Maybe not the right place to ask but..

[WolfMage]

Simple answer. (As if there ever were any.)
Don't sit idly by, hoping, get the FUCK UP AND GET HER.
Friend in the way? Tough shit for his waffles. Go and show her why you are the only man for her.
She likes him better? Win her over, possibly while smacking him in the bonce.
Basically, no waiting, be tough or fail.

 

[PureBredGentleman]

Simple answer. (As if there ever were any.)
Don't sit idly by, hoping, get the FUCK UP AND GET HER.
Friend in the way? Tough shit for his waffles. Go and show her why you are the only man for her.
She likes him better? Win her over, possibly while smacking him in the bonce.
Basically, no waiting, be tough or fail.

If that candy heart on your avatar really exists, that would be the perfect way to tell her.
She likes romantic things, but she also loves comedy.

 

[The_Deleted]

You'll end up in the friend zone.
All's fair in love and war. You kick his ass with your love gun.


Or something.

um, the 'love gun' in kiss' song, was actually a metaphor for the singers dick, so if he kicked his friends ass with his love gun...hed basically be buttfucking his mate.

WOW!!Thanks for clearing that up. You must be some kind of frikkin' genius for pointing out the blindingly obvious!!

 

[Ashbax]

You'll end up in the friend zone.
All's fair in love and war. You kick his ass with your love gun.


Or something.

um, the 'love gun' in kiss' song, was actually a metaphor for the singers dick, so if he kicked his friends ass with his love gun...hed basically be buttfucking his mate.

WOW!!Thanks for clearing that up. You must be some kind of frikkin' genius for pointing out the blindingly obvious!!

Interesting. So you are a male, into buttfucking other males? If you don't mind, I will keep my distance.

 

[BonsaiK]

To the OP: my response is in this thread:

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=1

 

[The_Deleted]

You'll end up in the friend zone.
All's fair in love and war. You kick his ass with your love gun.


Or something.

um, the 'love gun' in kiss' song, was actually a metaphor for the singers dick, so if he kicked his friends ass with his love gun...hed basically be buttfucking his mate.

WOW!!Thanks for clearing that up. You must be some kind of frikkin' genius for pointing out the blindingly obvious!!

Interesting. So you are a male, into buttfucking other males? If you don't mind, I will keep my distance.

I've just read my post back. Sorry. What I meant was. Yes. I know.

 

[j0z]

Go get her!
If she has a Myspace/facebook, contact her that way (if you don't have a myspace/facebook, then get one! that is the only reason I have one)
Tomorrow drive down to her place (or be driven, whatever the case may be) and ask her to a movie, or at least set up a time for a date.
Also, you said you didn't have a phone, find an excuse to go to someone's house, then use their phone while you are visiting. Or there was once this relic called a "pay phone" sometimes these relics of earlier times can still be found.

 

[Bat Vader]

I see. Well, I choose to be alone and I choose to not socialize so as long as there is no law that says I have to be social or help someone out then I am alright.

Legally, yes. Morally? Not so much.

I go by my own morals. Why do you care so much how I live my life? How exactly does it affect you if I talk to someone at work or if I stay silent. Exactly how does it affect you or anyone else if I don't get a girlfriend?

It affects me because it affects society. Our infrastructure, our first world standard of living, rests on the backs of our actions. And when you are willfully inefficient, it brings ALL of us down. Society is for the common good, and when you act in your own self interest, it is leeching off the rest of us. That is why I care. That is why YOU should care.

Tell me. What exactly do you contribute to society besides chastising me for not caring about people except my family.

Let me think. Five peer reviewed papers, three patents, an entire lab of scientists doing experiments on psychology is essentially managed by me (as most of the others are too busy to do so; my data analysis is more important, but more computer oriented, so I have some free time). All of this unraveling many mysteries of the brain and behavior. Our research directly led to the development of a newer generation anti-depressant, which may result in a new front line attack on intractable depression.

Yeah, I'd say I've personally contributed a lot to society, by working on a team. Thanks.

If you have done so much why do you chastise me for not liking people? How can I believe you have done this stuff? You have no proof besides it coming from your own mouth.

If you are this busy why do you play videogames and hang out on a gaming forum? I choose not to be social. I get my dose of teamwork at work.

For the same reason a good number of M.D.'s play golf; we all need down time. It is inefficient to work without rest for long periods of time. More than that, I've long since decided to give back to communities using my knowledge, mostly in the form of making sure science and logic are not misappropriated or inaccurately attacked. This usually comes in the force of creationists, but I noticed a psychologically inaccurate post on this forum while watching some of the videos, and here we are. If you don't notice, I'm relatively recent, though I have a relatively high number of posts per day. That is the reason.

