Girl Magnets

[Watchmacallit]

Confidence goes far.

Also, find girls with similar interests like games and anime. Like I did.

She still cheated on me but eh.

 

[Gerhardt]

Everyone here is going to give you more or less the same few answers, but allow me to throw an extra one in there that may be missed, and no doubt will shatter your hope and self worth..... er... no offense intended...

You may be genetically incompatible with most females.

Despite all of our glorious achievements, our skyscrapers and TeeVees and plastic fake dog shit, we're all still animals deeply hardwired to preset evolutionary conditions. Women can actually smell good mates. Not consciously of course, but on a pheromone level, females can detect certain traits that indicate if you are a good match for creating offspring.

Seriously. Females will (to some degree) show preference toward males that can produce strong, healthy babies, even if babies are not wanted nor intended, it is still a factor.

For example, you mention that you have acne. It's an indicator of poor skin caused by overactive (or under active) sebaceous glands, and its coded into your pheromones along with immune system strength, physical and mental potential.

Alright, so what the fuck was the point of all that? Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to say you're downright fucked with the fairer sex, but if it troubles you so much and you want to change it, be prepared for n up hill battle.

To improve your chances I would add that you may want to start working out. And I don't mean hurr-hurr-meathead working out, but maybe try to starting jogging a few miles? Is there a pool at the college you can use?

Also, if you're looking around campus and basing your wants solely on looks, then you're asking for a kick in the balls. Are there any anime or comi-cons in or around your area? check those out as a way of finding someone who shares your interests. Speaking form experience, a woman that can be your lover and friend with the same interests will go a long way towards a healthy relationship.


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two points for doing this post piss drunk ^^b

 

[Zorak the Mantis]

OP: You can't just expect a beautiful girl to fall into your arms. I've been single for the last year and a half, and believe me, I know it sucks. I hated seeing happy couples all the time, but I didn't gloat and feel sorry for my self. I went out and started meeting girls, mostly through internet dating sites. Yes It can be intimidating because it is really a crap shoot. However, luckily though after a few months of searching I found a girl that I really like and get along with. Sometimes you just have to grab life by the balls and take a chance.

 

[Astoria]

Don't worry about it. Girl magnets tend to attract the wrong type of girls. you just have to find someone with similar interests and values to you and go from there. People really worry about this stuff way too much.

 

[Twilight_guy]

First of all, those girls were shallow and you don't want them. A girl without brains isn't worth fretting over because she'd just bug you. Secondly, Don't be a big scowly angry person. Nobody like the angry guy who lurks in corners and post his problems on a forum, Keep positive, you're find a girl someday and being negative just makes people not want to be around you. Thirdly, there are girl geeks around and they tend to hang out together. I'm not saying it will be easy to spot them but keep your eyes open and maybe you kind find someone who shares your interest. Fourthly, the term is "babe magnet" and only Johnny Bravo can truly be a babe magnet. (Man, he's pretty).

 

[Evidencebased]

I'm. In. College.

And no, there is no anime club. There is a game club, but it has exactly zero women in it.

Or maybe you value an actual relationship too much.

Do you not have normal friends though? If you do are any girls? Do you not like any of them?

I didn't know it was possible to value an actual relationship too much.

And I don't really have any friends. The couple that I do are men.

So start an anime club.

And yeah, if you're not even capable of having female friends, it's gonna be pretty hard to have female romantic partners. Practice talking to women without the pressure of trying to make them go out with you -- talk about classwork or whatever, I don't care. But not having friends could be a symptom of whatever is making you fail as a chick magnet, so I'd do a little soul searching about why you're not great with people (is it because you spend lunch sulkily watching other dudes have fun? ) If you're not naturally good with girls you're gonna have to practice practice practice! "Social skills" has the word "skills" in it because you need to learn them and develop them just like any other skill.

Probably growing up a little more will help too, let you grow out of the acne and maybe put on a little more muscle (if you work out a bit) or mature your features. While you wait for good ol' adulthood to fully kick in, practice your conversational skills like everyone's telling you.

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

-snip-

Bringing up the Physical Shortcomings (Pheromones, suitable mates and what-not) is not the wisest decision. Though it is possible for him to be one of the less suitable mates of our century there is no reason too think that most of it isn't psychological as well. However the facts that you present also have a deep tie with psychology (different emotions, situations, and anything of the sort create different types of chemicals and different levels of certain pheromones), hence is why he should build the confidence to actually be deemed a suitable mate for a woman.

