Poll: Did your parents hit you?

[Bato]

If I got out of line I'd get a smack, or a spanking, at at one time I really pissed my mom off she punched me.

I chose 'only of really bad' because after the first fee disciplines I straightened the hell up.

 

[Karlaxx]

I certainly got a solid smack when I deserved it. Can't tell you if it kept me from being a sociopath or royally screwed me up, but from what I remember it was always justified.

 

[Grimlock Fett]

I just read a thread about 10 to 12-year-olds acting acting all tough and messing around with older kids and I couldn't help but wonder, didn't their parents hit them? I always knew that if I fucked up, my dad would be all over me like stank on shit. Corporal punishment seems to be a dying trend with parents today. Do parents just not hit their kids anymore? Mine sure did, but I really needed it. I want to hear from you on this one.
-Note: I'm not talking about child abuse here, I'm talking about you misbehaving and your parents hitting you as a punishment. Please, don't say anything bad about 'old school' parents here, we don't need this kind of hate here.

It teaches "fear"! kids today are fearless! Fact is fear is there for a reason! I'm on the straight and narrow because I'm afraid of getting in trouble! If I have kids I might not hit them but they WILL understand that if they step out of line there will be consequences!

 

[annoyinglizardvoice]

Only very rarely, and in hindsight I know I deserved it on those very rare ocasions.

I think it works as a last resort, but only as a last resort.

 

[Luke5515]

Only for really bad stuff, but not like hard. Like a woden spoon, or telling me to "stick my tounge out" and then smacking my chin so I bit my tounge. That one sucked.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

All of my friends were smacked as a child. We're talking about slaps around the thighs and arse, not punches to the face. We're all happy go lucky and cheerful people. The problem with studies is that anyone can formulate another and get the exact opposite outcome. I don't consider myself psychologically scarred or anyything like that. I agree, belts and other utensils is taking a but too far, but sometimes the only way to get a child to stop doing something is to inflict pain, no matter how slight it is. My parents always apologised to me and I sometimes wonder how things would have turned out differently if I was never smacked. But at the end of the day, despite all my flaws, I like myself and I thank my parents for making me the way I am today.

Did you reply to the wrong post? I never made any comment towards punches to the face or using other objects to punish.

I never said it was impossible to not be happy and cheerful if you were smacked as I child and that you would be forever scarred by the experience, I just said out of the people I know, those that were not smacked were better mentally than the ones that were.

I know that studies can be easily manipulated, so I make sure not to trust them if:
The sample size is too small or chosen in a way to induce a naturally biased group;
The ones doing the study are biased towards the outcome of the study;
The conclusion is the only reasonable one you can make from the data.
If you have any studies that do not fall to these three faults and says that corporal punishment is effective, show them to me.

Similarly, if you have any evidence to back up the claim that pain is sometimes the only way, show it to me.

I have little problem with you looking up to your parents for smacking you. I have a problem, however, that I believe you will also smack your children. Although you believe you will be helping them, you will still be inflicting intentional pain onto a child in a situation where it was unnecessary.

[small]P.S. Those mistakes were annoying me.
Edit: and you fixed them while I was still typing[/small]

[sub]P.P.S. I wish I could find 'Dogbert's "School of Hard Knocks"' on-line, would make my point easier to express.[/sub]

I'm sorry, my post may have come across as very critical. I agree with everything you posted and I don't intend to smack my own children unless absolutely necessary, It's just that there are certain situations where you can't reason with a child and force needs to be used, whether it be a grab to the arm or a clip around the ear.

 

[McNinja]

My parents would spank me if I did something really bad. But that's about it. They stopped after I was about nine.

 

[BigCat91]

Only when it was something bad, like stealing something, or getting in a fight with a classmate. Other than that it didn't happen often, it's not really traumatic like some of the mothers who are ready to call social services on a child rearing.

 

[AV01]

I remember a couple times when my dad would whack me with a belt, but he was just messing around. It didn't really hurt, and I think I was laughing.

Or maybe I was crying. Dunno.

 

[Draco Kaiser]

I got beat all the time, usually cause I did bad in school which in asian is a C or F. One C or F.

 

[gillebro]

yeah, I got a few arse-slaps and trips to the bedroom. don't remember them, do be honest. and i'm sure they did the job, because we were good kids. i used to hate being yelled at more than I hated being smacked.

 

[10BIT]

I'm sorry, my post may have come across as very critical. I agree with everything you posted and I don't intend to smack my own children unless absolutely necessary, It's just that there are certain situations where you can't reason with a child and force needs to be used, whether it be a grab to the arm or a clip around the ear.

I have never seen a situation that could not have been handled with reason, yet every time I've seen a child smacked it made the situation worse (although the only times that come to mind are the ones where the child was hit in anger and then the adult proceeded to yell at the kid, so all I can state is that there are times and ways of doing it that are bad), so I am very distrusting of your claim.

You posed a question earlier about how to stop a child from throwing food on the floor didn't you? I came up with three ideas within the first few seconds:
1. Take the food from them and give it back when they promise they won't chuck it on the floor. (Because if they were hungry they would eat their food instead)
2. Tell them the wicked witch will whisk them away if they keep chucking food on the floor. (Because children need to know lying is good understand fairytales better than reality - tends to be very effective based upon anecdotes I've heard)
3. Explain to them why chucking food on the floor is bad. (Best if it's over their head so that they will pretend they understood and not do it again so they appear intelligent)

I would accept a tap to get their attention (I hope to program an "off switch" into them so that if I were to tap them in the middle of their head, they would be quiet and listen to me. It can't be hard to do, right?), but to intentionally cause pain being a good idea is something I cannot wrap my head around.

[sub]I'm very tired so don't expect a reply within the next 10 hours if you reply to this. Also don't expect everything in this post to be the thoughts of a sound mind[/sub]

 

[Generator]

I don't think they ever did, but that was just because I was a generally good kid. They might have once or twice because I did screw up pretty badly every now and then.

Honestly, I think it's dumb that they're outlawing corporal punishment everywhere nowadays; I understand that they're trying to thin the line between hitting a child and child abuse to make it a less debatable topic, but parents should always have some form of physical punishment in their arsenal, if just for the scare factor.

 

[Caligulove]

No they never did... Though looking back on it I really was asking for it/deserved it some times...

Oh well.

 

[PrimoThePro]

For my own good. I'm glad it happened, because now I show some respect.

 

[Sir-jackington]

I could be wrong, but this is simply what i have observed, that kids that are hit, smaked, whatever you want to call it when they are young will then later in life do the same to their parent/s. Example, a friend on mine use to get a small smack round the head when he was young and now that his almost fully grown he will at times, when he's angry use physical force against his mother

 

[Eggsnham]

Whenever I was being particularly douche-baggy, my mom would slap me.

I don't think the occasional slap or spank when a kid is being horrendous is bad, but when it becomes a common occurrence, there's a problem.

 

[Stoic raptor]

Only when I was little. Even then it was juast a little smack on the wrist and a time out. I am the good kid, so I dont get punishments

 

[Johnnyallstar]

My daddy beat me like a drum.... when I deserved it, and I always deserved more than I got. Straightened me out though.

 

[TheSkaAssassin]

My father would beat me with a fucking belt and I'm damn proud of it.
Parents these days are too soft.
4 years of lifeguarding have taught me that I will be doing the same with my children, either by belt or fraternity paddle.