Gay guy may be attracted to me!
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There is so much about this response that I don't understand. Firstly, the words he used were "gay panic", which is slightly different from "someone you definitely aren't interested in". If it was "somebody you definitely aren't interested in", then it would be no different than the advances of an unattractive or unpleasant girl, in which case, being "liberal in this day and age" isn't especially relevant. The difference is the sense of automatic hostility a number of people have displayed, light-heartedly advocating violence or threatening behaviour against a guy who's just trying to enjoy his crush. That people make such jokes so easily speaks badly of the male sense of masculinity. Is it something so fragile, that it's easily understandable to feel threatened by the coincidental interests of another man?Kimarous said:
And yeah, maybe Saintchristopher does want to believe that we, as a culture, have gotten past the point where homophobia is the norm. Would it be so bad to hope that we've learned a single damn thing from every other "minority's" fight against discrimination, by this point? Is it still too much of an assumption to think that we might be able to find some actual lesson about discrimination as a concept, after all this time, rather than requiring every group who faces prejudice to overcome it on a case-by-case basis? Fault him for his naivety, but don't treat him like a fool for his surprise. It's easy to forget, after all, how much the zeitgeist stinks of hypocrisy.
Personally, I'm a little pleased that so many people have responded with "just tell him you're not interested, it's not that big a deal, man up", when compared to the relatively small number of "this is how you get him to fuck off and leave you alone forever" posts. However, when you're starting from the assumption that this just isn't an issue, then it's not strange to be a little disappointed by the fact that people will say such things at all.
I suppose that, ultimately, when you ask the question "Do you believe we're all that liberal?" The answer you get might just be "Well, that's what I'd hoped, anyway..."
I just think he's playing a game with you. He obviously knows you're together with that girl since they are friends.
Maybe he thinks you're a bit awkward around gay people, and therefore he might like teasing you about it (I know I enjoy doing this sometimes). This doesn't mean he has a crush on you.
Talk to him (in private if you can). Ask him what his feelings for you are. If he really loves you, tell him that it's just impossible.
If he's just playing games with you, ask him why and ask him to stop.
Have your girlfriend stop him if he doesn't. (Does she know about all this?)
Don't be to hard on him. Being young and gay is hard enough.
Maybe he thinks you're a bit awkward around gay people, and therefore he might like teasing you about it (I know I enjoy doing this sometimes). This doesn't mean he has a crush on you.
Talk to him (in private if you can). Ask him what his feelings for you are. If he really loves you, tell him that it's just impossible.
If he's just playing games with you, ask him why and ask him to stop.
Have your girlfriend stop him if he doesn't. (Does she know about all this?)
Don't be to hard on him. Being young and gay is hard enough.
Yeah! That'll show him!CoverYourHead said:
Ok you haven't though he might just like you as a friend? This might sound crazy and it depends on your situation but if he's just following you and being nice then maybe he just wants to be friends. I mean, straight girls and guys are friends. Gay girls and straight girls are friends. Why can't straight guys and gay guys be friends? They're no different.
Could be joke? Yes? No?Sneaky llama said:
First, ask him if he does have feelings for you, if he does, then tell him that you're both not homosexual and not interested, and that you wish him the best of luck dealing with haters. Now, if he's not gay, then explain that your friends told you that they all thought that he not only was, but that he had feelings towards you.
So both women AND men are attracted to you? Honestly... I'm really having a hard time trying to feel sorry for you.
Lucky bastard...
Lucky bastard...
Y'know I think I've got that same problem, but I don't know whether or not the guy in question (Nice guy) is actually gay or not, then again I guess he wouldn't go roaming around shouting "I'm gay, I'm gay!".
Whenever he makes moves on me I just try to free myself while saying "No thanks _____" and whenever he says something wierd like "You wanna go makeout?" I just ignore him.
Whenever he makes moves on me I just try to free myself while saying "No thanks _____" and whenever he says something wierd like "You wanna go makeout?" I just ignore him.
That's lame. If his girlfriend go talk to him, he will get the impression that's she's there to tell him to back off.... because of insecurity....Zissors said:
That may be the case, but he will think that it's because "he's gaining some ground" and the the only reasons he can't have.... whoever started this thread is because or the girlfriend. He will double the effort and try to break them apart.
grab him by the ass and call him "Sweet-cheeks"
At the very least, it will definitely let you know if he's interested in you.
At the very least, it will definitely let you know if he's interested in you.
I've had very real firsthand experience in this :/
Showing affection for girls in front of him won't work, since there is something called bisexuality.
Showing affection for girls in front of him won't work, since there is something called bisexuality.