OP - Do as he sais with the Gym and what-not. The endorphins that are generated while exercising have a deep tie with your psychology, and thus in the pheromones you emit, and... thus in the chances of meeting a lovely lady that doesn't cost money up front, but only on a weekly basis. As an example: The summer before last I lost 50 pounds while exercising, and while doing so I felt so good about myself I kept hitting on a gorgeous red-head in a hospital (she was a nurse, before you get the wrong idea) and I kept makin' her blush.

Gerhardt - ty for helping me remember the tie between the 2 lol; completely forgot about it. Silly me.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I think you have some sort of wierd idea that these men are like the fonz or something and have this harem of women that naturally gravitate to them

The reality is more likely that they are friends with these women and probably have mutual guy friends.

You need to stop looking at women as a seperate species they are just people that you can be friends with just like guys.

You say you are a loner, okay so maybe you like a smaller range of friends, that's okay! But you will tend not to meet people unless you mingle a bit. You never know you might have fun.

Maybe have a look around the cafeteria for a female version of yourself rather than ogling the hyper confident girls who probably have nothing in common with you.

 

[Gladiateher]

I have no idea how to imbed this picture or whatever but here ya go anyways.

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my god it's long

 

[Uszi]

Yeah, I think that guys who have girls around them all the time probably have a few friends who are girls. You wouldn't know if they were just a bunch of rotating girl friends unless you were friends with this "magnet." If that were the case, just ask him.

Someone mentioned that you need to talk to girls. Yes. You need to talk to girls to get them to go out with you.

Women are generally very flattered whenever guys show an interest in them. If you think they'll be grossed out or something then you're just being anxious.

If they aren't interested, they'll generally make that clear by ending the conversation or letting it die, or by telling you to your face that they aren't interested, in which case move along.

 

[Alexnader]

Of course, magnetism!

That explains it all. Women aren't humans with complex needs, wants, and opinions. It's so obvious! Actually, wait. Fucking magnets, how do they work?

So yeah, girls more complex than magnetism, which is itself pretty complex. And some people are just really good at physics. Or getting women. Stephen Hawking is both.

The issue is whether the wonderful complexity that is embodied by women translates to complexity in the selection of a mate. At the college level I'd say no, at least when it comes to the initial stages of any courtship. For if women are indeed complicated like an intricate lock mechanism then the guy in the OP's anecdote is a god damn master key, something so intelligently contrived that he provides the solution to the complex needs and wants of all those girls. Yeah that's it... that guy must've been a wonderful, amazing person and all those girls must've been able to recognise that fact immediately.

That or we're all nowhere near as complex as we'd like to think. Irrespective of your gender I'd say that we all have a fairly similar line up of checkboxes that we go through consciously or unconsciously when sizing someone up as a romantic interest. The most important of these is physical attractiveness, as it's the first thing you find out about the person most of the time and it's one of the most critical to a relationship's commencement.

I've heard girls as a collective find a more varied range of physical traits attractive than men do. However when you get down to it some people are just going to fit more people's lists better and a lot of those lists have a lot of overlap between them. Sucks to be an outlier.

 

[Gerhardt]

-snip-

Bringing up the Physical Shortcomings (Pheromones, suitable mates and what-not) is not the wisest decision. Though it is possible for him to be one of the less suitable mates of our century there is no reason too think that most of it isn't psychological as well. However the facts that you present also have a deep tie with psychology (different emotions, situations, and anything of the sort create different types of chemicals and different levels of certain pheromones), hence is why he should build the confidence to actually be deemed a suitable mate for a woman.

OP - Do as he sais with the Gym and what-not. The endorphins that are generated while exercising have a deep tie with your psychology, and thus in the pheromones you emit, and... thus in the chances of meeting a lovely lady that doesn't cost money up front, but only on a weekly basis. As an example: The summer before last I lost 50 pounds while exercising, and while doing so I felt so good about myself I kept hitting on a gorgeous red-head in a hospital (she was a nurse, before you get the wrong idea) and I kept makin' her blush.

Gerhardt - ty for helping me remember the tie between the 2 lol; completely forgot about it. Silly me.

You are absolutely right, what I said was definitely not meant to be taken on its own, rather something to consider as a factor in a much bigger scope. Not the end-all be-all, but rather something just to keep in mind.

Good point also regarding personal endorphins. the better you feel about yourself, the more likely that is to reflect outward to others.

Also, I am reminded of a old Chinese saying: He who want pretty nurse, must be patient.

Look at me, punning at 4:00 in the morning. I sleep now. byyyeeeeeeee.....

 

[debossman21]

man I learned this the hard way. All the hot chicks you see pretty much throwing their self at? Look at him close. if you got a good look at him and the aforementioned females, u see that they are empty. what gives them the edge? looks, money, things that can evaporate in a matter of seconds. what should u have? confidence and determination. hell, it may not work all the time, but it will work much better than hooking with the campus skank

 

[Colour Scientist]

You seem desperate. I think women can see that. Or smell it.

