Poll: How do you see people that sleep around? (Updated)
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"Jumping in and out of bed with every Tom, Dick and Harry that will Have them has become the norm. I mean, what's wrong with actually getting to know someone first and having a bit of self respect? Or Am I just old fashioned?"Ryouma said:Negative poll is negative.
If people feel like sleeping with loads of partners why not?
Just hope they remember to wear protection when they are with people they arent secure about, when it comes to std.
Please translate that for meKarma168 said:
That should help with the majority of it. The rest should be fine.
I seriously lose most if not all of my respect for them. While this might seem harsh, I feel if you don't respect yourself, why should I respect you? While some people might argue that "they do respect themselves, and they see fit to sleep with multiple partners," I say that if you truly respect yourself, you'd probably be a bit choosier than that.
Clarifications:
1) My interpretation of "sleeping around" is someone whose had over twenty different partners in 6 months, or 5 in a month, whichever they hit first. This thereby excludes people who are single and enjoying themselves (usually about 3 or less in a month). Now 3*6 = 12, so yeah, it's till under the limit as above. People who are enjoying life probably do respect themselves, because they know they don't need a mass amount of partners to satisfy themselves.
2) By "losing respect" does not mean I will treat you any different - to your face. I will probably not trust you as much and will probably never go to you for advice, seeing as I don't think you are capable of taking care of yourself. This doesn't mean I will disrespect them, and I will at least show them the respect I think they deserve, but it's not much.
3)I'm actually not all that religious believe it or not, this respect thing comes completely from the idea that you don't respect yourself, or you can't take care of yourself and therefore should be seen as a child.
Example: (Friend is 16 year old girl, setting is a summer camp. She is telling us about her experience at another summer camp before this one. B is a friend in common who is 14 at the time.)
Friend: "Yeah so we were there making out in the hotel in his room, I think his roommate was in the shower and -"
B: "Wait, you were making out with him? How physical did you get?"
Friend: "Oh we got to third base, but that's not what I'm trying to say." (Our general idea of third is actually touching bare private flesh).
Me: "Third?"
Friend: "If I'm comfortable enough to kiss a guy I'm comfortable enough to show him my breasts."
^ That right there I instantly lost my respect for her, I think I was 15 or so at the time (about 4 or so years ago). Now, this isn't exactly "sleeping around" though the rest of the story would probably fit a very close description. None the less I lost my respect for her, thinking she was too immature to get a grasp of her sexuality.
Final Note: Sluts are people who throw themselves on others for the sole sake of having sex in my book. These are extreme people who literally only think of how to get sex the quickest, be they boy or girl, and then act in that response. This doesn't necessarily include guys looking to get some, I'm talking total 24/7 "How can I get sex?" ideas and actions. (Skimpy clothing, etc.)
Clarifications:
1) My interpretation of "sleeping around" is someone whose had over twenty different partners in 6 months, or 5 in a month, whichever they hit first. This thereby excludes people who are single and enjoying themselves (usually about 3 or less in a month). Now 3*6 = 12, so yeah, it's till under the limit as above. People who are enjoying life probably do respect themselves, because they know they don't need a mass amount of partners to satisfy themselves.
2) By "losing respect" does not mean I will treat you any different - to your face. I will probably not trust you as much and will probably never go to you for advice, seeing as I don't think you are capable of taking care of yourself. This doesn't mean I will disrespect them, and I will at least show them the respect I think they deserve, but it's not much.
3)I'm actually not all that religious believe it or not, this respect thing comes completely from the idea that you don't respect yourself, or you can't take care of yourself and therefore should be seen as a child.
Example: (Friend is 16 year old girl, setting is a summer camp. She is telling us about her experience at another summer camp before this one. B is a friend in common who is 14 at the time.)
Friend: "Yeah so we were there making out in the hotel in his room, I think his roommate was in the shower and -"
B: "Wait, you were making out with him? How physical did you get?"
Friend: "Oh we got to third base, but that's not what I'm trying to say." (Our general idea of third is actually touching bare private flesh).
Me: "Third?"
Friend: "If I'm comfortable enough to kiss a guy I'm comfortable enough to show him my breasts."
^ That right there I instantly lost my respect for her, I think I was 15 or so at the time (about 4 or so years ago). Now, this isn't exactly "sleeping around" though the rest of the story would probably fit a very close description. None the less I lost my respect for her, thinking she was too immature to get a grasp of her sexuality.
