God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[solaris008]

Meh, it'll blow over eventually. Just don't expect to ever be allowed to house sit again. One time I threw a party at my father's house when he was gone for a few weeks. When he came back there was about 12 ashtrays made out of beer cans and bottles scattered about the house and I had shot the pool table with a 9mm pistol. The bullet fragmented real nice and put about five holes in two different walls. A hatchet was also driven into a wall. Which I can't really account for. I also had two pot plants growing when he came back and cups full of gunpowder sitting everywhere. At some point a pot of pasta got made and shoved under a sofa. He didn't find that until a month later. It was a really strange couple of weeks.

Things were understandably tense afterward, probably more so than in your situation unless you have some unexplainable bullet holes. But the tension fades surprisingly fast. Although now, four years later, I still occasionally get reminded about the pool table and the pasta.

The worst thing you can do is hide from them though. Stick it out as best you can to show them how sorry you are.

 

[Kapol]

Oh, it was mainly this one guy's fault. I'm REALLY pissed off at him. He didn't even help clean up, and one of my friends told me he was laughing and joking about it straight after. I mean, he didn't even put out the fire, he left it and thought it was hilarious.

Actually, that's you're fault for letting the guy come. As I know others have said, everyone there was your responsibility. Hell, you're just lucky that your folks didn't call the cops on you for possession of an illegal substance, let alone underage drinking. I sure as hell would have. Getting past the part where you were enough of an idiot to actually throw a drunken party, you don't actually seemed to have taken anything away from the experience other then 'I shouldn't have let signs of the party/weed so obvious or let my friends dick around with fire.' You realize you broke your parents trust, so that's something. But they should just kick you out of the house in my opinion. You trashed their house and it sounds like you drank their booze (which likely cost quite a bit of money) while they trusted you with the house. You're just lucky your friends didn't burn the place down I suppose.

Honestly, you should just step back and try stopping partying altogether, or at least with different people. It'd be one thing if you had your own place you could destroy, but I'm guessing any other parties you go to will end pretty close to the same way. There's not much you can do to mend your relationship with your folks other then try to make it up to them and prove you can be responsible, though that seems like a stretch at this point.

 

[Peteron]

You should have known perfectly well the consequences of doing this. There is not really any advice to be given to a situation that could have so easily been avoided. I guess the best I can come up with is make your parents proud and don't do it again.

 

[TheRaider]

is your friend getting his weed back?

 

[MetaMuffin]

They will definitely get over it. I guarantee you, your parents have done worse shit. Just apologize, show you're sorry, and try to replace the damaged table...do some extra chores for a while. Running away to Grandma's house is only going to show that you're really immature and can't own up to your mistakes. Show you're an adult.

Edit: Stop hating on the kid. Everyone is allowed a few fuck ups and allowed to have a little fun. Clearly he feels guilty enough about his parents and doesn't need the internet trolling him. Take my advice though, save the partying for college. It's a hell've lot easier and more fun anyway. You will be surprised how much more chill your parents will be about drinking and smoking when you come back. As I said, they've done it before, they just don't want you fucking up their house.

 

[Sinclair Solutions]

Getting past the "I wouldn't have the party" comment you've heard before, I'll try to put myself in your shoes and answer as best I can.

DON'T leave the house. That is just running away from responsibility. As much as it sucks, the mature thing to do is to stick around and face the music. That will already show them you are maturing.

First, apologize in a formal manner. Sit your parents down and tell them how sorry you are. Do what you did in this first post. Admit you fucked up. Admit that you realize you lost their trust and have to work to earn it back.

Then, over time, offer to do whatever you parents ask in order to gain their trust back. If they leave the house again, DON'T hold a party. Realize that that time is for reforging bonds of trust, and one more fuck up could seriously send them over the edge. Just lay low for a while and be the perfect child until they can trust you again. Hopefully, by the time you sense the trust back, you will have learned the right and wrong thing to do. Parties are fun for you? Great. But as most people say, you have to learn to act responsibly. Think about it this way: treat your parents like an employer. If your job was on the line for stupid shit you do, you would take more care in your actions.

 

[Treaos Serrare]

If you were My kid I'd Beat the ever loving fuck out of you to teach you not to do it EVER AGAIN
on top of your beating I'd make you pay for the damages, the weed shit I'd let slide but put the fear of god in the little shit who gave it to you to hold for him.

 

[Thaa'ir]

You made your choices and in the process things that are not yours, but your parents', were destroyed. You don't really deserve to be welcome in your house right now, so getting out for a bit is probably a good idea.

 

[Floppertje]

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

right, here's what you do.
you apologize to your parents for what happened, tell them you understand you shouldn't have thrown a party at their house without them being aware of it.
talk to the friend who gave you the weed, get him to tell your parents it was his. (if they're not going to the police now, I don't think they will when he tells them what happened. taking responsibility usually generates respect).
try to make it up to them, if you can't reasonably repair/replace the table, help around the house more (without waiting to be asked to do so), parents tend to like that.

next time you want to throw a party, just ASK them first. if you promise to pay for the stuff you have to get and to clean up afterwards (and not to invite jerkheads who don't understand that it's impolite to light other people's possessions on fire.

