Poll: Can males and females simply "just be friends"?
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I hope someone understands my reasoning, but this is like asking, "can a brother and sister love each other without being incestuous?"
i'm sorry if this offends you, but what is demisexual?Demented Teddy said:
OT: i'm friends with plenty of girls with no romantic feelings on either end. But it is very easy to slide down that slope and never return
This question poses a Schrödinger's cat type scenario. I can say, from my perspective, that yes, there are some female friends that I have never been attracted to. But, I cannot say from the other person's perspective. And to ask would introduce the idea into the friendship. Thus, you have posed a question that cannot be truly answered.
Absolutely; as long as there is no mutual attraction.
I had a female friend who I could share every intimate detail about my life with but I wasn't remotely physically attracted to her. I don't know if she felt the same way but, but regardless we had a strong friendship that lasted for over a decade that only ended when she moved overseas.
I had a female friend who I could share every intimate detail about my life with but I wasn't remotely physically attracted to her. I don't know if she felt the same way but, but regardless we had a strong friendship that lasted for over a decade that only ended when she moved overseas.
Yes, how do I know? I'm one of those, sure things are not as before he knew, but still it is possible.
I could see how it is possible, but I have failed to do that myself.
My best friend is a girl and I have developed rather strong feelings for her much against my will.
My best friend is a girl and I have developed rather strong feelings for her much against my will.
I think alot of responses are flawed.
"IIII dont have feelings towards my close friend of the opposite gender, therefore it is possible."
What people dont take into consideration is how that close friend feels about them, and is the relationship completely devoid of romantic feelings?
Personally, I think it is way more likely for close friendships to form out of romantic feelings and that a close friendship without it is... lacking in observation of the subconsciousness.
"IIII dont have feelings towards my close friend of the opposite gender, therefore it is possible."
What people dont take into consideration is how that close friend feels about them, and is the relationship completely devoid of romantic feelings?
Personally, I think it is way more likely for close friendships to form out of romantic feelings and that a close friendship without it is... lacking in observation of the subconsciousness.
I voted No, and now that I think about it I'll change my answer to probably no. My vote surprises me, because I'm a feminist (and a dude). But still.
I know in my personal experience, I've never had a female friend that I havent had some sort of sexual element attached to it. Even with the ugly ones, I jokingly flirt heavily with them, and honestly after being someone's friend for a long time, a 3/10 starts to look like a 5/10.
Let's see, like Harry said to Sally, there's also this sex drive thing we all have.
More importantly, I think that with a really close friendship love eventually blooms. Now this love is the sort of love you have with your family, but the mind can easily confuse that with sexual love.
I feel like it might be possible for men and women to be just friends if they're old and past their sexually driven years, and completely unattracted to each other.
Ryôji Kaji from Neon Genesis Evangelion: The Kanji we use for the word "she" a woman far away. To us men, women will always appear to be on the shore across. It means there is a river deeper and wider than the ocean that divides men and women.
I know in my personal experience, I've never had a female friend that I havent had some sort of sexual element attached to it. Even with the ugly ones, I jokingly flirt heavily with them, and honestly after being someone's friend for a long time, a 3/10 starts to look like a 5/10.
Let's see, like Harry said to Sally, there's also this sex drive thing we all have.
More importantly, I think that with a really close friendship love eventually blooms. Now this love is the sort of love you have with your family, but the mind can easily confuse that with sexual love.
I feel like it might be possible for men and women to be just friends if they're old and past their sexually driven years, and completely unattracted to each other.
Ryôji Kaji from Neon Genesis Evangelion: The Kanji we use for the word "she" a woman far away. To us men, women will always appear to be on the shore across. It means there is a river deeper and wider than the ocean that divides men and women.
Of course its possible? The dynamics between meales and females are no longer sexual this is not the dark ages? If men and women are to be truely equal in our society then the social interactions between one another of either gender must be capable of teh same plutonicay. ( I think i just made up a word.
Seriously though we have gone beyond the age where women are for reproductioon quite some time ago. As a sociey we value our women as equals and to that point must allow them all teh privilages etc of males. If there was aman you truely trusted with your secrets you would tell him, yet nobody would accuse you of being gay for it? How much you can trust somebody matters not a jot on their gender.
As for if there will be feelings on either side of teh fence its quite possible there would but, ut it is possible there would not be also. I think if you had feeling sfor her or she did for you thenfrom teh start that would override and attemptes at a plutonic relationship. But if you think just being good friends somehow engenders feelings then I disagree. Those feelings were either latent or as a reslt of an extraordinary event. Not due to a built up trust.
In sumary o this wall of text yes two people can be friends regardless of gender so long as they are upfront about it and always honest.
Seriously though we have gone beyond the age where women are for reproductioon quite some time ago. As a sociey we value our women as equals and to that point must allow them all teh privilages etc of males. If there was aman you truely trusted with your secrets you would tell him, yet nobody would accuse you of being gay for it? How much you can trust somebody matters not a jot on their gender.
As for if there will be feelings on either side of teh fence its quite possible there would but, ut it is possible there would not be also. I think if you had feeling sfor her or she did for you thenfrom teh start that would override and attemptes at a plutonic relationship. But if you think just being good friends somehow engenders feelings then I disagree. Those feelings were either latent or as a reslt of an extraordinary event. Not due to a built up trust.
In sumary o this wall of text yes two people can be friends regardless of gender so long as they are upfront about it and always honest.
I'm friends with a lot of guys that I have no romantic interest in. I can't say if they've ever had a romantic interest in me, though. But that's not really the point, is it? I mean, who cares if there have been romantic feelings involved at some point? Can't you still be friends regardless of that? I mean yeah, that might get a little awkward, but hell, if you're really friends with somebody it shouldn't change the fact that you're friends. My sophomore year in high school I decided that I was in love with my best (male) friend. And I told him. And it was weird, but now we're past it and we're totally platonic.
Trust me, there comes a time in a man's life where they WILL see the possibility of a relationship with any of his female peers. This includes best friends since childhood whom you may have even bathed with occasionally when little. Back then it may be possible to remain friends without any sort of intimate attachments, but puberty kicks in and young men's minds are more imaginative than Shigeru Miyamoto in a pot smoking session.
Of course I'm not saying it's impossible, though unless it's a family member and you're not mentally unstable I doubt posting otherwise to appear decent for our female posters is going to change the fact we are physically attracted to what we perceive as beautiful women.
You do the math.
Of course I'm not saying it's impossible, though unless it's a family member and you're not mentally unstable I doubt posting otherwise to appear decent for our female posters is going to change the fact we are physically attracted to what we perceive as beautiful women.
You do the math.
Some of my best friends (as defined by the OP) are female, and I've never thought of them in a romantic or sexual way (and I strongly doubt they have thought about me in such ways either).
Of course it's possible. Possible for everyone, or probable in general, maybe not, but of course it's possible for some people. It's fallacious to use personal experience as the basis for making a judgment on everyone in the human race ie: "I can't do it so no one can do it!"