Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?

[teebeeohh]

while love and sex are two very different thing i would not, since i could never be happy with someone who let's their life be ruled by religion. Most people who take their religion that serious probably would have a problem with the way i talk about religion and i would NEVER EVER force my children to believe in a fluffy man in the clouds

plus i don't want to get married anyway, except maybe for tax reasons, i don't need a piece of paper and a piece of jewelery to love someone.

 

[Aphex Demon]

No sex?

Fuck that.

 

[SenseOfTumour]

Way I see it, if I can't invite people to come n watch us at it, she can't have her best friend, who's everywhere and sees everything, watching us after we're married.

Putting religion aside, however, and saying for instance, there's a medical reason we can't have sex, it's gonna be difficult (obvious pun is obvious and avoided), but so long as their was touching, hugging,affection and general closeness, well, I could do what I usually do and deal with it, not like I've stopped having sex just because I'm on my own!

 

[Gigano]

Barring the fact that I could never love or even remotely respect someone who believed that pre-marital sex - or any sex act between consenting adults for that matter - was a sin, no I wouldn't stay.

Not much of a romance if there isn't an erotic dimension to it as well.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I'd probably try really really hard. But I probably would try to jump them at some point and get dumped :< Probably if I had been drinking.

 

[n03s]

Thats crazy talk OP...

Im kidding , no one can judge you on that, its simply what do you want.
Personally i wouldnt stay in that kind of a relationship.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

No. Not a chance.

You gotta test drive the car before buying it.

 

[Gluzzbung]

Hey, we all went through our teenage year (or most of us) without sex, what's a potential couple more years?

 

[Tomo Stryker]

Didn't we have a thread about this before? Would you stay in a relationship with an Asexual person?

I'll answer the same way I answered on that. Sex is an important part of a relationship, look at couple that go without sex for months. Its not a pretty picture and its obvious. So, if there was the woman of my dreams saying we could be in a relationship, but we couldn't have any sex. I would say, "No thanks, but we can still be friends".

 

[SergeMC]

Fuck yeah, I would.
Sex is just one little thing in a relationship. Just one. Why would I throw away the chance of having real happiness just because I can't fuck somebody? That's stupid.

 

[andeve3]

That is a good question. I doubt i would end the relationship because of it, though i do think it would diminish the quality of the relationship.

However i think i would find it more problematic to be in a relationship with someone who takes the concept of sin seriously, i would challenge that view.

No sex?

Fuck that.

 

[Tizzmarelda]

try the back door.

 

[MNRA]

Edit: I'm fine with waiting until after marriage to sleep together. In fact, I don't think the relationship needs sex, I think it would be a nice something on the side, cause that's not what I'm in it for. That's my answer

This. Exactly this

So yes. I would wait.

 

[AxDude]

Nope.

First off, as an atheist, someone that religious is going to be incompatible with me long term.
Second, I follow the advice of my mother who told me that you should not enter into a long term serious legal commitment like marriage without having sex with that person and living with them for at least a year.

I'm with this guy.

People say that sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship and to a degree their right. But what you have to keep in mind is that there are four archs to a relationship; Emotional, Intellectual, Sexual and Spiritual (not to be confused with religious). Physical attraction is the most primary and basic form of beginning a new relationship. Now, don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying that people only start to date others 'cos they think their sexually attractive; infact, getting to know a person and being attracted to them on a personal level increases the physical attraction. My point is, I'm not entering into a commitment such as marriage without being sure that we're both compatible for life long commitment on multiple levels.

 

[TheEvilCheese]

she doesn't wanna have sex for whatever personal reason: fine. But if she doesn't because God said she can't; I would say fuck that shit...

Pretty much this, I don't think I could stay in that sort of relationship with someone who believed in such outdated counter-intuitive bulls-

whoops, almost got carried away there.

I mean seriously, free will mean anything to people?

 

[megaraccoon]

yes, i would.

 

[Cowabungaa]

If she's Christian I won't be in a relationship with her anyway.

But even if she wouldn't be, and wants to wait until marriage for another reason, I have my doubts. It's important to know whether you're sexually compatible or not. Now of course, I don't mind waiting, I wouldn't want to jump on it after the first date or something, but marriage is a long long time away. I'd start questioning her attitude, and start wondering whether I should be something so incredibly cautious.

Mind you, I'm cautious myself, and I can't imagine sleeping with anyone after a month or two of serious dating, but marriage?

No. Not a chance.

You gotta test drive the car before buying it.

Awesome analogy, and it works to boot. Despite what so many people say, sexual chemistry is important, and I'd say that it's very important to make sure that that chemistry is there before you dive into a legal bond like marriage.

 

[lettucethesallad]

No. As has been stated before, a person not wanting to have sex for religious reasons and me being an atheist don't go together very well. Also, I like sex. It's an important part of a relationship to me, both as a fun passtime and a way to achieve a deeper emotional bonding.