Why do so many guys here suck at talking to or doing pretty much anything with girls?

[Callate]

I'm happily married, with a six-year-old daughter. Beats me. Though I'm going to hazard a wacky guess that most highly-trafficked internet forums aren't exactly going to be a depot for excess social or romantic self-confidence. It isn't just The Escapist.

 

[Kinguendo]

Well they clearly dont know the most important point about women, as said by the prophet Arj Barker: "Women arent objects, they are sophisticated beings that have to be cleverly tricked."

 

[Baralak]

Partially because I find I have little in common with most girls, and mostly because I'm actually really shy in real life, so the point of being anti-social at times.... Only asked out one girl in my life, a friend of mine, and got rejected. I also think that I have a rather low self-esteem, contrary to how I often joke.

 

[Calhoun347]

Because they spend so much time complaining and worrying about it they never can get in a state to become less socially award. I used to be a pretty shy and quiet guy, but these days i'm one of the more outgoing persons i hang out with. It's really not all that hard.

 

[Once a Human]

All we want are stars (because it is ALWAYS stars) and sex. And it's difficult to express both these desires w/o getting maced.

 

[jboking]

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I'm going to go ahead and make this claim. Most guys between the ages of 14 - 17 are not great at talking to girls unless they have had extensive previous experience(sisters, cousins, etc [your mother does not count]). That age range fits with the majority of posters here at the escapist, or is at least close to the ranger.

Eventually, of course, one girl is dumb enough to date one of these guys and they start to pick up on how to talk to girls and behave around them. Then these boys become like the average man.

 

[iFail69]

I dunno about you guys, but I have no problem talking to girls. Most of my offline friends are girls, as are a few of my online ones, but not nearly as many as my offline group of friends I must say.

 

[Connosaurus Rex]

Umm, how about the fact that we are all a bunch of gamers? That's probably a pretty good reason.

No, there are SOOO many people who can play video games and still have average (or even good) social skills. It's not a result of video games, it's something else.

I would think that something else is if they play it excessively and therefore do not get the proper social interaction. I would suspect it in only children the most if they also excessively play video games. Everything is good in moderation!

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

dunno about the rest of you guys but i do okay .

but i think it is down to most people here being either hardcore gamers (spending most of their time on Wow or MW2 multiplayer), geeks (who do the same thing but get at least a little social interaction) and nerds (who do a lil bit of point A and a bit of point B, but spend allot of time studying)

just my opinion, no clue if im right

 

[Danpascooch]

Yeah, whenever I see a FEW threads, I always assume that means "So many" too.

Although you would know, you are always around every time one of us ever says anything to any girl. Ever.

These stereotypical threads/posts jump up every so often, when people assume we are all basement dwelling virgins. Probably because the poster is insecure.

I always ask the same thing: "If you think that, what the flying f--k are you doing posting here?"

 

[Disaster Button]

I've seen a few threads with people who find it impossible to talk to girl, people who are afraid of girls, people who see girls as completely foreign and some incredibly disturbing opinions about girls in general ("Are women jealous of men" thread).

So, why is is? Now before you announce your abilities, keep in mind that I don't care how badly afraid you are or how long it's been since you felt the touch of a woman and I especially don't care if you actually can talk to girls or have a relationship or have had sex. Telling me your exploits doesn't help determine WHY people here are so bad.

Actually, the "Women Jealous Men" thread is far, far, far far far, far far, far less disturbing than it sounds.

And I dunno, maybe they're just shy?

 

[Naheal]

I've had knives put far too deep in my back to expose it to someone else. I can talk to the opposite gender, but I don't expect (or want anymore) a close relationship.

 

[Bediz]

I'm fat and not rich. Interaction with girls I find attractive is out.

 

[Nickolai77]

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I'm going to go ahead and make this claim. Most guys between the ages of 14 - 17 are not great at talking to girls unless they have had extensive previous experience(sisters, cousins, etc [your mother does not count]). That age range fits with the majority of posters here at the escapist, or is at least close to the ranger.

Eventually, of course, one girl is dumb enough to date one of these guys and they start to pick up on how to talk to girls and behave around them. Then these boys become like the average man.

This is pretty much exactly what happend to me. I was clueless on how to talk to girls, i also lacked any sisters, which made talking to girls all the more harder. Then when i was 17 some girl asked me out, we went out for about 16 months, i learned a lot, dumped her when the relationship was not working, came out with mild PTSD from it, but i learned "how to talk to girls" as it where, from that relationship.

Playing some kind of bullshit "social game", talking to girls you couldn't care less about or even starting a relationship with someone who isn't like you at all seems kind of really pointless. The people who do it are the same people who come around bitching about their girlfriends/wives riding their butts and forcing them to do things they do not like or want to do.

Do not want.

I'm pretty much in the same boat, since coming to university i have not attempted to get with any girl, because i don't feel any of them who i have met have enough in common with me to think a relationship would work out. Besides, i hate the bullshit "social game" that guys have got to play to get a girl... i know the girls like it, but not all guys like pretending they are something which they are not.
Btw, your lucky to know so many gamer/nerd girls, i am yet to find any here.

 

[MortisLegio]

Umm, how about the fact that we are all a bunch of gamers? That's probably a pretty good reason.

this and well... this

 

[RanD00M]

Umm, how about the fact that we are all a bunch of gamers? That's probably a pretty good reason.

/thread perhaps?

 

[Mr Wednesday]

Have a shave.
Have a haircut.
Have a wash.
Get a shirt that fits.
Get some Jeans that fit.
Have a drink.

Sorted.

 

[LTK_70]

Time spent gaming is time not spent developing social skills. Simple as that.