Poll: Sexism?

[Kevvers]

No. Well.. it might be if you're only doing to ogle a shapely backside.

 

[ohellynot]

It doesn't really matter what you do; for being a man, someone will say you're wrong.

Feminism is a terrible thing.

If you try to defend yourself, they always have the perfect thing to say to shoo you down.
It's uncanny

 

[Johnn Johnston]

No, but that hasn't stopped me being accused of being a sexist. Oddly enough, it was by the one woman in the group of eight that I was holding the door open for.

 

[Kogarian]

Funny you should say that. I view myself as being a gentleman, but I act about it somewhat differently. Having grown up in situations where I've been weaker than everyone I know (hell, I've yet to meet a girl my age who's weaker than me) I never really see women or men as being explicitly more or less capable. As such I tend to extend my gentleman-ness to anyone, regardless of sex. The interesting thing though is that I've actually gotten weird looks and people questioning my sexuality upon my assistance to guys. That's likely just adolescent homophobia, but even so I've questioned whether there's a social stigma of either being an ass or being a gentleman to women only.

(Course, seeing as how I really never cared if I was seen as gay/bi/heterosexual, this never stopped me. Huzzah for non-sexist gentlemanly actions!)

I've never had anyone look at me weird for being polite. Most older people smile at me and thank me, while younger adults make their kids come to me and say "Thank you" if I held it open for them.

I guess that's one good thing I can say about the area I live in, most people are decently polite and well mannered.

 

[Kogarian]

I find it hard to even pretend hit girls. Now I have a friend who is very tomboyish who I hit but it took me a while for me to be comfortable. I just dont feel its right to honestly hit a girl.

Wait, I thought you were a girl? Your name is Mrs. Snugglesworth.

Ahah! That, my good sir, is sexist.

Wow this feminism thing is easy, no wonder women can do it.


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Too far?

I found it as a decent satire.

I actually read his name wrong. It is, infact, 'Mr.'

 

[Ridergurl10]

It doesn't really matter what you do; for being a man, someone will say you're wrong.

Feminism is a terrible thing.

Seriously as a female, what you just said is really insulting. Feminism is responsible for getting women almost equal rights in the work place as well as the right to vote. I agree that it is taken to the extreme in some cases, but it is truly a good thing and not remotely terrible.

On topic: I don't think it's sexist. I appreciate a guy who holds doors and such. I try to do the same in return. I think it's polite.

Then why is it that nearly every law in place holds a double standard?

Feminists have changed the western world to the point where men fear to be gentlemen, as they can be (and often are) arrested for doing so.

In my books, when someone sets out to achieve equality, and ends up fucking over the 'opposition', something is horribly, horribly wrong.

Ok give me one example of how the feminism movement has screwed over men. I understand that sometimes feminism is taken to the extreme and I don't support that. However as a women any movement that gives us equal rights (which we deserve as 50% of the population) is a good thing. And we don't even have equal rights yet, upper management in companies is still dominated by men. So don't give me some bs about the feminism movement screwing men over without some facts to back it up.

 

[The Cheezy One]

there are women who love to have the chance to complain about you being sexist, and so wont appreciate holding doors etc.

 

[DareArkin]

Sadly, though while being a gentleman is polite, it's -technically- being sexist as you are not treating both genders exactly equally.

Devils' advocate bullshit aside, being a gentleman is, in my opinion, something every guy should strive to be.

 

[AT God]

I think being a gentleman is part of life. Being the cynic that I am, I embrace it when people call me sexist or women get mad because I offer assistance.

I don't think I could watch someone I knew hit a girl, I would probably attack them, and for the Golden Rule, I hope someone would hit me also.

 

[Aj.Nobs]

Okay, the general idea is that its sexist if you don't treat men and women exactly the same. But unless your bisexual isn't that hard to do. Women are often weaker than their male counterparts, thats just biology, estrogen prevents the building of muscle tissue. Another thing i have seen a lot of is talk of feminism. I am all for equal rights but sometimes they are abused. This also happens in situations of race, they can use a law to get them a job even if they are not qualified. I have seen it happen. Its not just women though, minorities and men do it too. I just do not understand why women wan't to fight they way they are designed. Women have a stronger backbone allowing them to carry around babies, me do not. It is not a matter of an opinion but fact. And yes i do treat girls differently in some cases because if I like a girl I am going to treat them differently.

 

[xXGeckoXx]

I was raised by my parents to be a gentleman(Opening doors, Helping whenever possible, etc.), a rare thing nowadays. I have been told that I was being sexist because I refuse to hit a girl. It's not like i don't view them as equals or anything, I very much respect them. What do you think?

Hehe. i was not raised like that, I took it up as my own code, I open doors, I REFUSE to hit girls. And no.....It is not sexist. And if it is sexist to do it for one gender then so be it. Sexism at that low level is not a bad thing in my opinion.

 

[AkJay]

To most women, it's not being sexist, it's being a nice/polite person, to a femanist it is sexist.. never understood why.

 

[Uskis]

The concept of the Gentleman is upright sexist. It's primal ideal was to shield the female from the "harshness" of the world. It's obsolete. It doesn't mean we can't be nice to eachother, but the small gestures of the gentleman, I think, is redundant and patronizing.

 

[letsnoobtehpwns]

So it's sexist that I act like a total ass when I'm with guys and I'm calm and polite when I'm with ladies?

 

[Darkmaster127]

To answer to the OP, as i can't be bothered to read the rest.

In my opinion, yes it is sexist. Assuming peoples definitions of sexism are; discriminating against someone based on their sex, then it can't be seen as not. As far as i'm concerned, it is positive discrimination.

For clarity; My view of positive discrimination is the same as normal, but treating them better instead of worse.

Most don't seem to mind, or care about it. I don't care enough to say anything, but am against it, as it does treat people differently (Not necessarily with less respect)

 

[A Raging Emo]

No, not hitting a woman, holding doors open, etc etc, is polite.

 

[Trivun]

It doesn't really matter what you do; for being a man, someone will say you're wrong.

Feminism is a terrible thing.

This. I was raised as a gentleman and I always am, whenever I can be, but I'm sorry to say that chivalry is dead.

 

[Zangamarth]

I held the door open for a lady, who promptly tried to smack me and said "I don't need a man holding the door open for me." I verbally smacked her back by replying "I hold the door open for women AND men." I should have added, "So shut up, you overly feminist ****."

 

[Shycte]

I don't get it. I always hear women complain about them just having 85 % of the males wage. I mean, God, they have their own salary aswell.

Most women talk about sexism as long as it if for their casue, otherwise they just complain when they're now surrounded by gentlemen.

Sexism don't exist really.