Your View on Physically Hitting the Oppsite sex

[HazukiHawkins]

I have come across this argument so many times in my life that if it were to be put into one time period, it would be a 2 whole days worth of this arguement.

anyway now on to the never dying issue

"Is it okay for a man to hit a women in Self Defense" ?

In my life at a school fool of ignorant wannbe ghetto kids where ANY kid will make a whole issue on something as small as a accidental bump on a shoulder ,i have noticed that when it comes to a man hitting a women no matter what the mans reason
the man is always the one to be blamed because the women is supposed to be weaker.
(This is in my experiance BTW )

I have had to experiance this type of issue loads of times because there were a certain type of stearotypical black ghetto ignorant bitchy girls that loved to get me to crack because i was not afraid of hitting girls

let me explain my quick view ,i think that no matter who the person is , if that person physically hit me on purpose i have full right to hitback regardless of who the person is.

so basically they would do their hardest to make me lash out from frustration but this useually failed since i have common sense, in the end they would have to do the first move by useually kicking my shin or what so ever then i would instantly hitback, then a whole bunch of unnesscary teacher and principle arguement happens where i have to attend a detention and have my parents called in for "Anger Problems" and talk about the fear of me becoming some sort of womenbeater

while the whole group who started the uneeded crap gets to go away with everyone on their side

but i'm finally out of school (Or atleast finishing it)

My questions

What is your view when it comes to someone having to defend themselves but are seen as shameful when the other person is the oppsite sex ?

I would say that it's about judgment. There are women out there who are strong, even if it's not too trendy for them to work out and become championship wrestlers and so forth in this day and age... besides, some of them are going to do those things anyway. If the female in question strong enough to hit you painfully, leaving a bruise that hurts for longer than a half hour or so, and she does strike you with intent to start a fight or just mess with you or whatever, then I'd say you're entitled to hit back if you feel the need.

Rather, if you feel threatened, like they're going to injure you or something, you could hit them in self-defence... if they give you a little kick and you feel fine after a minute, that's not really an attack the way I see it, so much as a wimpy little attempt to get your attention for some unfriendly interaction... and if it doesn't hurt very much, you don't need to strike them, do you? You might consider some sort of aikido-style maneuver, like deflecting their strikes so they lose their balance and then watching them fall over. That might make it clearer that they're just looking for trouble and all you did was guide their attack away from yourself. Might be fun, too?

 

[bamforth]

I think if she is attempting to cause severe harm to you or someone else, try to restrain her. If that doesn't work, then use minimal force. Last thing you want is to end up like this guy - http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/top-stories/2008/08/05/exclusive-facebook-waterfight-thug-won-t-apologise-to-girl-he-hit-115875-20684621/

 

[Anachronism]

Only if she attacks you with a bottle (<- In Bruges)

I love that movie.

For me, though, even if a woman were attacking me, it would still be difficult to make myself physcially hit her. I'd probably just try to restrain her or something. I don't like hitting people to begin with, and I really hate the idea of hitting a woman.

 

[Kiefer13]

I believe there is a saying: "Never hit a lady. But if she hits you first, she's not a lady."

I won't initiate fights, but if someone hits me first and both capable of and intending to do me real harm, I will hit them back, no matter their age, gender, ethnicity or sexual preference. I'd like to think I'm above such petty discrimination.

 

[APPCRASH]

I personally wouldn't strike a woman or even a guy in public. Upon reading previous posts you guys make it sound like the woman out their are all boxing champs and that any blow (heh blow) from them is actually a threat to your well being. There are other methods to defending or at least avoiding an attacker, most if not all security, military, and police forces are trained to not go blow-for-blow with an opponent regardless if you have the upper hand in physical strength.

For shame on all of you for being weak minded cowards that need to prove their superiority through violence.

 

[elitecrewer]

Only if she attacks you with a bottle (<- In Bruges)

I love that movie.

For me, though, even if a woman were attacking me, it would still be difficult to make myself physcially hit her. I'd probably just try to restrain her or something. I don't like hitting people to begin with, and I really hate the idea of hitting a woman.

I wouldn't even worry, you'd come off worse.

