Am I Really the Minority When it Comes to Sex?

[yoyo13rom]

I'm 18 and I still haven't even had my first kiss. xD

I guess you could say I'm waiting. You could also say I don't really have a sex drive so it's the least of my priorities right now. :/

I doubt I'll ever have it at this rate. \o/ I'm going for the 40 year old virgin route.

Hey, I didn't have my first kiss till my late 18's. And even then it was mostly an accident (wrong person, wrong place, wrong reasons, sad outcome). I still think I should have waited some more, but can't do that any more.
Oh, and make that "40 year old virgin" thing into a 27 year old, and I'll race you there

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Please note that my feelings towards sex has absolutely nothing to do with any religious beliefs. I'm also not saying there should be a certain age or you should wait till marriage. Just until you're actually in love. Not the bullshit that teenagers feel when they like someone, but actual love.

So, Escapist, what are your thoughts on this? Am I just being uptight when it comes to the subject or am I in the right for thinking this?

I used to be like you till 3 years ago, when I had my heart crushed by this suicidal emo girl, who put a "hex" on me. Funny thing is that we never did anything other that hold hands(not even kiss or cuddle). But I was madly in love with her, and my "Mr. Fix-it" complex + her suicidal state of mind led to a lot of bull-shiting action(on behalf of both of us). Let's just said she almost got what he wanted(an end to her life), and I got 3 years of therapy.
But there are days when I go like:"I should wait for the right person", but then come my friends who rub my virginity in and make fun of me, and the I through my ideologies out the door.
But after watching Firefly I feel I might be changing in my old loving, ideologist/utopic self. I feel like I could wait an other 19 years of my life(or at least 2)

 

[Lord Krunk]

A question I've been dwelling over for some time now. I'm sure we all have noticed the growing promiscuity of teenagers and I'm just wondering, why? Why is sex something that is sought out so much after by any means? It seems like average teen just wants to have sex as soon as possible and doesn't matter who it's with.

As a 17-year old virgin myself, I can tell you.

Ladies like experienced hands. Better to get experience while it still means nothing.

From the ladies' point of view, well, I guess they can answer that.

 

[Spinozaad]

Don't know if it has been said already, but it probably has.

Sex is just sex. It's a very fun thing do, but at the end of the day it's just reaching orgasm between two or more people.

Virginity and sex are, depending on the observer, very important and not important at all. Pick your poison, I'd say. Do what feels best. Either way is good.

 

[Eekaida]

Promiscuity isn't rising - its always been this way. People who are anti-contraceptive will blame them and abortion for 'rising promescuity,' but they ignore the fact that the early part of century was infamous for shot-gun weddings after teenagers got pregnant, and for century's before hand unwed mothers would drink themselves stupid or throw themsleves down the stairs to get rid of their babies.

Media needs something to hype about, and teenagers having sex had always been good way to sell newspapers,

 

[liquidus118]

Yes, you are in the minority. And so am I.

 

[DemonicVixen]

I think that many people want to wait, but then they start dating someone, and when you're young you either fall in love or think you've fallen in love quickly, and so you have sex and poof, there goes your virginity.

Exactly.

To be honest, i'll admit that when i lost mine it was a one night stand of depression with an ex early this year (least i survived till i was 19). I wasnt proud of it and even now still feel disgusted with myself for it. My new partner and i have started sleeping together but this time its more special and I prefer thinking of him as being my first although both he and i know he isnt.

Many teens use sex as nothing but pleasure and fun. All "Love" has gone out the window. Hormones take over and thats it. I waited for many years for the right guy to come along. I almost went with one boyfriend after i thought he was "the one" but the relationship fell apart and we never got that far. Sadly it was due to the ending of that relationship that caused me to seek comfort in my X who decided to push his luck and i gave up resisting him.

 

[Nanaki316]

I'm 22. I lost my virginity at 15 to a boy I was madly in love with who sadly is no longer here but I don't regret it because I loved him so much.
I've had ONE one night stand and it was the worst sex ever and learnt my lesson right then. Sex really is only the best if you love that person imo. Been with my partner 4 years and I'd happily be with him and him only for the rest of my life.

 

[doctorjackal777]

I've never had sex nor do I actually plan to. I'm incredibly uninterested in the whole thing, and I feel as though I really wouldn't enjoy it. Masturbation for me is a snore fest and I can easily make it through a day without needing to. Also I don't want children, and the best way to not have them is to not have sex.

 

[MalevolentJim]

I'm 18 and only had my first couple of kisses a couple of weeks ago.It's not that I don't care,it's just that I'm too shy/not drunk enough to try it.Sex though?Jeeezze I wouldn't be able for that kind of thing right now at all.I suppose,like some other people have stated,It'd be best to wait to do it with someone you actually care about.

 

[Queen Michael]

I think you should wait until you find somebody really hot. For instance, my first kiss was with a lesbian goth girl, so I'm really glad I waited. (At least I'm pretty sure she was lesbian.)

 

[kurupt87]

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There is no real or right answer to this to be honest. Just do what comes true to yourself.

I will say that you are putting more pressure on sex to be amazing than someone who treats it more casually though, so are more likely to be disappointed.

Although it could be read from what you've said that you don't care about sex at all and just want to be with someone you love and who loves you in return, with sex just a way of showing that. This is healthy; a sex drive is normal and a lack of one abnormal but it won't have any real problems that I can see. If/when you do find someone she/he'll probably enjoy teaching you to be honest.

To answer the topic header; yes, you are in the minority.

