Karlaxx said:
I'm not so shy in the general social sense anymore, but romantically I'm just as cold a fish as ever. I'm in my senior year of high school and age 18; It's probably going to be college before I find myself a girl, because I'm extremely hesitant to let feeling of romantic attraction towards anyone younger than me fester, and every female I know is either 1)in the aforementioned category 2) taken or 3) otherwise not for me. I've tried flailing about and asking after anyone I thought was awesome, but that just led to shame, embarassment, and general distrust of my own judgement.
In any case, it won't be more than a few months before I never see any of them again. If I've made it this far, I can wait that long for a blank slate.
Bah, I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. I am a female in college myself and I never had a boyfriend all through high school, hell I didn't
want one in high school. There were only about two guys I ever had a crush on in gradeschool, and one ended up gay and the other was already taken. All the other guys at school were just...meh.
Now I'm a senior in college, and I am currently with my second boyfriend.
The best advice I can give you is put yourself in situations to meet people you have something in common with. In college, look for clubs you might be interested in. Tabletop game clubs, anime clubs, video game clubs, art clubs, church groups, whatever. The great thing about clubs is you already know you have at least one thing in common with everybody who is there. I met my first boyfriend through an anime club, and my second boyfriend through a church group (and he's in anime club, as well). While I cannot
guarantee you will find somebody there, it will put you at a great advantage and if nothing else get you networked with some good batches of friends.
And my only warning with that is don't go in there and go after every human being in there with lady parts. Make friends first, and then start to decide if you want to pursue them further. And even if they aren't the right person for you, make sure you still value their friendship. It is perfectly possible to have female friends you're just friends with.
This may sound like obvious advice to you: "Don't hit on everything that moves, don't throw away their friendship just because they won't go out with you." But I'm just saying all this to cover all my bases--there are some guys who
will sabotage perfectly good friendships if they can't get a girlfriend out of them. I have no reason to believe you are one of those sad people, but unfortunately some guys start to do weird things when you tell them "Be friends before asking the girl out."