This. This a thousand times. There is nothing worse that a guy, or anyone really, who comes off as really desperate. It's the biggest turn off.

Just be confident.
I know when given this advice a lot of sighing and eye-rolling ensues but it's the truth.
If you don't have any, make some up or do something in order to boost your confidence.

 

[Eduku]

Needless to say, I was just a bit irked. I mean, really, how the fuck can people be so lucky? I mean, did I just get shafted in that department? Here I am, can barely get the time of day from women and people like him have women basically throwing themselves at them.

I mean, I could accept that, yes, fine, some guys through no fault of their just will never have any luck finding women. But does life really need to remind them that they suck and that they've failed at something like that at almost every opportunity?

Well there lies the problem really. You seem to expect women to come to you without any work on your part. Think of social skills like your grades - if you don't work at it, you won't do very well, at all.

OP - Do as he sais with the Gym and what-not. The endorphins that are generated while exercising have a deep tie with your psychology, and thus in the pheromones you emit, and... thus in the chances of meeting a lovely lady that doesn't cost money up front, but only on a weekly basis. As an example: The summer before last I lost 50 pounds while exercising, and while doing so I felt so good about myself I kept hitting on a gorgeous red-head in a hospital (she was a nurse, before you get the wrong idea) and I kept makin' her blush.

Agreed with the exercise and endorphins thing. After my morning runs I always feel slightly more amazing. Plus, you get the added bonus of looking physically looking more attractive if you keep at it! But the most important thing is that it requires work, NOT sitting in the corner feeling sorry for yourself.

Also I love how ironic it is that people automatically assume the other guy is a money-wielding douchebag because he happens to have friends who are girls. And then frown upon the whole nerd stereotype.

 

[5mj7R7yf4Dwr3gdZyyu9PeGNwYjlNrjzuh3iTXQG]

So perhaps today was just out to get me, but damn I hate days like today. When everything seems to just exist to remind me what a sad lonely loser I am...

I cannot help but be reminded of this:

Spoiler: I'm sure you all can work out the metaphor...

Paragon Fury, you're hardly a loser, though we all feel like we are at one point or another. But as Dags90 notes, women are human beings, which are far more complicated than invertebrates compelled to mate by a light frequency or pheromone. More importantly, we want it that way; it's not long after a relationship goes sexually active that a woman who is only interested in your money / fabulous bod / political power / enchanting artistic or musical talent starts seeming just as shallow as a man who only likes a girl for her disproportionate cleavage.

If you find a friend worthy of making a lover, your relationship will last longer, I assure you. And you won't have any reason to envy guys with girls of unknown character crawling over them like drones on a queen.

238U.

 

[Neptoona]

When you learn to let it all go and just relax in life is when something will come up. You should be having fun in life and worrying less. It'll be quality over quantity but most people have to learn all of this the hard way. Not worrying about anything is the key to success!

 

[Najos]

As some others have said, your post leads me to believe your personality is why you don't get women. You seem like a complainer and a self-loather, which women tend to avoid. Confidence, even false confidence, works a lot of the time. Also, talking to them helps too. Instead of just being a creeper and spying on them...

 

[Thaluikhain]

That explains it all. Women aren't humans with complex needs, wants, and opinions. It's so obvious! Actually, wait. Fucking magnets, how do they work?

Exactly.

Women aren't status symbols, they aren't doled out by life to deserving people (or people who claim to be). Women are people, the same as everyone else.

I daresay the OP has things/people that he doesn't like. Are we to berate him for being cruel and heartless for not liking them? Is he rubbing it in to concept/person X who has such a hard life not being liked by people like him?

 

[Smooth Operator]

Needless to say, I was just a bit irked. I mean, really, how the fuck can people be so lucky? I mean, did I just get shafted in that department? Here I am, can barely get the time of day from women and people like him have women basically throwing themselves at them.

To make a simple analogy that better outlines the issue.
See it as a kid that is really into bikes, so very early on he gets on that shit and with his enthusiasm pushes through all the scrapes, bumps and bruises that come with the territory, pretty much makes bikes his main hobby and an intricate part of his life.
With such dedicated training he will earn a mastery that can overshadow even the best in the field.

Compared to that guy you could go and moan how you were never that good with a bike, how you maybe can't even ride one, how it's all hopeless and you can never be that good...
That is just silly, you can learn just like he did, it just takes the commitment to get there.

So in the same way the "chick magnets" have had years of experience with socializing, they know all the little tricks and can play the field masterfully.
Now the only question is do you have the commitment to go out there and learn like he did, or do you prefer sitting at your computer and do other shit?