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Lord Thodin

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I let the looks go as I tend to assume that anyone that is acting a certain way is only doing so for a certain amount of attention. I judge people by the very first 3 sentences outta their mouth. If its a joke, followed by a whats up, then a whats your name. That guys amazing. If its a star wars reference, followed by a joke about murder with a lightsaber, followed with a whats your name. Hes even better. However if its an obscure reference, followed by a lispy short story about something that relates to this, followed by a chuckle at their own joke. I ignore them forever. And ever and ever and ever and ever
 

SultanP

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There is nothing wrong with judging people by their looks, as long as you don't act on it. I generally assume people are a certain way based on how they dress, because it is often a very good indicator, however, I don't treat them as anything less than an equal unless they give me a reason to. I generally don't let my prejudice shine through, unless the person has convinced me that they deserve it by other means.

What I'm saying is you can't judge people for what they think, that is beyond a person's control, but you can judge them for how they act on their thoughts. It's like food and the urge to eat it, if you put some delicious food in front of someone, and tell them they can't eat it, you can't be angry at them for wanting to eat it if they don't act on it, but you can if they do.
 

Jurassic Rob

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Ah stop beating yourself up. I take the piss out of everyone equally. But if someone looks that little bit stranger, then it's fair game! Stop being so sensitive!
 

Cavouku

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The way someone chooses to present themselves says a lot about their character, or at least might be linked to an event in their life that altered things.

If someone dresses in their little sisters jeans and eyeliner, I can make fair judgments based on that. Either they're doing it for the trend, they like the clothes, which I can get deeper into as coming across as odd to me, maybe they're trying to "rebel."

You can judge someone based on their appearance. You just need a degree in psychology or something first. But first I'd ask if it's them or their parents that buys the clothes, and who chooses.
 

Neesa

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I love how everyone goes, "OMG. I'M SO GLAD I'M NOT LIKE YOU." But if that was the case, you'd befriend anyone and everyone, which we don't do. We are visual creatures. If you see someone with a skin head, tons of tattoos, a leather jacket and piercing, first thought in your head is, "Lemme not look directly at this person." But they can be the nicest and sweetest, person ever. Or a girl that has her breasts hanging out her shirt and super short shorts, we might autoamtically assume that she might be easy or a slut. She might be a virgin volunteer that just likes showing off the body she was blessed with. So, please stop saying you don't judge when we all do.

f i n.
 

funksobeefy

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Machines Are Us said:
Disaster Button said:
And as soon as he walks in everyone starts laughing and talking about him quietly, myself included.
I lost respect for you around here.


Disaster Button said:
But just like most times people make judgements like that about another school kid, they turned out right.
It went downhill even more here.

Disaster Button said:
He is really weird. He sits and hums to himself, dances on the stop and spaztastically, talks about the most obscure things, and laughs for no reason.
Nobody laughs for without a reason, just because you don't know what it is doesn't mean it does not exist. He was probably thinking about chopping all the judgemental pricks up with an axe for laughing at him.

Disaster Button said:
Now this is all well and good but how did they know he was gonna turn out like that just based on his looks? And do you think it's wrong?
No it isn't, they didn't, and yes it is.

They are pricks, and would have made those comments even if he acted normal.
I gained respect for the OP for this topic and lost respect for you. Everyone judges people by their first impression.

I bet you wouldnt get this mad if instead of a overweight goth kid it was a jock. That instead of black clothes he was wearing Gonzaga bball shorts, a Texas football tee shirt and some Nike Jordans. Every single one of you would instantly say dumb jock and wouldnt think twice about.

Dont say its not true cause it is
 

Daveman

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Machines Are Us said:
Disaster Button said:
He is really weird. He sits and hums to himself, dances on the stop and spaztastically, talks about the most obscure things, and laughs for no reason.
Nobody laughs for without a reason, just because you don't know what it is doesn't mean it does not exist. He was probably thinking about chopping all the judgemental pricks up with an axe for laughing at him.
wow, what a judgemental prick that guy was for assuming all those people were being judgemental pricks and not to mention totally over-reacting to them laughing at him! I hate that guy! Let's throw bricks at him!
 

Golgathoth

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When I was in high school I was just one of those people who hated the environment around me and so avoided everyone in order to make things painless. Couple that with the fact that I was a somewhat hardcore goth girl, which was slightly odd at my school. Oddly enough, even though everyone thought I was a Satan worshiping antisocial (and usually thought I would hurt them for no reason), nearly 30 people talked to me every day and freaked out if I stayed home sick without telling them. Goes to show not everyone's an asshole (although 30 out of 1500 people aren't the best odds.)
 