I chastise you for the same reason I chastise anyone who denies logic or leads to an inefficiency; it hurts society as a whole to do what you do. I can think of nothing more anti-social and selfish as to refuse to support the infrastructure to the best of ones ability, and it is quite obvious you are working below your ability. That is why I chastise you. Simple, no?

I respect the fact that you give back to the community and help people. I am an introvert. I can't stand large groups of people which is why I hate working in teams. I dis-trust everyone with the exception of my family.

I have been betrayed before and I wish not to be betrayed again. That is why I am a loner. I like to help people but only by myself. One question though is how would be having a girlfriend help society? I am just curious about that.

I believe we have gotten off on the wrong foot and I wish to apologize for how I acted towards you. Just don't start chastising people until you get their full story.

 

[Mewick_Alex]

Of course, this all depends on if she WANTS a boyfriend at the moment. Assuming she does, and assuming she doesn't have anyone in particular in mind, then being the first one there for her is key.

When I first met my girlfriend I was smitten for a good long while, but never made a move. Another guy who was also after her stepped in and they started going out, but luckily for me he was a complete dick to her so she dumped him around a year later. A few months after that I finally got round to asking her out and we've been together for almost 4 years now.

The funny thing is she sain that she was after me all along, but didn't think I was interested because i never said anything.

Also:

she recently broke up with a previous boyfriend. And guess who is there to comfort her? Not me that's for damn sure.

Be very careful here, if they broke up quite recently then she may not be over him. You don't want to be a rebound. Just be there for her but dont be too forward. Give her time.

EDIT: Only just noticed this is around half a year after the original post. Did you get the girl in the end? I like happy endings.

She has a rebound right now actually. And yesterday was the Original Post, so you didn't miss much. If the rebound gets dumped in the next few weeks, maybe I will make my move. But should I really do that? My friend and I decided that we both lost since she met her rebound, and just plain said it. Bros before Hos. We decided we will just be friends with her and no more. Would it be cruel to ask her out or at least talk to her abut the situation first?

Whoops, I was looking at when you joined not when the post was. My bad

Wow the situation just keeps getting worse... I don't envy you, my friend. If she does break up with the rebound guy then you should definitely give her some time before asking her, being the rebound of a rebound would just suck.

Concerning the situation with your friend, have another chat about it if she becomes free again and see what his intentions are. If he's still after her then you should both call it quits, no point wasting a friendship over a girl who may not even say yes to either of you. Hopefully, though, he'll have his eye on someone else by then.

 

[Sandstorms Insomnia]

I agree with the Mewick_Alex's view point (I'm new to this wonderful forum (Escapist forums, I don't know how to do the copy "someone else post in a box" thing).

 

[PureBredGentleman]

I agree with the Mewick_Alex's view point (I'm new to this wonderful forum (Escapist forums, I don't know how to do the copy "someone else post in a box" thing).

You just hit the rather large
"quote" button on the post you want to copy.

 

[PureBredGentleman]

Of course, this all depends on if she WANTS a boyfriend at the moment. Assuming she does, and assuming she doesn't have anyone in particular in mind, then being the first one there for her is key.

When I first met my girlfriend I was smitten for a good long while, but never made a move. Another guy who was also after her stepped in and they started going out, but luckily for me he was a complete dick to her so she dumped him around a year later. A few months after that I finally got round to asking her out and we've been together for almost 4 years now.

The funny thing is she sain that she was after me all along, but didn't think I was interested because i never said anything.

Also:

she recently broke up with a previous boyfriend. And guess who is there to comfort her? Not me that's for damn sure.

Be very careful here, if they broke up quite recently then she may not be over him. You don't want to be a rebound. Just be there for her but dont be too forward. Give her time.

EDIT: Only just noticed this is around half a year after the original post. Did you get the girl in the end? I like happy endings.

She has a rebound right now actually. And yesterday was the Original Post, so you didn't miss much. If the rebound gets dumped in the next few weeks, maybe I will make my move. But should I really do that? My friend and I decided that we both lost since she met her rebound, and just plain said it. Bros before Hos. We decided we will just be friends with her and no more. Would it be cruel to ask her out or at least talk to her abut the situation first?

Whoops, I was looking at when you joined not when the post was. My bad

Wow the situation just keeps getting worse... I don't envy you, my friend. If she does break up with the rebound guy then you should definitely give her some time before asking her, being the rebound of a rebound would just suck.

