I finally have a girlfriend! I am so happy I'm posting it-Wait, she's also with my best friend?

[Brad Shepard]

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This is the only thing i can say, Dump the girl, and warn your best friend, I can say from my few years of knowing one of my best friends, he lets girls get in the way of his friends and well, everything else, so just warn him and if he takes your words to heart, good, if not, tell him not to ***** at you when she does it to him.

 

[A velociraptor]

In short...

In long...

 

[Ghostkai]

Get out of there, it WILL all blow up at some stage.

 

[shticks]

Well, your friend is a jerk, the girl is a *****. Dump em both.

This...... There are better people to spend your time with.

One other piece of advice. Don't let that ass punch you in the stomach over a chick. Stand up for yourself man.

 

[Ekit]

The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her, I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

So she is your girlfriend, but his girlfriend too at the same time?
Have you talked to her about this? Maybe you should ask her how she feels and which one of you she likes the most.

And another thing I forgot to bring up but no one asked, it really isn't that serious, and I have no intentions of making it so, I just want to be able to get out of it without any of my friends, or me, feeling hurt.

If it isn't serious then you probably won't get hurt.

 

[Mookie_Magnus]

Polyamoury is not necessarily a bad thing. Provided that both you and your friend are okay with the fact that she's dating both of you, then you shouldn't be hitting each other about it.

I suppose that you and your friend could become boyfriends along with dating your mutual girlfriend... That would be a way to solve some problems, I guess.
I recommend this course of action... a lot.

 

[Superhyperactiveman]

She's not worth it. The fact that she's cheating on someone means she is a whore. You're not even number 1. You're number 2. He's always going to take priority over you, because he was there first. Get the fuck out. Get a girl who's not cheap.

 

[Lucifron]

She's cheating on one of you. Get out of their now, and spread rumours that she has Herpes.

Quoted for absolute truth. Consider getting rid of your "friend" too.

 

[Yeager942]

If your friend doesn't know that your dating her, I say dump the *****. Its not your friend's fault for dating the same girl your dating, but if he knew about it, then things are much more complicated....

 

[Jewrean]

Threesome

Duh.

Threesome with two dudes? Meh...

ANYWAY! Yeah sorry but she's a *****. Get what you can out of her and when you realize that she is a hoover then dump her.

I don't have a girlfriend and never have so I can relate to you.

 

[LordWalter]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend. It's a little uncomfortable, knowing that if go to far (as in, he punched me in the stomach for putting my arm around her), I could get the shit beat out of me (as happened when there wasn't any bad blood between us while playing a card game).

I would just say "Look, I think that you should be with (Best Friend) for now, not me and him" but I partially initiated this, and I do not want to hurt anyone. So, any suggestions would be extremely appreciated, and just some plain old friendship would be very helping.

INITIATE A TACTICAL WITHDRAWAL.

Then kill them both in a dismemberment-filled blaze of glory.

 

[crazypsyko666]

It's really up to her. If all of you are set on being monogamous, then she should pick. Don't start shit or get in anyone's way. The only backup you have after that is to walk away while everything blows up.

P.S.: Situation doesn't look good for any of you.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I was in a similar situation. It created a lot of bullshit between me and one of my best friends for a while, before we eventually mutually decided that the person was not worth being angry over, or being with. If she is cheating on someone with his best friend, she is not worth your, or anyone else's time.

 

[Extra-Ordinary]

Either way, GET THE FUCK OUT NOW MAN!!

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Agreed.

 

[AgDr_ODST]

I guess I should explain a bit better.

Yes, she is in fact my girlfriend, as she told me that I was her boyfriend several times, even going as far as to kiss me, grab my hand, and other such romantic things without any input from me.

The friend is not an ass. He really isn't that bad of a guy, and I know I might have put him in a bad light, but there was reason behind me getting hit. Such as the punch to the stomach wasn't with any bad intentions, just normal messing around for such and such reasons that started with a normal joke, but escalated a little. It's more that he can do it than anything else that is a little unnerving.

The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her, I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

And another thing I forgot to bring up but no one asked, it really isn't that serious, and I have no intentions of making it so, I just want to be able to get out of it without any of my friends, or me, feeling hurt.

Once again, thanks for any input from you guys, you've become almost like another family to me over the past few months I've been here, and it's good knowing you guys will actually talk to me, and others in the community, about problems they are having.

well when you put it this way it makes a hell of alot more sense. Sounds like you've got a good girlfriend and a decent bestfriend. But you may wanna clear the air with your buddy or just ask him to stop fucking around like that and stop hitting punching you. Also understand that alittle bit of jealousy/posessivness which is what I see the being uncomfortable as is normal cause that means you care enough about her and your relationship with her that you don't want to have to fear that she's cheating

(and fyi you may wanna edit your original post and add what you said above to it)

 

[JourneyThroughHell]

So... he's your best friend... and he punched you in the stomach.
As most of the thread has already said, to hell with them both.

I guess I should explain a bit better.

Yes, she is in fact my girlfriend, as she told me that I was her boyfriend several times, even going as far as to kiss me, grab my hand, and other such romantic things without any input from me.

The friend is not an ass. He really isn't that bad of a guy, and I know I might have put him in a bad light, but there was reason behind me getting hit. Such as the punch to the stomach wasn't with any bad intentions, just normal messing around for such and such reasons that started with a normal joke, but escalated a little. It's more that he can do it than anything else that is a little unnerving.

The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her, I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

And another thing I forgot to bring up but no one asked, it really isn't that serious, and I have no intentions of making it so, I just want to be able to get out of it without any of my friends, or me, feeling hurt.

Once again, thanks for any input from you guys, you've become almost like another family to me over the past few months I've been here, and it's good knowing you guys will actually talk to me, and others in the community, about problems they are having.

Oh, if you put it that way.
I don't know, talk with your friend? Or force her into choosing? Or just silently quit?

 

[Stoic raptor]

So, all three of you consented to this triangle dating, but you secretly don't consent?

Should have said no in the 1st place

 

[saintchristopher]

What the fuck? What are you, 12? If this girl thinks nothing of dating two people at once, let alone best friends, then I don't know what you see in her. I say remove yourself from this situation as fast as you fucking can.

 

[SovietX]

Well...This is pretty retarded. Relationships with more than 2 people are impossible to work with. (Unless your from one of the cool countrys where having 7 wives is the same as having 1 on and off girlfriend) So either get out, or get him out. Because I tell you, if you push for a threesome, its not going to be the threesome you want to share with you best friends when hanging out i can tell you that.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Ask Ackbar...

OT: She may be your gal, but she's every ones pal!

This.

OP, you do know you've just declared yourself a *communist, right?

[sup]*Everybody gets a share.[/sup]