Poll: If Your Significant Other Cheated, Would You Help Raise The Baby

[Monkfish Acc.]

If the other man is purely unwilling to raise the kid, then I would browbeat/physically beat him into taking some fucking responsibility for sticking his dick into things. I'd stick around solely to make sure he does the job and does it right.

If the other man is unreachable/otherwise unable to raise the kid, then I would step in and take his place. Likely, the relationship with the mother would be over for good, but that doesn't mean I can't be a part of the child's life.

I can't say the sex of the kid would make a difference to me. I'm not really sure why it would.

Of course, this would never be an issue for me because I am going to stay away from romance and sex and all that stupid shit until I die.

 

[VanityGirl]

Hell to the know. I'd NEVER keep someone else's child if it was a product of unfaithfulness.

Fuck that. Cheater are not welcome, ever.

 

[TheOtter]

I'm a woman and I don't play those stupid love games. I expect my partner to do the same for me. So no, I'd be long gone.

If it's his child and he doesn't want to be a part of their life, then he can pay child support.

 

[DSK-]

I would leave. There are reasons for this:

1. I wouldn't be able to trust my significant other anymore. If someone would betray my trust in such a way I would basically remove them from life completely.

2. I would probably have a bad reaction to being told that; and in all likelyhood would need to get away from my SO. I wouldn't like to be reminded by my SO's trust-breaking and it would be unfair to the child if I was around with such thoughts.

 

[superbatranger]

I'd leave. Cheating is something I don't tolerate at all. I've seen how badly even one instance of cheating can ruin a relationship. Instead of cheating, she could have easily told me she didn't want to continue the relationship. Also, why should I care for the baby? She should go to the father. The actual father of the baby.

 

[Xero Scythe]

I choose "to hell with this, you cheating whore."
If she's audacious enough to cheat on me, she's audacious enough to handle the consequences. If the other man leaves, I would laugh at her too. The law doesn't require me to pay child support in that case, either. Call me a dick, but I don't deal well with betrayal. There is an iron wall around my heart from the last time something like this happened. (Betrayal, for those who can't follow my sentence-though I don't blame you)

If it was rape, then I would stay and raise the child. Not her fault a man put a gun to her head and said "My way, or the highway and then my way." Plus, she would need the help, as that's a rather traumatizing experience, I imagine.

 

[wolf92]

I'm sorry, but if my girlfriend cheated on me, got knocked up, then had a baby there's no way I'm helping to raise the kid

 

[Hexador]

I said I would leave.
But if by 'significant other' you mean the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with, I would choose to stay.

EDIT: The first and second choices for females are pretty bias compared to the male ones.
Ex: Male #1 - No, because I don't want to raise a bastard son.
(makes any one choosing this seem selfish)
Female #1 - No, because I don't want to be reminded of my significant other's unfaithfulness. (Turns the woman making the same choice as the man into something you could feel bad for HER about, when, in reality, it is equally as selfish)

You should have just worded them the same.

 

[Dango]

I would stay without question. Why would you abandon someone in that situation?

 

[Cody211282]

I would leave, why would I want to help the ***** that doesn't care anything about me? If that other guy was so great he can help raise the poor kid.

 

[Get_A_Grip_]

The cheating ***** and the bastard child can go and jump off a bridge for all I care.

 

[Bobsonnn]

Wow you bunch are an uncaring, unforgiving lot. They aren't asking if the girl you've been seeing a few months cheats on you, they're asking about your significant other. Someone that you've committed to and have presumably promised to spend the rest of your life with. A person you (hypothetically) claim to love and care about deeply made a huge mistake, and your responses are things like:

I'd not only leave, I'd probably pull a lion move and eat the little bastard (for once this is meant literally)

Or maybe I'd just throw it in a trash can.

and

Leave and lol as her life crumbles around her.

Really?
I still keep in contact with most of my exes. I still care about them and help them out, because they were worth dating, they are people I felt a strong connection with, so why does that change when we decide to stop being romantically involved. Now I've had some big falling outs with some of them, but for the most part, it's been amicable, despite being temporarily heartbreaking.

I think it would be a far worse thing for me to leave her alone and pregnant than the fact that she cheated. I think family and children are important, and that doesn't mean condemning cheaters for moments of weakness, that means forgiving the people we love. I'm not talking about letting your significant other walk all over you and cheat over and over again, but a one time transgression that blew up on them? Yeah, what kind of a heartless bastard wouldn't forgive?

Exactly.
If they are your significant other and they cheat, obviously they don't care a great deal.

If you say they were worth dating even though they cheated, you are truly spineless.

 

[mesaone]

Regardless of the gender and orientation, I think a daily reminder of an infidelity (the kid) would put enough strain on the relationship so as to render it a very unhappy environment. No matter who the child's parents are. Even if it wasn't my child, I wouldn't want him/her to be raised in that situation. Better for both parties to either be a good at lying or to remain monogamous.

But hey, once you have a kid, it is no longer "your life". If the cheating can be accepted by both parties then there is no reason to not raise a child in a good home. Eventually, the truth will have to come out once your son/daughter grows up, leading to a difficult time... Should the kid find the other biological parent? Will there be any resentment? Probably. Even so, if my father is someone other than my mother's husband, so be it. That situation is not any worse than a foster home.

This isn't the same in the case of gay parents, where one is biological and the other is adoptive. There is no resentment in this situation, because the kid having only one biological parent in the home is not the result of a betrayal. It's all about the child not feeling as if he/she was unwanted or a mistake. Like I said, once you have a kid nothing is about you anymore, it's all about your kid.

If they are your significant other and they cheat, obviously they don't care a great deal.

If you say they were worth dating even though they cheated, you are truly spineless.

it's not always that simple. Sometimes people love each other very much and are still dysfunctional. Sometimes, both people cheat, and for some reason decide to just deal with it. I wouldn't, you wouldn't, but some people do. And some of those people have kids. It doesn't ruin anything if both parents accept responsibility and forgive. Again, I couldn't forgive something like that -- but I am not everybody.

It all comes down to the balance of pride and presumed responsibility. No answer is wrong. Something like this happened to me, where the girl I was dating had another man's child. I thought it was mine, and supported the both of them. When she finally admitted that it wasn't mine, I stopped supporting them -- only because she had other support to fall back on. If I was her only option, I would have continued support simply because I would not have left her and her daughter to the wolves. Call it what you want, but I am not spineless.

 

[Emissary Laito]

Fairly situational.

I don't get on well with children really, so I certainly wouldn't like this.
I'd try and press for abortion early on I guess.

Assuming that didn't work, it would depend how much I cared about her, and how sorry she was.
I'm a fairly forgiving person, so I'd at least consider it.

I guess it wouldn't be hugely likely, but...
There is a chance.

 

[Robyrt]

It's not the child's fault your husband/wife cheated on you. You have to stay, unless there is other support available for the kid.

 

[ShrooM_DoughKiD]

I'd stay, after I whooped that guys ass into a coma.. I wouldn't stay to be with the mother, I'd stay for the kid.

 

[AkJay]

Well, the way I see it:
She cheated
The baby isn't mine

What obligation would I have to associate myself with either of them?

 

[Betancore]

I think if he was really unable to look after the baby, and I could forgive him for cheating even without the baby factor, I would probably help to raise the child. Doubtful I'd be that forgiving though.

However if this happened now, at this age, I'd think he deserved it for being an idiot, pity the baby for having no mother, pity the mother for being dead, and then get the hell out of there. He could always find someone else.