Concerning the situation with your friend, have another chat about it if she becomes free again and see what his intentions are. If he's still after her then you should both call it quits, no point wasting a friendship over a girl who may not even say yes to either of you. Hopefully, though, he'll have his eye on someone else by then.

That's the thing, this girl is quick on her feet. If you don't ask her out quickly, she'll go out with the first guy to give her a nice look. For all I know every boyfriend up until her first may have been a rebound. She doesn't have much self confidence.

 

[WolfMage]

Simple answer. (As if there ever were any.)
Don't sit idly by, hoping, get the FUCK UP AND GET HER.
Friend in the way? Tough shit for his waffles. Go and show her why you are the only man for her.
She likes him better? Win her over, possibly while smacking him in the bonce.
Basically, no waiting, be tough or fail.

If that candy heart on your avatar really exists, that would be the perfect way to tell her.
She likes romantic things, but she also loves comedy.

I do believe that there was someone online who'd ship a box of hearts like these.
Wish I remembered what site.

 

[Mewick_Alex]

Of course, this all depends on if she WANTS a boyfriend at the moment. Assuming she does, and assuming she doesn't have anyone in particular in mind, then being the first one there for her is key.

When I first met my girlfriend I was smitten for a good long while, but never made a move. Another guy who was also after her stepped in and they started going out, but luckily for me he was a complete dick to her so she dumped him around a year later. A few months after that I finally got round to asking her out and we've been together for almost 4 years now.

The funny thing is she sain that she was after me all along, but didn't think I was interested because i never said anything.

Also:

she recently broke up with a previous boyfriend. And guess who is there to comfort her? Not me that's for damn sure.

Be very careful here, if they broke up quite recently then she may not be over him. You don't want to be a rebound. Just be there for her but dont be too forward. Give her time.

EDIT: Only just noticed this is around half a year after the original post. Did you get the girl in the end? I like happy endings.

She has a rebound right now actually. And yesterday was the Original Post, so you didn't miss much. If the rebound gets dumped in the next few weeks, maybe I will make my move. But should I really do that? My friend and I decided that we both lost since she met her rebound, and just plain said it. Bros before Hos. We decided we will just be friends with her and no more. Would it be cruel to ask her out or at least talk to her abut the situation first?

Whoops, I was looking at when you joined not when the post was. My bad

Wow the situation just keeps getting worse... I don't envy you, my friend. If she does break up with the rebound guy then you should definitely give her some time before asking her, being the rebound of a rebound would just suck.

Concerning the situation with your friend, have another chat about it if she becomes free again and see what his intentions are. If he's still after her then you should both call it quits, no point wasting a friendship over a girl who may not even say yes to either of you. Hopefully, though, he'll have his eye on someone else by then.

That's the thing, this girl is quick on her feet. If you don't ask her out quickly, she'll go out with the first guy to give her a nice look. For all I know every boyfriend up until her first may have been a rebound. She doesn't have much self confidence.

Ah, well I guess thats your answer then. Try and gauge how shaken up she is by the break up and if she doesn't seem too bothered, go for it.... just lay it all out on the line.

I agree with the Mewick_Alex's view point (I'm new to this wonderful forum (Escapist forums, I don't know how to do the copy "someone else post in a box" thing).

Thanks for the support, and welcome to the escapist

 

[King_Pickles]

exact same situation high five for our life being hard

 

[Bat Vader]

I respect the fact that you give back to the community and help people. I am an introvert. I can't stand large groups of people which is why I hate working in teams. I dis-trust everyone with the exception of my family.

I have been betrayed before and I wish not to be betrayed again. That is why I am a loner. I like to help people but only by myself. One question though is how would be having a girlfriend help society? I am just curious about that.

I believe we have gotten off on the wrong foot and I wish to apologize for how I acted towards you. Just don't start chastising people until you get their full story.

I do NOT respect your mentality. Who hasn't been betrayed? I WILL chastise you with as little the story you give me, because axiom theory dictates I must. More than that, there are a wealth of medications, of therapy options, of treatments that you can get, sometimes even for free or paid for by the government, to deal with your condition. You choose not to do so. You choose to not get help, and that is just as anti-social as any other option.

I happen to have a condition much like you probably do. I worked at it, I found the time and treatment that worked, and I moved on to become a better person, and contribute as much as I could to the infrastructure I owe my life to. Doing otherwise is simply selfish and results in a loss to the world as a whole.

Do not think I hate you, dislike you, or even look down on you. But I am nothing if not brutally honest, and you call this sort of criticism on yourself.

So you claim you have no free will because Axiom theory dictates it?