can still have a great time. And if you do go for the women, then just put on a smile and when they talk about a female lead, tell them how "Kawaii" you think she is when she isnt being assaulted by something evil.

Honestly, if your looking for a "Gamer Girl", your best chance is to make one. Not like that >.> freak.

Find a nice girl, who doesnt think "OMG VIDYA GAYMZ R 4 CHILDEZ", and see if you cant get a kinect or a rockband game (with 2 guitars. Thats the most important part). A lot of women who say they arnt into gaming have just never played with someone they like spending time with. My Wife barely touched games, really only enjoying older PSX titles from her childhood. I got Rockband 3 and a 2nd guitar, shes now neck deep into LoL. You just have to introduce gaming slowly, with things that are easily accessible. Heck, if you have a kinect, rent the new Starwars Kinect game, and dance together. Because nothing is more enjoyable then to see your partner is just as big of a failure as you.

 

[Thelazydreamer]

***IGNORE THIS***
I've been in a relationship for 2 years with a girl that's the complete polar-opposite of me and things couldn't be going any better. I play games 10-some hours a day more than I should.
she doesn't even know where the start button is.
She's a cross country runner.
I get winded walking up my stairs.

And we have almost no common interests other then a shared hatred for dubstep & country. And I don't know how but we've never had a fight, we always laugh no matter how stupid a joke was, and I stopped playing Skyrim to surprise visit her at work.

***THE POINT***
the point is, for the longest time I was like you. I wanted the dream "gamer girl" a hot girl that shared my interest in video games. Then I realized that it wasn't what I needed. All I needed was a girl who could accept my love of video games and in turn accept me. A shared interest is great but you shouldn't limit yourself to a girl that (only likes ________ can't like _________ needs to be able to _________)because you'll miss out on a lot of great girls that way.

 

[runnernda]

The best way to meet people (not just girls) is to frequent places that showcase your hobby. If you strictly want a gamer girl, I'd say LAN parks and game and electronic stores are your best bet. But if you have interests other than games, frequent those places, too. And play online! It might make it difficult for the whole close-by thing, but at the very least, you'll have a community that will most likely include a few ladies.

Just make sure you're secure in your masculinity if you do land a gamer girl, though. I got dumped once for being better at Halo than my then-boyfriend.

 

[Musette]

Snip.

Wow, My twin sister and I are both gamers as well, though some of our tastes differ somewhat. Small world I suppose.

My twin sister is actually dating someone who is considering a career as a video game programmer, but they wouldn't have met if my sister wasn't forced to attend a band camp with me in high school. The fact that they both enjoy video games does not define their relationship at all though; it just gives them another way to spend time together.

I, myself, am single, mostly due to my own disinterest in dating. Fortunately, many people I've met at my university do not think of girls playing video games as anything unusual, and do not treat it as such. I occasionally get compliments on my shirts (since I own a few Zelda, Portal, and Fallout shirts), but I've struck equal amounts of conversation with guys as I have girls on the topic.

Usually, an interest in gaming doesn't define a person, male or female, so I find it equally jarring and pointless to say that you want to find a "gamer girl" or a "gamer guy." I'm bothered by people who downright think poorly of the medium, but I don't think any more or less of "non-gamers." If you ask me, compatibility of personalities is more important than an overlap of interests.

 

[Trasken]

i dunno, is lisa foiles single? she's cute and loves videogames, aside from that you may want to risk looking for one by employing the good ole "beauty is in the inside" cliche that nobody believes

 

[xshadowscreamx]

I guess part of the problem is that many gamers are kind of homebodys. Am I right in thinking you're more of an inside person and would be looking for someone similar?

I dunno. Perhaps join loads of online communities so you can meet more people with similar personalities & interests and, perhaps, make a connection?

so true,i see the irony

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I know what you mean OP meeting a guy who can put up with me playing games endlessly is hard when my main hobby is pretty much a solo gig.

I also look pretty young so men that I meet if I go out for a coffee or whatever in town think Im a teenager lol.

I just hope one day I can find a gamer dude who likes to game as much as I do Good luck to you aswell.

 

[Ramusx]

Theres always dating sites as a last resort lol. but seriously. You just gotta move on through out life. I've met great people just by sitting quietly in a Starbucks or bookstore. They either approach me or I approach them. Finding a common ground is the best way to get any conversation going. It just depends on where you go and who just happens to pass by. Keep your chin up as well as a bright smile and they come to you.

 

[TehCookie]

But the gamer girls you're looking for are probably girls you wouldn't spare a second glance for. Most of us don't care as much for appearance and don't spend hours working out and then putting in hair extensions and fake eyelashes and caking on the make up.

Sorry but this is incredibly foolish, if a girl looks halfway decent she doesn't need more then jeans and a shirt for a regular guy to take note.
Question is however if the girl can be found in places of socialization and more importantly if she is open to it, most girls tend to fend off guys before they even get a word in.

However for some girls to look halfway decent she has to spend an hour in the bathroom. Normally I don't wear makeup or do my hair and I never get noticed. If I put on light makeup and put effort into my hair looking nice I get a lot more attention. To the point I just find it creepy how big of a difference it makes.

 

[rayen020]

why are you trying to find a girl already into games? she's gonna try to change you, turn the tables, try and change her. I did it so can you.

1; it's all about the right game
This is probably the hardest for gamer guys. be flexible with your genres. It is hella easy to get girls into RPGs, Sims and strangely RTSs. Remember this isn't about you (yet), this is about her and introducing her to gaming. Think about what she likes and what she plays now, like Farmville or Bejeweled, this can indicate what kind of game she might like. She ain't gonna jump in to an FPS day one if she isn't into gaming.in all likelihood FPSs would just scare her off.

2;involve her
Just be doing it casually, lie on the couch and instead of watching awful TV, play a game. Don't let your immersion get too high though, this is about you and her, talk to her, not just about the game but have the game be background noise. Set the audio to stereo and turn down the volume a bit. talk about life, hopes, dreams, aspirations, all that relationship shit. Ask her about her day. talk to her but play the game. Best to do this with something you've played alot and know almost by heart. makes it looks easy, requires less attention.

3;suggestion
Offhand suggestions can go a long way. Suggest that just right for her game. Do be too direct, gotta be kinda sneaky. give her access to your WoW account and have an open character slot. give her your steam password and have the game just sitting in your library.* Be subtle. Leave the game in your xbox or PS3. Do this especially when you know she's going to be sitting at home bored in the near future. curiosity and boredom are your best friends.

4;play with her
Get a new game and play together, and for gods sake let her choose the game. If there is one thing girls are good at it's shopping. Go on a shopping trip with them and hit the nearest gamestop/walmart/best buy/whatever. let her pick a game, buy it, then play it with her. I say new game because playing with her on modern warfare 3 is going to result in you either a)owning her in every match or b)throwing matches and letting her win, both of which will result in alienating her and pushing her further away. You need to have a level playing field. Co-op is awesome in these situations.

5;Time
Give it time. Relationships take work and whatever your gaming habits and whatever her gaming habits, gaming is only going to be a small percentage of what you're going to do together. you want a gamer girl? well remember you were a noob for a long time before you could properly be called a gamer. and say she doesn't get into gaming? who knows? in the long run that may not matter.

*Make sure your WoW/steam passwords are different from your email and that she doesn't know your email password so those can be changed on quick break-up notice.