Ain't confident? How about ain't interested?Karoshi said:Talkativeness isn't everything. If you speak a lot, but it's all small talk in the end and you always just say "I suppose you are right" "Whatever" "Maybe" and never really speak your mind - that shows if a person ain't confident.
Oh, that's just obnoxiously boring, I agree. Though the entire "flirting" game usually comes across as just pretentious in the first place...Ever notice how when flirting some people always cave in and just claim that they "love everything you love"? As you said, that's a mask and a pretty bullshit one.
Honest, relaxed and only actively engaging in interaction when you actually care about it? Now how many people would mistake that last bit for lack of confidence?That's why I mentioned not only talking, but being honest and relaxed as well. Sure, one might have a set of fake opinions and hobbies, but I'm not sure how anybody could bear lying about yourself all the time.
There's the rub.