Poll: Looking for real advice not moral zealots

[VitalSigns]

Hmm In the end, its very much up to you dude but some things to think about are:

1. You only live once and in my mind try to take every possibly good experience thats on offer.
2. Think about the mindset of the other girl, I'm sorry ladies but as much as guys can be pricks, women can play some pretty horrific mind games to get their own way.
3. Everything might be great at the idea stage but it can be alot different when in practice. Someone might suddenly change their mind, it could even be you and then things become sour.
4. Your girlfriend can get jealous either mid sex or sometime after about something simple like "the way you looked at her" or "you've never done that with me" etc and that starts a rift between the two of you.
5. Is it really worth it? Is it something you personally desperatly want or is it just a gimmicky kind of thing that your not really to arsed about. Would you still want one even if she was against the idea.
6. From my "experience" its happend after being drunk and it can become quite a funny, laughable scenario, even silly. Its still a threesome but its nothing like you'd see in a porn film. Granted this proably was just the drink that made mine go a bit comical.

At the end of the day. It's up to you. This probably isn't the question an internet forum holds the answers to. Talk it over with a mate who knows you both and can give you an informed external view on the situation. Though be prepared they may ask to join in haha

Very good points, I am still debating the idea, and will be talking with my Girlfriend a bit more about it.

 

[The Hairminator]

Bring them together and ask first? Make sure everyone is cool with it.

 

[dontworryaboutit]

Shoot first. Ask questions later.

LOL ACCIDENTAL INSEMINATION OF FRIEND

 

[Uncompetative]

I think your an idiot

you're = you are

your = belonging to

Note: that's "belonging to each other" rather than "be longing to have a threesome".

eachother

You really have to watch those spaces.

 

[Scobie]

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[profit0004]

IMO opinion this would make wedding vows a joke.... But a far more likely scenario is....


Successful troll is successful. Just saying... Why on earth would anyone get real life advice from this board. Nothing against anyone... but we are on a gaming board, not a professional counseling group.

 

[Seventeen]

Hmm In the end, its very much up to you dude but some things to think about are:

1. You only live once and in my mind try to take every possibly good experience thats on offer.
2. Think about the mindset of the other girl, I'm sorry ladies but as much as guys can be pricks, women can play some pretty horrific mind games to get their own way.
3. Everything might be great at the idea stage but it can be alot different when in practice. Someone might suddenly change their mind, it could even be you and then things become sour.
4. Your girlfriend can get jealous either mid sex or sometime after about something simple like "the way you looked at her" or "you've never done that with me" etc and that starts a rift between the two of you.
5. Is it really worth it? Is it something you personally desperatly want or is it just a gimmicky kind of thing that your not really to arsed about. Would you still want one even if she was against the idea.
6. From my "experience" its happend after being drunk and it can become quite a funny, laughable scenario, even silly. Its still a threesome but its nothing like you'd see in a porn film. Granted this proably was just the drink that made mine go a bit comical.

At the end of the day. It's up to you. This probably isn't the question an internet forum holds the answers to. Talk it over with a mate who knows you both and can give you an informed external view on the situation. Though be prepared they may ask to join in haha

Very good points, I am still debating the idea, and will be talking with my Girlfriend a bit more about it.

No worries mate. Can't really say how I'd act if I was where you are but I think after deliberating every option, I'd do it. Soley as a one of though. Dont make a habit of it. An open relationship in my mind is just a massive contradiction. You end up with nothing being sacred between two people anymore. And an open marridge is just two single people bound by law and religion which is definatly not what you want I'm sure.

 

[flare09]

This is very...odd. Unbelievable almost...

 

[chefassassin2]

Why on earth would anyone get real life advice from this board. Nothing against anyone... but we are on a gaming board, not a professional counseling group.

Indeed, but this is the Off-topic discussion Forum. So pretty much anything goes here. And as to why someone would look for advice here? I think it's not bad to get advice from people who you feel you know, even if you don't "know" them in real life. Just another way to get perspective on something.

 

[Flying-Emu]

Do not listen to those telling you not to do it, they're just jealous. You have the oppurtiunity to bang 2 birds here and one is your consenting fiancee, you may never get this oppurtiunity again. No matter what happens you'll regret not doing it more.

You're a rather lonely fellow, aren't you?

 

[timetuner]

My advice; be blunt as a hammer,at the point where all three of you are in the room, bring it up. It may get awkward, but it will test just how under control the others emotions are and how the both of them think of it while in the presence of others. risky, but less so than going in without this intel.

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

Do not listen to those telling you not to do it, they're just jealous. You have the oppurtiunity to bang 2 birds here and one is your consenting fiancee, you may never get this oppurtiunity again. No matter what happens you'll regret not doing it more.

You're a rather lonely fellow, aren't you?

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But no, you're right.

 

[mshcherbatskaya]

-Me and my fiancee are very open minded.
-This is not something She is doing just cause she thinks i'd like it, we have talked about the idea of a threesome for a while now
-Other girl (the friend) said that any feelings she may have for me are under control and would not let this become a problem. (she could just be saying that however)
-I am confident in my sexual abilities and truly don't feel this would be either awkward, or laughable.
-Any guy with a libido would want this to happen.

--People do have successful open relationships (I know several) BUT they don't just wing it, they set out the rules first, to make sure they agree on what is acceptable.
--Clarify with your fiancee what she finds sexy about it, and make sure ALL THREE of you are clear on who wants what, otherwise someone is going to feel left out, disappointed, and hurt.
--Under control? Wouldn't let it become a problem? BIIIIIIIG RED FLAG! It's probably already a problem. At this point, I would recommend you pass.
--Sexual abilities are one thing, sexual experiences are another. Again, get on the same page. What you are able to do and what you are interested in doing are two different things, and that goes for them as well.
--Well, no, not every guy with a libido, but a lot of them, sure. Not a few women too.

 

[loremazd]

If you do it, make sure you talk to your fiance first, tell her of your concerns about the friend having feelings for you. If you cant be honest enough to tell her, you deserve to get in trouble if it goes to drama town. Me, i've never had sex with someone I didn't love, so I probably would never want a threesome, just not wired that way.

 

[Nmil-ek]

Lifes short, and unless you become divorced/have a good bit of cash the odds of getting to good looking girls in bed at the same time again is fucking thin, confirm it with her and have a bloody experiance I would say.

 

[DN83]

I'm going to agree with most of the other people on this issue. If you really want to jeporadize your relationship with your true love to have an orgie with some other girl while your true love is still there, that's what's going to happen.

 

[quack35]

Wouldn't recommend it. Here there be dragons, man, it's not worth it.

 

[HentMas]

look,if she is still having fealings towards you, well, i wouldnt do it, no one is that cold to have "only sexual" thing, so it would probably just end up in a triangle of her trying to get you back and your girl getting more and more jealouse, i probably would sit them both in the living room and talk to them both, but i wouldnt do anything untill i have made it clear that "it was not my idea" and "i will do whathever you both want to do".

then if everything is ok, pop a bottle of wine or whatever haha


is your fiance aware of the other girls fealings???? (if not, you probably should explain that to her before hand)