Guys and their choices of women...

[sumanoskae]

Usually when people do this it's because they're masochistic. The same way people become sadistic and want to hurt other people the same way they were hurt, they can also start to get off on the pain. And when a masochist ends up in a relationship it's often with someone they know will hurt them, to them pain is like a drug. He's probably attracted to her BECAUSE she's a ball busting *****, but hey I don't know the guy so that's just speculation.

It's not a normal guy thing(but I don't really believe in guy or girl things), it's a human thing, it's not at all exclusive to one gender. You see this all over the place, a lot of the abused women you hear about are masochists also

 

[Hutch Hutchenson]

Actually my friend did this same thing. He basically threw me and all the rest of the guys on the fence for about two years....Getting a "girlfriend" is one thing but that doesn't mean you should just sweep the one's who have been there for you before she even got there under the rug....

 

[Seldon2639]

I've never done anything that bad, but yeah, there are a lot of guys who'll tolerate and forgive a lot of abuse. My worst was continuing to be the moral support and voice to cry on for a henious girl who managed to create a schism in my group of friends. But, my best friend:

-Had his girlfriend cheat on him with her ex
-Forgave her
-Had her claim that she couldn't love my friend completely because she'd "given part of her heart" to her ex
-Was cheated on again
-Forgave her
-Was broken up with by her
-Still acted as her support system when she went out and did drugs.

So... Yeah... We're idiots when it comes to pretty (or even not-so-pretty) girls. If we feel appreciated, and like we're actually liked, we'll bend over backwards most of the time. It's only after being convinced that the girl is really, really, not interested in us as anything other than emotional punching-bags/stuffed animals, that we bristle.

 

[scrambledeggs]

I've done this..

It's not as easy for some people..

 

[jboking]

Men baffle me.

I made the mistake a long time ago of assuming that certain annoying personality quirks regarding ones love life only existed in females, and I believe you might be doing the same thing with males. The fact is, that these traits(or damn near any for that matter) are not specific to any one gender, instead, they vary from person to person. It's not that your friend is a guy, it's that he is an idiot who didn't learn his lesson the first time. I know plenty of girls who have done the same exact thing(some of their stories even involved her boyfriend beating her).

So now he is going to re-invite her into his life thinking she has changed and she will use him again. It's a cycle that people with low self-esteem typically get drawn into. All your friend needs to do is remember that sometimes holding a grudge isn't a bad thing.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

some people are more or less, idiots...

no way around it, I hate being used. and I mean HATE it...
like the whole "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me." thing goes more like "Fool me once you get a warning, fool me twice say hello to the worms."

I rather like not being imprisoned for murder, so I tend to issue a warning, and distance myself from the person responsible.

any guy who crawls back to anyone, deserves the hurt they get. I mean damn anyone who's that whipped can't be called a Man anymore, more like a dog.

/end disgusted rant

 

[SendMeNoodz84]

Hahahaha

A relationship that started through XBL.

Kinda' sad really.

 

[mobsterlobster]

I used to be like that guy. I had no confidence and society convinced me I needed to be in a relationship to feel normal, and I think that's what made me stupidly desperate.
Now I'm the opposite. I never get feelings for anyone and I'm just not interested in being in a relationship. It's just too much hassle and I don't think anyone's right for me.

Don't be too hard on him. He's a fool, but it's not easy for him.

But don't let him off for ignoring all his friends. When he gets hurt and when he comes running to you, be a little mad at him, but be there for him if he needs someone.

 

[VanityGirl]

Hahahaha

A relationship that started through XBL.

Kinda' sad really.

Hey now, my relationship started through XBL and it's working fine.
Also I'm not social inept and I look pretty damn cute too. =P

 

[la-le-lu-li-lo]

-A guy meets a girl, on XBL.

See now this is where it all went wrong.

This is pretty much what I was thinking... :/

I don't stand for being used, because to me it translates to a basic lack of respect.

I'm pretty big on respect myself, but I suppose that's a personal thing.

 

[VanityGirl]

-A guy meets a girl, on XBL.

See now this is where it all went wrong.

This is pretty much what I was thinking... :/

I don't stand for being used, because to me it translates to a basic lack of respect.

I'm pretty big on respect myself, but I suppose that's a personal thing.

Yeah, that's why I kind of wish he'd smell the coffee. She didn't respect him enough the first time around and just used him and dumped him.
*sigh*
I guess history will just have to repeat itself for him to get the picture.

 

[Newmera]

This happened to my dads friend kinda..hes a total *****. His wife left him once, to get back with some guy, and took the two kids, and then about...two years later he dumped her and she went crying back to my dads friend 'cause the dumb slut needs a man to depend on, cant work a damned day...anyway, now its one year after that and shes leaving him AGAIN for another guy. And my dads friend is all like "Well i still love her you knowww" and stuff....uugh i would never go back to an ex anyway..thats like admitting defeat lol.

 

[little.09]

kick him in the balls? it solves everything

 

[la-le-lu-li-lo]

I just dont get the whole meeting someone online, let alone online "dating" which is just bizzare to me.

I have one friend I met online, over uh, six years ago. He lives in Canada!

So I sorta get it, but not the dating part, you're right. My friend tried dating a girl by meeting her on WoW... She 'came to visit', and somehow we didn't see her. Miraculous. Worst part is, he's probably one of the most attractive guys I've ever met / know, but he's very very insecure... Sooo... Yeah, stupid.

Yeah, that's why I kind of wish he'd smell the coffee. She didn't respect him enough the first time around and just used him and dumped him.
*sigh*
I guess history will just have to repeat itself for him to get the picture.

Or he'll marry her and she'll get him to buy her a house / car / [insert crap here]... "Oh baby, we don't need a pre-nup."

And then he'll be broke.

 

[VanityGirl]

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Yeah, that's why I kind of wish he'd smell the coffee. She didn't respect him enough the first time around and just used him and dumped him.
*sigh*
I guess history will just have to repeat itself for him to get the picture.

Or he'll marry her and she'll get him to buy her a house / car / [insert crap here]... "Oh baby, we don't need a pre-nup."

And then he'll be broke.

Probably will happen. I dunno. I mean, in all honesty, it wouldn't affect my daily life if they got married, but the guy's friends he has out of the gaming world would definately not be happy with him.

 

[SendMeNoodz84]

Hahahaha

A relationship that started through XBL.

Kinda' sad really.

Hey now, my relationship started through XBL and it's working fine.
Also I'm not social inept and I look pretty damn cute too. =P

Don't be too modest.

 

[VanityGirl]

Hahahaha

A relationship that started through XBL.

Kinda' sad really.

Hey now, my relationship started through XBL and it's working fine.
Also I'm not social inept and I look pretty damn cute too. =P

I must say, WoW, XBL, and PSN relationships are look down upon unfairly. It's ironic that it's normally done by other gamers, since we of all people should know that that it's not that bad. However, when it comes to this it's like most people are the media. "It's sad" and more. Kinda stupid, IMO.

My name fits. VanityGirl
vanity- the excessive belief in one's own abilities or attractiveness to others

 

[la-le-lu-li-lo]

Probably will happen. I dunno. I mean, in all honesty, it wouldn't affect my daily life if they got married, but the guy's friends he has out of the gaming world would definately not be happy with him.

Anyone that ditches friends for a girl, especially a girl who's using him, is not a good friend. Fuck him.

At least not as far as I'm concerned. I'm starting to realize why I have no so few friends.