 

[Sir Thomas Sean Connery]

Yes, maybe you should have been more careful and you should apologize, but just to help you case, ask your parents if THEY had honestly never thrown/been to a giant drunken party.

Find a way to work off the damage you caused, it always makes things better.

Then, ask them if they honestly want to disown you over one wild night. Kiss, make up, do it again when you have your own place.

And to everyone else, give some new advice. He KNOWS it's his fault.

Seriously, stop overreacting, people. No one was hurt or killed, nothing extreme (Like a car/house) was destroyed and other than the booze and weed, nothing horribly illegal was performed. Just remind your parents of this.

 

[Lionsfan]

Sorry man but you're completely in the wrong here, you fucked up, now you've got to pay the consequences. If I were you, I wouldn't move over to you're Grandma's house, be an adult and face the music.

As for what to do now, besides staying in your house, just wait. Forgiveness will come eventually, we've all been there before; screwing up so bad you think it's the end of the world. But they're your parents and they love you so eventually they'll move past this. You could offer to fix the damage caused by the party/replacing the damaged table


Edit: I know it's slightly off-topic, but whoo! This is my 1000th post!

 

[Wintermoot]

nope f I want to hide stuff like weed I would hide it in a better way (like in a electronic device.

 

[Charisma]

Dude, doing stupid shit is the whole point of being young. Enjoy your lack of accountability as long as you can, bro. Being grown up sucks ass.

Edit: Just realized I pretty much assumed you're like 18. If that's not true... LOL

 

[boringanarchy]

Just out of curiousity, what the hell did you expect when you posted this thread? Seriously, the entire thing could have been summed up in the following sentence:
"You fucked up, make up, put up, and grow up."
Surely you had realized this on your own, did you really need to open yourself up to a bunch of random strangers on the internet who are going to, more or less, tell you the exact same thing?

 

[Treaos Serrare]

Dude, doing stupid shit is the whole point of being young. Enjoy your lack of accountability as long as you can, bro. Being grown up sucks ass.

that attitude is what will make him just as much a fuck up as an adult as he is now, this mentality seemed idiotic to me as a kid and it still looks idiotic to me now

 

[Charisma]

Dude, doing stupid shit is the whole point of being young. Enjoy your lack of accountability as long as you can, bro. Being grown up sucks ass.

that attitude is what will make him just as much a fuck up as an adult as he is now, this mentality seemed idiotic to me as a kid and it still looks idiotic to me now

Yeah see the difference between you and me is I have faith in humanity. Not that that's necessarily good or smart, but I just assumed he'd blossom into a better and smarter adult later, who's deeper and more interesting for the mistakes he made as a callow youth.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

Of course you can't reason with them. You acted like an irresponsible cock. Leaving the house will make things worse, since that is the irresponsible thing to do.

Seriously, how is this a question? You screwed up, now man up and deal with it. Work to regain their trust. Stop messing up their shit because you "love parties."

 

[Guffe]

Parties = fun (most of the time)
But the things that might happen there are often things that might end up horribly. Talk with your mom and let her know your sorry (althou she should know it wasn't your intention to get the table burnt, still it's on your neck). The weed, I have no idea, only having weed in Finland is crazy dangerous if you see what kind of sentences you got for possession of illegal drugs.
Anyway good luck and I hope you fix this!

 

[justnotcricket]

Whatever you do, DO NOT run away from what's happened. It's only going to make your parents think even less of you, and delay any solution to the problem. Besides, it's immature.

You threw a party, it got out of your control, bad stuff happened to things that don't belong to you, and the people they do belong to are mad at you. Your situation is very simple, and the only way you're going to get out of it is to repair the damage, literally and figuratively.

Show that you want to make things right:

1) Apologise simply but sincerely to your parents

2) Try to replace or repair anything that was broken/destroyed

3) Don't throw any more parties at your house - more particularly, if you want to throw a party, authorise it with your parents *beforehand* and maybe try to keep better control of the situation. Alternatively, hold the party somewhere else, where no-one's stuff is going to get damaged.

Clearly, you realise that you've done something wrong. This is a good sign - don't ruin it by running away from the problem. Man up and solve it! It'll take time before your parents come right, but place yourself in their position - you'd be mad if someone had a party in your room and wrecked your stuff without telling you, they have a right to be too. Your advantage comes from the fact that they are your parents, and will probably come right faster than you think - but only if you make the effort as well.

EDIT: As for the marijuana thing - don't hold onto anything like that for a friend. All that's doing is transferring any potential heat from them to you, and a good friend wouldn't put you in that position.