 

[swolf]

A question I've been dwelling over for some time now. I'm sure we all have noticed the growing promiscuity of teenagers and I'm just wondering, why? Why is sex something that is sought out so much after by any means? It seems like average teen just wants to have sex as soon as possible and doesn't matter who it's with.

Now I'm not saying everyone is like this, just it seems that a lot of people (at least where I live) are.

I've never really been one for the whole sex thing. It's not that I'm gay, don't care or asexual even, I just want to wait for someone I love before I have sex. After reading a few studies and surveys showing that the average person loses their virginity between 15 -17, I can't help wonder if I'm really the only one who wants to wait or if I'm just missing out on it by being so uptight.

Now I will admit that I had sex once in my life. It ended horribly and I deeply regret because I was in love with the girl and it turned out, she didn't even remotely feel the same about me and I'm wondering if I'm the only one who feels it would be best to wait.

Please note that my feelings towards sex has absolutely nothing to do with any religious beliefs. I'm also not saying there should be a certain age or you should wait till marriage. Just until you're actually in love. Not the bullshit that teenagers feel when they like someone, but actual love.

So, Escapist, what are your thoughts on this? Am I just being uptight when it comes to the subject or am I in the right for thinking this?

I think that the promiscuity of teenagers is typically a misconception. I think it's because society is more open and accepting of sexual-themed conversations which cause people to think "everyone else is doing it" which is why SOME people experiment earlier than they normally would. I don't think it's a MOST thing yet though. Plus, a lot of people claim it untruthfully.

 

[Andreas55k]

totally agree with ya...

 

[Captain Pancake]

Besides the fact that no girl would touch me with a ten foot pole. If I was given the opportunity, I probably would, but I just don't feel comfortable getting that close to somebody in the first place.

 

[L-J-F]

Wanting to have lots of hot sex is an evolutionary advantage, the ones who don't want to have sex don't, therefore don't reproduce, therefore don't pass their not-wanting-to-have-sex genes on to the next generation.

 

[UberNoodle]

A question I've been dwelling over for some time now. I'm sure we all have noticed the growing promiscuity of teenagers and I'm just wondering, why? Why is sex something that is sought out so much after by any means? It seems like average teen just wants to have sex as soon as possible and doesn't matter who it's with.

Now I'm not saying everyone is like this, just it seems that a lot of people (at least where I live) are.

I've never really been one for the whole sex thing. It's not that I'm gay, don't care or asexual even, I just want to wait for someone I love before I have sex. After reading a few studies and surveys showing that the average person loses their virginity between 15 -17, I can't help wonder if I'm really the only one who wants to wait or if I'm just missing out on it by being so uptight.

Now I will admit that I had sex once in my life. It ended horribly and I deeply regret because I was in love with the girl and it turned out, she didn't even remotely feel the same about me and I'm wondering if I'm the only one who feels it would be best to wait.

Please note that my feelings towards sex has absolutely nothing to do with any religious beliefs. I'm also not saying there should be a certain age or you should wait till marriage. Just until you're actually in love. Not the bullshit that teenagers feel when they like someone, but actual love.

So, Escapist, what are your thoughts on this? Am I just being uptight when it comes to the subject or am I in the right for thinking this?

You are clearly not the only one, but even if it were, it shouldn't matter. You feel how you do and that's all that matters. Honestly, sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be. WAIT, I am not insane. Think about the amount of hassle that one must go through to be promiscuous (and still have any semblance of standards!). Think of the money, time, MASKS and general energy required. Screw that, pun intended.

I would rather spend that same energy on something lasting that enriches my human experience and not just UberNoodle Jnr's. I just found the first entry in my new list of 'things not to say when using my screen name'.

Anyway, running around following the whims of one's genitals is a waste of living, in my honest opinion. Dogs do that, but they don't also have the power to write great works of literature, solve the mysteries of the universe or whatever. There's more to life that chasing tail, or being the tail that is chased - a LOT more.

 

[Tanto-chan]

I'm 18 and I still haven't even had my first kiss. xD

I guess you could say I'm waiting. You could also say I don't really have a sex drive so it's the least of my priorities right now. :/

I doubt I'll ever have it at this rate. \o/ I'm going for the 40 year old virgin route.

I'm with you there and turning 19 in July.

 

[sky14kemea]

I'm 18 and I still haven't even had my first kiss. xD

I guess you could say I'm waiting. You could also say I don't really have a sex drive so it's the least of my priorities right now. :/

I doubt I'll ever have it at this rate. \o/ I'm going for the 40 year old virgin route.

I'm with you there and turning 19 in July.

:0 Coolio. I turn 19 in November. ^-^

I'm 18 and I still haven't even had my first kiss. xD

I guess you could say I'm waiting. You could also say I don't really have a sex drive so it's the least of my priorities right now. :/

I doubt I'll ever have it at this rate. \o/ I'm going for the 40 year old virgin route.

Hey, I didn't have my first kiss till my late 18's. And even then it was mostly an accident (wrong person, wrong place, wrong reasons, sad outcome). I still think I should have waited some more, but can't do that any more.
Oh, and make that "40 year old virgin" thing into a 27 year old, and I'll race you there

27 hrmmmm? Okay then! READY SET GO! ;D

*looks at watch* >.>

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

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:0 Coolio. I turn 19 in November. ^-^

...
I'm older than you?
Holy feth. Doesn't seem right.

OP: Meh, I have no interest in sexual relationships with anyone or anything, unlike an awful lot of people in real life.
Horrifyingly enough, I even had one person who wanted to go out with me, and I received some... 'odd' text messages from them.
Damn, why do so many people in my area have to be interested in nothing but sex... >.<