KingGolem

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Well, I'm inclined to agree with that old adage of "don't judge a book by it's cover," but on the other hand, books have no control over their covers. In order to avoid looking like most everybody else, often times you have to invest in it, since the clothing industry makes clothes that appeal to the widest market (I know, I dress like most everyone else because that's the cheapest way to do it). If you go out of your way to look a certain way, that says something about who you are. I can't be sure of what it is, of course, but my first guess is insecurity and/or an identity crisis (for when you dress to conform to a certain clique, like wearing polo's and khaki shorts to fit in with the preps/jocks or wearing all black spikes and leather to look goth, or whatever). There's nothing wrong with dressing a certain way (within reasonable confines of society's expectations, of course) but if you choose to do so you don't really have a right to complain about how people judge you based on it.

On a related note, there's one guy who lives around here who really stands out in a crowd. He wears like, skirts or something. I don't know what else he wears, because I'm usually too distracted by all his piercings, his huge ear gages, and his mohawk where the bald parts of his head have leopard skin tatooed on them. I've seen him around a couple of times. I don't know what to think of him, because all I know is that he used to work at the Joe Muggs coffee place and he has Tourette's Syndrome (he came into the bank where my mom works, once, and he told her not to mind the noises he made).

In conclusion, you ought not to judge people by the way they dress, and people ought to dress appropriately for the situation they're in. After all, I think that if you looked at the causes of school shootings, a big factor is the shooter having a history of being picked on.
 

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I'm the weird kid in my school, I just sit there and hum while thinking bad thoughts about everyone.
 

Psycho-Boy-Jack

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So what if he was a little different, he sounds fun to me.
Id rather someone who laughs randomly, than say someone who cant even smile...but thats just me.
 

Craig FTW

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Machines Are Us said:
Disaster Button said:
And as soon as he walks in everyone starts laughing and talking about him quietly, myself included.
I lost respect for you around here.


Disaster Button said:
But just like most times people make judgements like that about another school kid, they turned out right.
It went downhill even more here.

Disaster Button said:
He is really weird. He sits and hums to himself, dances on the stop and spaztastically, talks about the most obscure things, and laughs for no reason.
Nobody laughs for without a reason, just because you don't know what it is doesn't mean it does not exist. He was probably thinking about chopping all the judgemental pricks up with an axe for laughing at him.

Disaster Button said:
Now this is all well and good but how did they know he was gonna turn out like that just based on his looks? And do you think it's wrong?
No it isn't, they didn't, and yes it is.


They are pricks, and would have made those comments even if he acted normal.

This was nearly a play-by-play of what I was going to say.
They only think he's weird because he's different than them.
I am alternative, believe me I've been blown off by people because of how I look.

Makes me want to gut them..


kidding. kind of.
 

General Ken8

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I don't judge by looks
Well, i try my best not to
But whenever a guy in skinny jeans walks into the room that thought vanishes into thin air
 

CarbonEagle

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From my experience those kinds of people are usually intelligent and have realized that whatever the "cool" kids do it only lasts a few years and that the cool kids will be far behind in knowing themselves cause all they did was copy everyone else in school. So if you trade being picked on for a few years for understanding yourself (which will help you progress MUCH faster outside of school) id say good on him, and maybe you should go talk to him and learn from it.
 

Minjoltr

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Occasionally. I don't know about thinking someone's weird but when I see people, I do tend to make judgements based on appearance, particularly the sort of girls who buy armwarmers from Claire's pre-torn and with the safety pins already in. Saw a pair the other day. One of them had a hoodie with cat ears sewn onto it.

Later that day, I saw a dude standing stock still in the park, staring into space loudly saying 'No. No. No. No. No.' over and over and over again. There were big, dark red patches down his chin. Nobody was going near him.
I must admit, that fellow did strike me as a little odd.

I also make certain snap judgements about the people who laugh at me, shout across the road about how abhorrent I seem to them and throw water over my head because it is 'on fire'. I don't even take the time to get to know them first. I'm clearly the monster they think I am.

They say that people form most of their opinions of you within the first ten seconds of meeting you. It's not conscious, it's just what the brain does and probably harks beck to the time when anything new needed to be assessed quickly to determine whether or not it was a threat.
If someone turns up to a job interview unshaven and scruffily dressed and lounges in his chair, the interviewers will think that he's unprofessional, isn't taking the interview seriously and won't take the job seriously. He could be up to the ears in qualifications and experience and actually be extremely professional but, since the interviewer's minds have already made themselves up unconsciously, it's going to be bloody hard to convince them of this.

Didn't quite a number of people in this thread make up their minds that the OP is a jerk having read a single post which he seemed to have said later was badly put and didn't tell the entire story but he seems to be having quite a job of convincing people that he's not the insensitive jerk they think he is?
 

soul_rune1984

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I try not to judge people at first meeting too but, some times I get a "this person's not right in the head" vibe and usually when that happens it turns out to be right. Perfect example, when I was in grade 7 there was a kid in my class who seemed a little odd but harmless but I just kept getting weird vibes when he was around, I never made fun of him though. Ten years latter I see his pic in the news paper, turns out he was wanted for several rape cases.
 

ayailla

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I don't see why this thread is still open. There seems to be a lot of repetition here but, hey, I ain't admin.

Some people judge, some don't. Whether you do or not, the fact is, it shouldn't be happening but it is. It's something we all have to live with.