I do feel the same, or at least hold the same reserve. Sucumbing to your inhibitions and simply having it with anyone is your choice, maybe these people don't believe you can find someone who can connect with perfectly (whatever that may be to you), perhaps they believe what they have is perfect, yet can't discern the difference between lust and what a perfect match could be. Maybe they don't want to? It could be peer presure, just the brief feeling of joy, or whatever else they feel is somehow making them better for sleeping around. Eitherway, I can't either agree or disagree about it, they are two people who want the sex and it is their lives, why should I condem something which is an attempt to improve a relationship? I can frown upon the circumstance & possible outcomes; are they cheating, is there a risk of an unplanned child (no protection or care to check a few days after?), was it for material gain or status (shagging the boss?). I can't condem it as a whole, but I can disagree upon the factors surrounding them.Julianking93 said:
Likewise, it's our choice to wait for someone who we think 'clicks' with us. Maybe it's yourself who is the 'hinderence' and stopping you from being outgoing or opening all possible doors in your life to meet as many people as you can. Maybe it is you who is stopping you from walking across the room and talking to that person who made you think "Wow..". If not then surely it's only time and the choices you make that can conspire against you meeting someone who does make you feel that way.
Whichever it may be (Maybe none of them at all), the matter of fact is that you have chosen to wait for that person, because you may want to prove giving yourself to them is a symbol of trust and confidence, understanding and companisonship. I will not use the word 'love'.
I dislike the term 'love'. I don't believe there is always someone out there for you, and at the same time I don't think your perfect partner is someone who you will never quarrel with, a person who will ALWAYS be there for you (okay, that's something I'll give reason to in a minute), or is based off physical appearences.
Love determines that there is ALWAYS someone out there for you, I don't think that is reasonable or even rationable. Maybe there is no one out there for you, maybe you will remain alone forever, or maybe you just find someone who just makes you feel happy for a short amount of time, unfulfilled. And even then, your outlook on life will change over your lifespan many times, moods will swing to-and-fro, objects or events you adore now could be lost or forgotten, eitherway your personality WILL change.
Perhaps you can get lucky, you find that person who you 'click' with, what relationship would you both lead? I think the fairytale lovey scenario is bull, I mean it would be nice to not ever have to debate about things, but God(s) how boring do you wish to live? Likewise with someone who will always be able to fall back on. We sometimes learn more when we are the ones watching our own backs & picking ourselves up, there will be conflicts you don't want to drag even your closest relations and friends in (maybe you don't want to or have little choice), it will be you, numero uno, and if you can't handle it then maybe it's your own problem?
If you go for just physical looks do I even need to give a point about that?
You can only maximise your chances at finding someone who who will 'click' with through going out, meeting people, saying yes to more things and generally enjoying life. I don't see how this couldn't effect your outlook on life and how you might spend your years, whilst giving you that extra chance of finding that person. Here's an example, say you are rang up by a group of friends at 8 of an evening, asking if you'd like to simply go to the cinema, saying yes gives you that extra chance of bumping into someone new and starts you chatting, maybe they ask you to go on a trip or a holiday with them or family, you could find yourself talking to anyone. What would you be doing if you said no, though?
I'm personally happy waiting as long as it may be, maybe I might not find anyone, inwhich I can't say I'm happy but at least I did in my life what I thought was for the best. If I just found any random girl I felt nothing but simple lust for, then surely it's only a problem for the both of us in the short & long term.
I spoke in general about everyone, so here's my view why I'd also like to just wait (Not relevant to anyone but myself, so it's spoilered)
I don't feel attracted to looks. I could see a model in a magazine or an attractive woman and I understand why people see her as attractice, but I don't feel aroused or that bothered by it. I have no interests in males, so I know I'm not gay or bi-sexual, and I have once felt an attachment to a single girl a few years ago in school, something I regretted dearly never owning upto before we simply got seperated into different classes, then different colleges. I found her interesting, we had similar tastes in everything, but with differences to make sure there was always something else we could add to one anothers point or view, we could play games and be at a similar skill level, both had similar values.
I remember being able to walk to her house, we ended up cooking together. The next day we could just sit and talk, just happy for one anothers company. We would do everything together two years, she became my best friend and I honestly never did feel the same around others from school or around me. I tried to venture out of the friend stage, I tried to get her a gift, make hints and subtly make conversation change in that angle.. I say tried (and succeeded) in getting her a gift, I was 11-12 at the time. I think she knew what I was doing, we knew each other that well I noticed subtle change in her attitude as well, or a brief smile she would make when I tried to add a layer to the topic about 'us'.
Well, it came to nothing, I still have the memories and I still know know how to contact her, but I don't want to. I don't want to find she's changed from what I knew, or that I've changed from what I was when we were together. I have good memories of events and how I felt, I don't want to add to it that I spoiled it by trying to talk to her again and doing something stupid. Some people will call that cowardly, I call it preservation.
I want to ask, does anyone else feel physical forms aren't important? I don't mean this idealogically (I.E. you don't choose) but biologically, do you not become bothered because of how a person looks? Are you only interested in the personality, their charisma and how you can interact with them even just as friends?
I don't know how awkwardly worded that is, but simply put, does anyone look at the person, not the body?
I remember being able to walk to her house, we ended up cooking together. The next day we could just sit and talk, just happy for one anothers company. We would do everything together two years, she became my best friend and I honestly never did feel the same around others from school or around me. I tried to venture out of the friend stage, I tried to get her a gift, make hints and subtly make conversation change in that angle.. I say tried (and succeeded) in getting her a gift, I was 11-12 at the time. I think she knew what I was doing, we knew each other that well I noticed subtle change in her attitude as well, or a brief smile she would make when I tried to add a layer to the topic about 'us'.
Well, it came to nothing, I still have the memories and I still know know how to contact her, but I don't want to. I don't want to find she's changed from what I knew, or that I've changed from what I was when we were together. I have good memories of events and how I felt, I don't want to add to it that I spoiled it by trying to talk to her again and doing something stupid. Some people will call that cowardly, I call it preservation.
I want to ask, does anyone else feel physical forms aren't important? I don't mean this idealogically (I.E. you don't choose) but biologically, do you not become bothered because of how a person looks? Are you only interested in the personality, their charisma and how you can interact with them even just as friends?
I don't know how awkwardly worded that is, but simply put, does anyone look at the person, not the body?
Sorry for this long as hell post, the spoiler could be interesting though?
It's ridiculously emotional, for both parties involved, 
