My Gf's Bet

[BonsaiK]

So me and my gf got into a really bad argument recently about the fact that i still have a low self esteem and outlook of myself (i firmly believe that i have the self esteem of a toaster and the charisma of a half eaten bagel). So out of nowhere she made this bet with me. She's making my half of the relationship "open", meaning i can go out and meet other chicks. Why? To apparently prove what she says is true as far as my looks/heart. However, if i fail to do so in a matter of 3 months, she'll pay for my truck to get repaired in full (needs alot of major repairs, so that's pretty ballsy on her part). However if i do succeed, ....well, that's too private to speak of but lets just say it's going to hurt. Alot. But i figure i can make some money off of this, so im takin bets from my friends as to whether or not im going to succeed, so either way i think im gonna come out on top lol but what do you guys think?

Jesus. This one's certainly worth an answer in the Relationship Problem Thread. Really. Here it is: ---> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=20#4497684

 

[kalakashi]

My girlfriend recently(ish - 2 months ago) broke up with me, and I realise now that if you play yourself down, as I often did, others will either also think less of you, or will think you're just trying to get attention through it. I now realise that I think I was just after attention when I played myself down, I'm one of the irritatingly-modest people you get, and I think you are too.
To have low self-esteem when you are in a relationship with this girl, and assuming you find her very attractive, is to insult her, that she has bad taste. And those of us with genuinely modest traits cannot see what is attractive about us; I for one like to think of myself as moderately attractive (looks wouldn't stop a girl, but I would never get used for sex), mildly talented and a generally not very interesting person.
My ex-girlfriend (who(m?) I am still good friends with) retains that I have amazing eyes, am vastly intelligent (for a 17-year old) and exceedingly musically and dramatically talented. I see none of these things, but I wish now that I had just accepted it earlier in our relationship, as a partner with low self-esteem can be very tiresome (she doesn't see her attractive qualities either, though I very much can).
Luckily, I possess the talent to be fed up with myself enough that I can change things about me overnight essentially.

The bet is a terrible idea, and you should tell her that the strength of her faith in you being able to get another girl is enough to make you feel good about yourself, and call the bet off.

 

[blue heartless]

Did you win yet? It's already been hours.

 

[Smurfferdid]

I wouldn't take her up on that bet.

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[Xette]

I nominate this as the WORST bet ever.

 

[WolfThomas]

ITS A TRAP!!!

But seriously that is some screwy logic, be faithful and win a truck...

Cheat and potentially lose everything...

Hmm I think I can take a guess what I'd do...NOTHING!

 

[MattRooney06]

proooooobably best to not go and meet other girls she will hold it against you...FOREVER!

 

[BringBackBuck]

Whilst I agree with the general sentiment here that girls are tricksy and false and this will no doubt end in tears, maybe you should really play up the whole low self esteem thing and admit to her that you have tried and failed to pick up another girl, and really need her help to do so. Forget the truck fixing and cash my man, go for the big game: THREESOME.

 

[rabidmidget]

I really don't see the incentive to "win" this bet

 

[JoshGod]

see if you can find a woman in the same position lol
good luck

 

[Xette]

Sex at the end of the day, is just sex. It doesn't really mean much, and plenty of couples and married folk are allowed to sleep around by their partners/spouses.

The first sentence is subjective but the rest is partly accurate. Before flames from hellbent atheists fall down on my head, I'm agnostic but I still think sex should mean something.

Humans are sometimes stupid and don't realize that complicating themselves with multiple romantic or fookbuddy affairs just complicates their lives even more. I realize for some sex is just sex. I am just +1 female who actually gives a damn if my partner mucks about.

 

[Pilky]

It's a trick by your misses, she'll backstab you

Don't do it! Tbh, it may be a test, I think you should lay it on heavy with the, I don't wanna meet any other girls because I've already found the one!"

maybe she'll still pay for the repairs

 

[Tonimata]

Dude, she's trying to play you in. Show her how much you love her, even if it has to be by raising your self esteem. Don't go out with other chicks, make her realize she loves you.

 

[BlumiereBleck]

uhoooooohhh. sounds like shes ready to break up

 

[brunothepig]

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I'm tempted to leave it there, but I'm scared of the banhammer. Don't hit me. So, yeah. Seems like you don't really want to try... You get a fixed ute, and you don't lose your girlfriend for some random bar skank. Although, if you want to lose, you could just go to an online dating service. "Click on over 35, and never married." But I get the feeling that testing this "open" thing could bite you in the ass, sooner or later.

 

[ottenni]

Don't do it, you don't need to. It sounds like your girlfriend is an absolute top chick. Congrats.

 

[Ben Legend]

This is confusing... but if you got a girlfriend in the first place... you can't be that useless?

 

[Bradd94]

i don't get it

shes betting you that you CAN'T meet (or... perhaps... MEAT?) another woman, for if you fail, reward, and if you succeed, unspeakable pain?

I'm confused.

Meat. I laughed.

But aside from that, you have a good point. She is effectively dampening your self-esteem, by insinuating that you aren't able to meet other women. Which in turn is degrading her, as she fell for an uncharismatic "half-eaten bagel" as you put it.

In short, fairly stable relationship you've got going there.