I finally have a girlfriend! I am so happy I'm posting it-Wait, she's also with my best friend?

[Rakkana]

I'd say get out while you can, but you won't will you?

 

[Jirlond]

You will probably ignore everyone because you simply wanted to make the point of having a girlfriend!

This girl seems like the attention seeking type - she is trying to get you two to fall out for the durama - I would cut the ***** loose before she causes anymore problems, but both you and your friend need to agree on it otherwise one will resent the other.

 

['Aredor]

I don't know if anyone else suggested it already but here goes:

1. Go watch Chasing Amy if you haven't already.
Why would anyone not have?
2. Take your best friend and the girl and have the same sit-down with them that Holden had.
Yes, physical aggression amongst males can be a sign of sexual affection.
3. Either way, your problem should be solved.
and if not, you at least re-enacted one of the greatest scenes in cinema history.

 

[Kermi]

If she's with another guy, she's not really your girlfriend. You might be one of her boyfriends, but what you currently have is an open relationship. If you want a girlfriend, it comes with the pricetag of exclusivity.

 

[Digitaldreamer7]

ok u need to
1. Make her a Chinese finger trap (or fuck her if she's not down with the three way
2 tell this dude about it (just cause he sounds like a wanker
3, tell them both to get fucker
4. fuck her best friend in the butt.

IMHO

 

[ohellynot]

She's cheating on one of you. Get out of their now, and spread rumours that she has Herpes.

maybe not the herpes part, they may aassume that you got them from her and you'l be as bad off, or worse yet, that she got them from you.

 

[.Ricks.]

I was in that situation recently. Believe me, when I realized that she just wanted all she could get I dumped her, she came crawling back but always wanting us both so I said no.
Thing is it's no use to spoil a friendship that you value and neither is going after a Girl that's just toying with you both.

Have a hard talk with her and decide what to do, what she wants and if this isn't just one sick game.

 

[Ulquiorra4sama]

I honestly don't see why you'd let it go as far as becoming a relationship anyway. The first thing you should do when you find out your girlfriend is with someone else is to tell her to make up her mind because things like this never ends well. Alternatively if you knew she had someone else then you shouldn't have gotten together with her in the first place.

 

[MasterChief892039]

ITT: Guy who can't tell the difference between casual dating and a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

 

[kilativ15]

Shes playing you two against each other i think. Does she know that you two know that shes dating both of you?
And mate genuinely, I say leave her its not worth the mindfuck. As for your friend, i dunno, was he angry? Cause people do stupid things when angry. Otherwise hes just a **** really...

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Epitome]

Well your clearly not too serious. So why not just have a little fun? If you say its a running joke that you dont have a gf then ffs dont look a gift horse in the mouth? Can you not just enjoy the time you and her spend together and try and block out the whole third party thing?

I get that its a far from perfect situation, but your not reeealy dating her. Shes not a girlfriend in teh strict sense of the world, shes just somebody your seeing. So you kinda either have to get over it and enjoy it and dont consider how your mate feels cause sounds like hes not considering how you feel? So if you get a few wild nights out of it before the whole thing comes tumbling down so be it

 

[The Hairminator]

PS, if the people on this site are like a family to you, I feel really, really sorry for you. Your 'family' is a bunch of gamer retards. Look at me, my profile pic is a rat and I'm making fun of you. Do I seem like the kind of person you want to go to for emotional support?

Dude, I think he meant people like me.

Spoiler: Wat do.

First you'll need to collect the three pieces of triforce, and to do that you must slay Ganon and rescue the princess (the real princess, not your promiscous girlfriend) and also kidnap Link. After acquiring the three golden triangles you shall travel to the moon with Arnold Swartzenegger on a magic whale. When you arrive on the moon you shall promptly eat the whale (before any of you spit out your tea/milk/coffe/absinth in rage, I should tell you that eating whale is alright again, as proved in the whale eating thread yesterday) as a test, to get past the teenage mutant ninja turtles who guard the gates to the moon's core. You could show the turtles the triforce and just pass, but eat the whale anyway since your hungry. Then when you enter the moon's core and find that earth's satelite actually is steam-powered, sacrifice Arnold to Odin for divine knowledge and spare parts. Be careful, as everyone knows Terminators are almost impossible to kill. After he is dead, take the spare parts and build a space time machine mobile out of the steam engine, then rip a hole in the space/time weave, and drift between dimensions. Then, wait until you see a dimension entirely made of cake, then jump in it! This won't solve your problems with your girlfriend and friend but you won't care since you're far away in a dimension MADE OUT OF CAKE!