 

[JWAN]

I don't know about hitting a woman, but unless she's coming at you with a knife or any other sharp object, you should just hold her down and either calm her down or make her tire herself out.

or elbow her to the face and GTFO

 

[Overlord Nicy]

I hit everyone equally. I see no color or sexes. Only people.

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

I retaliate when someone attacks me, no matter the gender or race.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

While I'm still retaliatory, no matter what, I do tend to counter them in varying degrees that depend on the gender.

If a female starts attacking me, I'll put her on the ground in a defensive manner and leave it at that. If she gets back up and tries to attack me again, it becomes a "rinse and repeat" affair.

If a male starts attacking me, I'll violently put him on the ground and break a few of his ribs while he's down. He won't have the chance to get back up.

 

[AdmiralWolverineLightningbolt]

i try to avoid fights with women, but in like martial arts you're forced to fight them and i find that they fight just as furiously as men
in fact through that, wing tsun to be specific, ive kinda got over the whole dont hit a woman thing - sure, i wont give them friendly hits and pushes just cause they're not built like that, but if one attacks me, then ill physically hit them

 

[Ushario]

My rule of thumb is that if you can defend yourself against someone without having to hurt them then do so. If you can't defend yourself against an attacker without hurting them, go for gold.

If I'm in a situation where a woman is so determined in attacking me that I can't simply fend her off, then she is probably going to get whats coming to her, and likely deserves it as well.

Having said that I have never struck a woman in anger, so far so good.

Edit: I'm a boxer as well, so I guess I'm used to fighting women anyway, at least in sparring.

 

[Bucket0Bones]

If a woman were to attack me and keep on attacking i would have no choice but to hit her.

 

[Spleenbag]

They want equality? They got it.

You're so right. It's too bad there's quite a bit of double-standard when it comes to gender (generally in terms of rights and physical ability).

 

[ExodusinFlames]

Circumstances would really dictate.
If, for example, a woman were to come at me open handed, I'll take the slap, probably deserved it and its kind of a turn on ... no wait just the first one.
If it were repeated, I would opt for restraint or moving out of the way.
Closed fisted, would require forceable restraint, as far as moving them to the ground.
Come at me with a knife, or any kind of weapon (and its happened, still got the scars) you're fair game.
Here's the real mind killer about the last one. I felt bad for hurting this girl, despite the fact that she had cut me and tried to stab me, now THAT is programming.

 

[Specter_]

They want equality? They got it.

This.

They attack you, you defend yourself. Although a kick to the shin doesn't justify a cruel beating. With this minor violence, I'd go "eye for an eye": they kick your shin, hit your shoulder, you kick their shin/hit their shoulder.
Now if they attack you with a melee-weapon (knife, brass knuckles etc), I'd go for the throat in an instant and even risk some substantial damage on their part to defend myself (if you put too much pressure on the larynx, it can break and the effected person can suffocate, so be carefull with that).

 

[Ignignoct]

If a woman is abusing the man, it is fine to retaliate.

Are you guys saying women can't take a hit?... That's awfully sexist =p.

 

[supermaster1337]

its illegal either way. self defense is self defense

 

[cleverlymadeup]

They want equality? They got it.

equality is not giving equal treatment, but giving everyone the chance to do what they are able to.

no it's equal treatment sorry to say, it's always been worded as "equal treatment under the law"

i say yes they can be hit by a guy, same rules apply as to anyone

 

[HazukiHawkins]

They want equality? They got it.

equality is not giving equal treatment,

Yes it is. The same in all cases, that's all that the word really means.

but giving everyone the chance to do what they are able to.

That's called fairness, it's something different (and very admirable). This is why we have so many words; we use one and think we're saying what we mean, but we're actually saying something that's only somewhat similar. I do it myself, so I should know... =__=

then again i think a man can hit a woman in retaliation. most girls i know agree, in fact most guys as well. if a woman is big enough to hit you, you can hit her back. then again i would probably still feel bad if it came to it.

edit - if you do hit them back, ease off a bit, unless they are boxing champs, because they are normally more physically fragile than men. - not sexist, fact.

One other option might be to stand there harmlessly and wait for her to get tired of hitting, stabbing or otherwise hurting you. The old Gandhi approach, passive resistance; not sure if it could work, though. Definitely wouldn't work in every case.