Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[Jaranja]

I find relationships to be more of a bother....but that is because I'm a loner.

Took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

If it is the right girl, it is worth going though fire and high waters for her.

And yes, sex is just that great.

Go with the man with the frankly disturbing avatar. He speaks the truth!

 

[kawaiiamethist]

You could just sleep around and not concern yourself with the whole relationship business.
But I wouldn't recommend it.

Ease yourself in by chatting to sisters and female friends of your friends. And if that option isn't open to you, chat to some girls online. You may find we're not quite so intimidating.

Much research does show that women like "bad boys".
How you would go about sleeping around with a bunch of women, when the problem is getting to women in the first place?
Besides, most one night stands are had by those "bad boys" (or dumbshits, whatever you call them )

And yes, talk to women and get a feel for how to do so without coming across as an idiot, it's usually a completely different approach than talking to male friends. It also helps to have a funny bone, just not if it's a nerdy one, you need extreme luck for that to work.

No, we like the idea of bad boys. They don't make ideal partners though and we know that.

If you hang around night clubs, picking up chicks doesn't look that tricky. I'm not to easy, but plenty give the impression they are.

 

[Stephanos132]

Depends what you're after I reckon. If it's sex, don't bother with the relationship aspect, too much effort.

If you want someone to enjoy time with go for it.

But be aware, no matter what these folk say about how secure their relationships can be, all it can take to destroy the best of relationships is one bitchy altercation, devastating revelation or accusation (unfounded or otherwise), and you have lost the spark forever. The worst part of that is, if you were truly and visibly great with someone and split with them, EVERYONE reflects upon it and compound your misery by doing so. Such it was with me at least.

Of course, it's not worth worrying about. Nothing lasts forever, so just go with the flow, and attack inanimate objects to relieve your stress.

 

[Thwarted]

Frankly it depends entirely on the girl. Every relationship takes effort, but if you find the right woman it's worth it.

 

[RobThePrezodent]

God damn people, get over yourselves.

Having a partner who you love and loves you back just as much in return is pretty much the most awesome thing you'll ever get in life.
My Girlfriend lives in the states, it's been a long two years and we've only met the once but I wouldn't change a thing.

Totally worth the effort.

Would you not change it so that you were with her more? :S
OT: in my experience being in love is the best feeling ever. Finding out that the feeling's unreciprocated, that's not quite as good, but let's not go there...

 

[Regiment]

You shouldn't be jumping through hoops and dealing with an annoying person in the hopes of sex. Girlfriends aren't nagging sex toys. A girlfriend needs to be someone you like, someone with whom you get along, someone about whom you care, and someone you will love.

Now, being perpetually single, perhaps I'm not the best person to answer that, but there's my answer anyway.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

It seems nowadays, that everywhere I go on the internet people seem eager to "advise" me (or the reader) to get a life, to get laid or to find yourself a girl. I am now in my late twenties and never had a romantic relationship (euphemism for never got any) and it's not that I'm terribly upset about it or anything, but I feel sometimes I'm missing out.

One of several reasons I'm alone is, that I could never bother to get my lazy ass out there and talk to a woman. I just don't get it, what is the big deal? In High School I occasionally had a crush on a girl, but even then I would never have thought something like "I would do anything for that girl".

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

This post is obviously targeted at male readers, although women are certainly invited to share their insightful opinions about the value of romantic relationships. And yes, this is the right website for this question, being a nerdy gamer and all.

I would suggest giving it a go before deciding that it isn't for you, that doesn't have to mean putting a whole lot of effort into it...just be open to it.

Everyone else is just as clueless as you. So you should probably decide what your priorities are(you most likely already have)for yourself.

 

[AndyVale]

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Some days we want to kill each other, some days it's just GBH. Once in a blue moon it's TNA.

I'd recommend it though. If I'm honest I don't think you're lazy, I think you're shy and scared of rejection. That's the case with most people I know in your situation.

 

[Hafnium]

You could just sleep around and not concern yourself with the whole relationship business.
But I wouldn't recommend it.

Ease yourself in by chatting to sisters and female friends of your friends. And if that option isn't open to you, chat to some girls online. You may find we're not quite so intimidating.

Much research does show that women like "bad boys".
How you would go about sleeping around with a bunch of women, when the problem is getting to women in the first place?
Besides, most one night stands are had by those "bad boys" (or dumbshits, whatever you call them )

And yes, talk to women and get a feel for how to do so without coming across as an idiot, it's usually a completely different approach than talking to male friends. It also helps to have a funny bone, just not if it's a nerdy one, you need extreme luck for that to work.

No, we like the idea of bad boys. They don't make ideal partners though and we know that.

If you hang around night clubs, picking up chicks doesn't look that tricky. I'm not to easy, but plenty give the impression they are.