 

[GiantSpiderGoat]

Task 1: Dump GF and Dump BF (Best friend)

Task 2: Get a better GF and find new friends

Task 3: Send email to old GF & BF of you plowing your new GF while your new friends cheer you on.

 

[ClunkiestTurtle]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend.

Ok so im guessing your what like 15 or so maybe yeh? so you clearly have much to learn.

Take it from someone who has been in many a relationship that what your describing isn't a normal relationship and its certainly not one that you want to be (in your mind at least) your first proper relationship.

Seriously it sounds like you are at best being strung along and at worst being used, i can understand you have never had a girlfriend and thats somewhat of a sore point for someone of your age but don't try and hang on to this because of that reason. Its only going to get you hurt and maybe taint your relationships in future so just get the hell out of that situation and your "best friend" isnt really sounding much of a friend at all so maybe its best to distance yourself from him as well but even if you disagree guys soon turn on each other when theres a woman involved and its only a matter of time before things get nasty.

This can only end badly and it sounds like your the one whose going to be left broken with no one around to help you pick up the pieces.

 

[Ninja Monkey]

" I finally have a girlfriend! I am so happy I'm posting it-Wait, she's also with my best friend?"

My 2 cents, derived from the title and your other posts.

I assume she is your first (as the title suggests), but do not get carried away. You can have friends which are female and that is a good thing, as you can never have a shortage of friends. Are you sure that she does not view your relationship in that light? To elaborate, she knows you (through your best mate) and therefore also knows that you are not a complete arse (my assumption.) From experience women refer to their friends of the same gender as 'girlfriends.' Maybe there might be a little misinterpreting of the phrase 'boyfriend' on your part.

But not to worry, Uncle Ninjamonkey has a foolproof 'Is she my girlfriend?' test.... Answer this:

- Have you had angry 'kiss and make up' sex?

1) No - She is your friend, do not confuse caring about each other with a meaningful relationship
2) Yes - You are in a world of pain with your best mate. Run Forrest RUN!
3) Errr, what? - Goto 1

Either way, my advice would be (Female posters please feel free to rip me to shreds on this): Does she have any goodlooking friends?

Peace and love

 

[yoyo13rom]

Threesome

Duh.

Great idea! High-five!

*snip* *snip*

After your edit I think I get it. Why can I understand your situation? Because I was in your best friends position(and still am).

So the way I see it:
-She's with you(officially), but she likes to hang out(maybe flirt) with your "best friend".
-But she's not with him, and both she and him said there's nothing(officially) between each other.
I just can't understand why people get so worked up about a girlfriend hanging out with other people, and being open minded about "open relationships"(you can be with as many people at once as you like).

If they hang out, that doesn't mean they're doing it/she's cheating on you.

To clear things up, just ask your best friend what he feels about her, and ask him what his intentions are. Is he just friends with her and like a somewhat running joke(that's it I my case) likes to flirt with her, because they like each other, but they would never hurt your feelings as friends(sounds complicated, so let me simplify it: they're flirting as a joke, just to make you gelous, although she'd never cheat on you, but if she had never met you, her second option would be him -that's my life story, but we've all made amends and agreed non verbally that we'll try to maintain our friendships intact rather than our love lives-).

Damn it I'v started to rant again!

OK so you must ask you bro what's the deal:
-are they just friends and like to gang out, and he'd like to come with you and her on some of your less private dates;
-is this a competition for how gets the girl and may the best man win?
-did she tell him she's his GF and she's working you guys against each other(or something like that)?

And those are kind all the possibilities.
If the guy is in fact your best friend, then asking him and clearing things out should be the best solution. As bros you have to work the problem out together.

I hope I helped... anyway god job on making a girlfriend!

 

[yoyo13rom]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend. It's a little uncomfortable, knowing that if go to far (as in, he punched me in the stomach for putting my arm around her), I could get the shit beat out of me (as happened when there wasn't any bad blood between us while playing a card game).

I would just say "Look, I think that you should be with (Best Friend) for now, not me and him" but I partially initiated this, and I do not want to hurt anyone. So, any suggestions would be extremely appreciated, and just some plain old friendship would be very helping.

I've answered this in the Relationship problem thread, at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=40#7089571

You know what, maybe you should forget my advice and go with this guy's. Why? Because she's the Escapist (Love) "Advice Guy", and he's pretty good at his job, too.

 

[Lethkhar]

Wow, that's really fucked up.

I would probably point out how fucked up it is, say that you'd rather not be dating someone who's already dating someone else, and hope it works out. I don't know why you'd want to be friends with such weird people, to be honest.