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Mewick_Alex

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I only know one chat up line:

Step 1. Say "what shags like a tiger and winks?"
Step 2. Wink at her.

Go on try it, I DARES ya. You'll be a babe magnet, garunteed.
 

JohnTomorrow

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1. Be confident in yourself, but not all YO ***** SUCK MY DICK. Thats just stupid and insulting.

2. Hygiene. You want to impress someone, you want to make sure you dont smell like a rotting corpse. Wash thoroughly with soap on at least the three key areas (Armpits Arsehole Crotch) and BRUSH YOUR TEETH. Then use deoderant or cologne, but dont swim in the stuff. You dont wanna give chicks a migraine. Comb your hair to suit you, clip your fingernails, have a shave, whatever you need to do to clean yourself up.

3. Dress sensibly. You wanna pick someone up at the local anime convention? Wear a nice FlCl shirt w/ jeans and sneakers. Wanna pick up in a bar? Wear a nice button-up shirt with jeans/good slacks and NO sneakers. Ask a lady-friend or a mate who has good fashion sense what looks good on you. And dont think its faggy to look presentable - its when you start moisturizing your face and getting manicures that you start evolving to that state.

4. Pick a place you know you'll pick up. Going to the library to score a librarian wont always work (unless you work in porn). Go to a bar, nightclub, or even just some community events. Be open to going to new places.

5. BE YOURSELF, but dont overdo it. Dont walk up to a chick and say "hi, my names John, i like anime and computers games." Most 'normal' chicks will balk at that, possibly laugh in your face, ruining your confidence. Simply walk up and say "hey, how you doing? Having a good time?" Strike up a conversation! Ask how she is, what she does for a job, what the weathers been like. It may seem odd, but these topics can bloom into a point where you've gleaned enough info from each other that you can start throwing out test questions to see if you both have something in common. Point:

You: "What do you do for a job?"
Girl: "I work in a beauty salon, in the perfume section."
You: "Oh, do you sell *insert your brand here*? I dont know if its good for me..."
Girl: "Oh, well, i dont sell guy stuff but i can give you some tips if you want..."

Conversation ensues. Try not to force conversation. Let it roll naturally. If you start to feel uncomfortable with the awkward silence, simply say "well, it was nice talking to you", and walk away. If she finds you interesting, she'll try to stop you. Also, don't try to be funny, but slip in a joke or two every now and then. But no 'knock-knock' jokes.

TIP: If in a nightclub, don't be afraid to ask her if she'd like to go someplace more quiet so you can chat. Its usually bloody hard enough to hear stuff in a nightclub.
 

TheScarecrow

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The problemwith flirting is it's somewhat cloudy definition and that some people have different ideas about what counts as flirting.

Also, the complexity of women doesn't help much either.
 

.Ricks.

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My approach depends on my feelings. Allow me to explain.
If I don't care about the girl for anything but the challenge and/or fun I take a aggressive direct and shameless approach, a lot of flirting and teasing do the trick nicely, of course you need the guts do seal the deal when "the moment" comes.
If I care about her, I take a more romantic, thoughtful and sweet approach, full of surprises and other things I am able to find about her.
 

dont_blink

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Furburt said:
I just come out and say it.

"Hello, I find you very attractive, and was wondering if you would like to meet up sometime"

I only ever used it once, but it worked. I don't really flirt though. Too cynical/shy.

only works to a certain extent. that's what i'd do like 90% of the time, but sometimes i'm even too shy for that ><

oh and i'm told i flirt all the time. apparently there's no difference between being nice, and flirting, when you're talking to a boy. [common misconception]
 

Simriel

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Profile says you're a school person. Concentrate on school. School relationships rarely matter. Flirting can come later.
So can coming.
[small]I feel bad about that one...[/small]
 

Simriel

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Mewick_Alex said:
I only know one chat up line:

Step 1. Say "what shags like a tiger and winks?"
Step 2. Wink at her.

Go on try it, I DARES ya. You'll be a babe magnet, garunteed.
This one is likely to get you maced. With an actual mace.
 

ottenni

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Make them laugh is a good way to start. And if you don't think your funny, then thats a load of poo because everyone can be funny. And confidence is very important too.
 

YoUnG205

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TBH I do not flirt at all.
I do not have the balls for it I guess.

Pick up line:
"do u like peanut butter? good lets have sex"
I saw that on something can't remember what if some one knows Quote me. :)
 

Kathinka

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Lexodus said:
Furburt said:
I just come out and say it.

"Hello, I find you very attractive, and was wondering if you would like to meet up sometime"

I only ever used it once, but it worked. I don't really flirt though. Too cynical/shy.
Or, 'By Jove! You certainly have an ample bosom, allow me to press my head to it and create the sound of a ship engine'.
oh good lord i want to see somebody to actually try that...if i had witnessed that in my life i could day a happier person decades from now...^^
 

WorldCritic

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Believe me I'm clueless at flirting, apparently my girlfriend and I were flirting for months before we started going out and neither of us realized it. When I look back I'm embarrassed to see how painfully obvious we both were.
 

Aunel

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canadamus_prime said:
I don't know jack shit about flirting.
Aunel said:
just talk to them, and pretend like you are a caring person, it works wonders.
What do you mean "pretend"? I AM a caring person.
I tried to appeal to most people here on the Escapist, and most people here on the escapist are cynic teens (I am one of them), and caring is not one of the things we do.
 

JohnTomorrow

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Aunel said:
canadamus_prime said:
I don't know jack shit about flirting.
Aunel said:
just talk to them, and pretend like you are a caring person, it works wonders.
What do you mean "pretend"? I AM a caring person.
I tried to appeal to most people here on the Escapist, and most people here on the escapist are cynic teens (I am one of them), and caring is not one of the things we do.
Except about bass....right?
 

Canadamus Prime

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Aunel said:
canadamus_prime said:
I don't know jack shit about flirting.
Aunel said:
just talk to them, and pretend like you are a caring person, it works wonders.
What do you mean "pretend"? I AM a caring person.
I tried to appeal to most people here on the Escapist, and most people here on the escapist are cynic teens (I am one of them), and caring is not one of the things we do.
So I noticed.
 

GodofDisaster

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My shyness and self esteem aren?t the best combination for flirting so I never actually tried it. Also like JulianKing said, I to can?t tell when a girl flirts with me.
 

Chancie

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I never know that I'm doing it. My friends always have to tell me that I'm doing it. I just...act nice and polite. I didn't realize I was flirting when I did it. o_O
 

Chewster

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First, you have to have confidence in your abilities.

Second, you have to appear sincere.

Third, don't get upset if people don't always show interest in you. They might be taken, or else not looking or whatever else. It's no big deal.

Forth, you have to dissuade yourself from using bland pickup lines, because they are insulting to all involved. Unless you're looking for a complete moron.

Work those four, and you're golden.

Frankly, I never found it to be hard, since going to a full bar generally ensures that someone there is willing to talk to you. Half the time, you don't even have to do anything, and I'd say I'm average looking, at best. Just play it zen (that is to say, casual) and you'll be fine.
 

Fish and Chips

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All the usual stuff. Have your body facing them, so you appear interested. Don't cross your arms when talking to them; try to appear open and non-guarded.
For the love of God, don't stare at them for too long before actually initiating conversation- you'll either look like a creep or, erm, look like a creep.
Lastly, confidence and non-boring chitchat are win. Or so I hear.