Final Note: Sluts are people who throw themselves on others for the sole sake of having sex in my book. These are extreme people who literally only think of how to get sex the quickest, be they boy or girl, and then act in that response. This doesn't necessarily include guys looking to get some, I'm talking total 24/7 "How can I get sex?" ideas and actions. (Skimpy clothing, etc.)
Wow, those poll options are terribly biased...
I'm not a fan of it myself, not my kinda thing. But if somebody enjoys it, good for them, because hey, sex is enjoyable. It isn't wrong, not by any stretch of the imagination, unless one is using the other, but, I'm going by the presumption the couple(s) are going in clean...ha.
At any rate, if two consenting adults wish to sleep with the each other for their mutual enjoyment, go ahead by all means.
I'm not a fan of it myself, not my kinda thing. But if somebody enjoys it, good for them, because hey, sex is enjoyable. It isn't wrong, not by any stretch of the imagination, unless one is using the other, but, I'm going by the presumption the couple(s) are going in clean...ha.
At any rate, if two consenting adults wish to sleep with the each other for their mutual enjoyment, go ahead by all means.
"Other" - really you just need a choice for "I don't mind what people do" - your bias is evident in the "choices" you have in your poll.D Moness said:
If people enjoy sex and want to have sex responsibly with a different person every night I don't see this as anything other than, "Wow, that person is lucky to have so many sexual options open to them."
Thinking somebody is "slutty" - and this term almost never applies to men; only women - is usually a case of sour grapes.
It isn't a 'black and white' thing. There's nothing wrong with promiscuity as long as all parties involved take the proper steps - ensuring that they and the people they have sex with are safe and get checked, proper contraception, not just sleep with anyone you don't know (Like a 'friends with benefits' type arrangement), ensuring everyone understands what it all means, and if someone wants to start up an actual relationship (exclusive or not) to either try it if you feel prepared for a relationship or to stop having sexual relations with them if you are not.
Basically just be considerate to those you're having sex with.
Failure to do so would qualify as being a man/woman whore or some other unfavourable things - and to me personally places that individual beneath contempt.
Basically just be considerate to those you're having sex with.
Failure to do so would qualify as being a man/woman whore or some other unfavourable things - and to me personally places that individual beneath contempt.
People sleep around for many different reasons. Some do it because they enjoy it. Some because of low self esteem. There are a myriad of others. It only bums me out when people do it for the wrong reasons. I'm all for people doing what's good for them, but some people I know sleep around because that's the only way they know how to get self-validation. If you can manage sleeping around and get a kick out of it, by all means, go ahead. It's not my thing but, whatever works for you.
Your arrogance is borderline incredible when all you've basically said is "I don't like your arguments therefore they are invalid." I love how you basically vetoed responding to anything I specifically said. Classy.immovablemover said:
I'd agree if it wasn't for the existing risk of pregnancy or STD transmission REGARDLESS of how safe someone is, which is exactly what I said.
Last year 34.2% of single parents were women who were never married to the father of the child (or fathers of the children). A good amount of those (unfortunately no stats on that) will be from "sleeping around", in my experience anyway. Perhaps the US is different.
http://singleparents.about.com/od/legalissues/p/portrait.htm
That's exactly my point, if you sleep with one person you can't get them pregnant multiple times can you? If you sleep with 100 people you will (statistically) get 3 different people pregnant and/or cause the transmission of STDs.
[quoteStop equating promiscuity to irresponsibility and immaturity[/quote]
I'll gladly do this when the promiscuous stop being irresponsible and immature.
Someone's taking the internet too seriously.
Just as I stated on the virgin thread (but with a few tweaks):
I just see them as someone who has sex - like every other animal on the planet.
It isn't something I really ask about. If it comes up later somehow and they want to talk about it, or want to let me know for some reason or another - then that's fine.
Other then that, what they do or don't do in their bedroom, is none of my business.
[small] Edit: And as long as they aren't hurting anyone. lol[/small]
I just see them as someone who has sex - like every other animal on the planet.
It isn't something I really ask about. If it comes up later somehow and they want to talk about it, or want to let me know for some reason or another - then that's fine.
Other then that, what they do or don't do in their bedroom, is none of my business.
[small] Edit: And as long as they aren't hurting anyone. lol[/small]
I dont care if they do, as long as they dont brag to me or try to be with my significant interest at the time.
once they do that, i feel they should be fixed and take some of that spunk out of them.
once they do that, i feel they should be fixed and take some of that spunk out of them.
Depends how I feel about the person otherwise, really. And nothing against the decent people who just like to get laid, but you're in a group that largely consists of douchebags who gel their hair and think women are masturbation aids.