You may know that and ultimately reject the bad boys, but the result is that many nice guys are lonely, assholes usually aren't. I think girls judge each other fiercely when it comes to boyfriends, and it's pretty much unacceptable to be with nice guys.

I probably couldn't pick up girls in clubs (if I had to have SOME standards ), because I am and very much look like a nice guy (and a bit nerdy). Many girls in clubs may be easy, but it's only to the bad boys. If chubby or 4-eyes make their move, what do you think happens?

Now I might sound personally bothered by this, which I kind of am, but mainly for nice guys in general. True, I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 18, but I've been with the same (and only), great girl for close to 4 years now, so I'm not missing out.

In contrast, her best friend likes bad boys, and doesn't understand why my girlfriend is into me. That same friend has been through 5-10 bad boys in this time (that I've been with mine), all with the same basic result. They treat her like crap, lie, steal (oh yes) and cheat on her. Her next boyfriend will also be a bad boy, and I think many girls are like her.

 

[Lyri]

Would you not change it so that you were with her more? :S
OT: in my experience being in love is the best feeling ever. Finding out that the feeling's unreciprocated, that's not quite as good, but let's not go there...

Well other than that of course.

 

[Outright Villainy]

The whole stereotype of jumping through hoops isn't really true, unless you make it so. More importantly to me, my girlfriend is my best friend, we don't really fight that often, and even then it's only pretty minor, and I've never been happier. Apparently I'm an anomolous case though, most people I know have had loads of trouble with girlfriends. So, you know, obviously it depends on the girl. That said, a friendship (with anyone) is more important than sex with someone you have nothing in common with.

 

[SenseOfTumour]

I'd say, getting into a relationship with a great girl who's in tune with you, worth anything.

Finding something female you can poke it in, not worth putting down the controller for.

I oughta state that's not meant as derogatory to women, more to the attitude that fucking is the most important thing a man can do.

I'd rather have sex once a month with a woman I love who loves me, than a threesome with a different pair of twins every night.

Of course, I'm not getting it even once a year at present, but I experienced casual sex and making love and I'm all for the latter. (not that I'm anti casual sex, it just personally isn't my preference.)

 

[Thirsk]

I think having a girlfriend is absolutely wonderful. The feeling of caring more for someone else than yourself is a fantastic one, I find. Sigh, being single is balls.

Anyway, regarding sex I think it's a lot like smoking: It can be the best thing ever, especially if you haven't done it for a long time, but if it becomes too trivial it's reduced to a momentary pleasure and something you do also because you get needy if you don't. That's how I feel about it anyway.

 

[WorldCritic]

Having a girlfriend can be nice. The thing it comes down to is if it works out.

 

[Lliae]

Being a girl myself, I'm not gonna vote (not too many options other than the last, and that one's a bit mean for me to pick ) but I will say that I met my boyfriend of some seven years online, in a game.
Our first conversation was a giant nerdy argument about a minor detail of the game we were both playing at the time, which drew my attention to him in a "Curses, he's a smart bastard!" kind of way.

He won me over, though, with jokes, sarcasm and just plain old niceness. Worked a treat.

So. Is it worth having a girlfriend?
Well? I guess you have to ask yourself if you want someone in your life or not.
I?ve seen a lot of people here mention they are loners, and I am definitely the same; even though I love my man, I am a very private and distant personality.
I reckon either single player or co-op is fine as long as you?re happy.

Still, if someone to quest with is a thing you want, you do have to look for it at least a little bit.

 

[kazork]

Agree with the Sir. If a GF feels like an effort its probably the wrong one.

Yep, The right girl for you is no effort.
Yes you have to do stuff for her but she does stuff for you.

For example, I help to move some big boxes and my girlfriend makes dinner, After wich i do the dishes and she has sex with me even do she didn;t feel like it.

It just works!
Having someone you would do anything in the world for and that person also having that feeling is the greatst thing in the world and if it is just chemicals to make sure we have kids than that is the best chemilcal in the world far better then alcohol, prozak and cocaine combined.

 

[Hafnium]

Being a girl myself, I'm not gonna vote (not too many options other than the last, and that one's a bit mean for me to pick ) but I will say that I met my boyfriend of some seven years online, in a game.
Our first conversation was a giant nerdy argument about a minor detail of the game we were both playing at the time, which drew my attention to him in a "Curses, he's a smart bastard!" kind of way.

He won me over, though, with jokes, sarcasm and just plain old niceness. Worked a treat.

So. Is it worth having a girlfriend?
Well? I guess you have to ask yourself if you want someone in your life or not.
I?ve seen a lot of people here mention they are loners, and I am definitely the same; even though I love my man, I am a very private and distant personality.
I reckon either single player or co-op is fine as long as you?re happy.

Still, if someone to quest with is a thing you want, you do have to look for it at least a little bit.

Great first post, I completely agree.
And welcome, by the way.

 

[jamesworkshop]

Women in general are worth the effort because thats where babies come from.