Poll: Should I meet him?

[ZydrateDealer]

Well if you wait till you're A LOT older then you may still not be able to fight him off...if you go to Norway on holiday with your parents and are staying at a hotel/campsite/cabin near enough to him then I don't see why he shouldn't come and visit you OR take a friend on holiday with you and then both of you go and meet him.
Also while there really isn't a safe way to meet anyone (a bus could crash into you on the way after all) the best thing to do is talk to your parents and ask about visiting Norway, if they can afford it firstly and if there's anything in the area that he lives in that'd be of intrest to them...you can't just force your parents to take you to norway so you can meet some guy in person.
It very risky and extremely stupid to spend all that money and travel so far just to meet a guy who could turn out to be a rapist; the next step is to hear his voice and see him on webcam to be certain...then you can arrange some sort of meeting, a family holiday where his family can stay at yours and then you stay at their house.

 

[ultimateownage]

I have been talking to a boy a year older than me from Norway. We've been talking for 3 years now.
I met him online on a game called Puzzle pirates, I have him on facebook and msn so I've seen pictures of him. He refuses to go on web cam and speak on XBL because of his accent. I've wanted to go to Norway for a long time before I knew him. So when I finally go there should I meet him with my parents, or wait 10/15 years so if he's a paedophile he'll be about 60 and I'll be 25 so I can fight him off? I'm 14 nearly 15 and he's nearly 16.


EDIT:Bit of background Info..... I speak to a friend of his also, (who I met before him) I also googled his fathers name and got his address and it is a genuine house. He's on some school photos and football team photos and has 200 or so friends, he wasn't the one who instigated this and one time I was ill off school I appeared offline on msn all day and he wasn't on it once. And obviously I'd go with my parents. (How else would I afford it )

wait, I don't get it, if you're almost 15 and he's 16, how will he 60 when you're 25? Am I missing something or do you just not understand maths?

O.T. Don't go and see him, really, there's no point going to an entirely different country to meat one frickin' guy you met on the internet. That's a little weird in my opinion. But I would really need to know more about how friendly you two are to make a total decision, because the more pally you are the less weird. Take Hubilub and Furburt has an example.

 

[xavi]

I wouldn't risk it. I have been faked personally.
Somebody made a facebook, myspace, AIM,ect using my name and demographics.
It's not hard for someone to get info about somebody else like that.
If he'd talk to you and maybe webcam then sure BUT you don't know and
signs point to it being a fake...it's not worth the heartache.

 

[jonnosferatu]

I have been talking to a boy a year older than me from Norway. We've been talking for 3 years now.
I met him online on a game called Puzzle pirates, I have him on facebook and msn so I've seen pictures of him. He refuses to go on web cam and speak on XBL because of his accent. I've wanted to go to Norway for a long time before I knew him. So when I finally go there should I meet him with my parents, or wait 10/15 years so if he's a paedophile he'll be about 60 and I'll be 25 so I can fight him off? I'm 14 nearly 15 and he's nearly 16.


EDIT:Bit of background Info..... I speak to a friend of his also, (who I met before him) I also googled his fathers name and got his address and it is a genuine house. He's on some school photos and football team photos and has 200 or so friends, he wasn't the one who instigated this and one time I was ill off school I appeared offline on msn all day and he wasn't on it once. And obviously I'd go with my parents. (How else would I afford it )

No, you shouldn't. When you're 18, and after you've talked via webcam, maybe. But now? Fuck no.

 

[Terrik]

So he refuses to speak with you through webcam or voice programs? How is he planning on communicating with you face to face then? Pretty sure the accent will still be there...

 

[Soxafloppin]

He doesnt have to talk on cam. Don't risk it.

 

[War Penguin]

It's really your decision. This is something that you should think about really long and hard. Is this what you really want to do? Do you really want to go to another country just to meet one guy?
That's my advice.

But if I decided to do that, I'd wait 'till I was older, already have thought about it, brought my parents, and, damn it, VIDEO CHAT! If he is "embarrassed about his accent" just tell him you understand and you don't care what he sounds like. No chat, no party.

 

[Musclepunch]

Btw everyone, I dont want to go just to meet him, as stated in the original post, I wanted to go on a holiday to Norway long before I knew him, the reason he was from there is why I started to get to know him.

 

[ItsAChiaotzu]

If you really are discussing with him to arrange a meeting, then a vid chat shouldn't be a problem. If his accent is a problem on cam it's probably not gonna get better IRL.

Just like teddy said:

You never heard him or seen him on cam?
Sounds VERY fishy if you ask me.

Indeed it does. Kudos teddy, for your excellent observation abilities. I for one, salute you.

I'm an ovservation pro.
*cool pose with sunglasses*

Shame you aren't a spelling pro.

(I can't help it, don't hate me!)

Also, don't don't don't don't don't!

Seriously, the amount of fake waves this guy is giving off is reaching me here! There is absolutely a 0% chance he is genuine.

 

[teisjm]

Sure, just bring your parents.

 

[SmoothOperator]

Meeting internet-friends IRL is always a letdown.

Don't.

 

[Dags90]

Sure, just bring your parents.

This. Meeting someone in a crowded public place is a pretty safe bet. Just don't go with him if he wants you to check out his puppies or something.

 

[noodles loves you]

meet him. If he turn out to be a rapist and locks you in his basement at least you'll have a funny story to tell the kids the whole sordid horror story spawns.

EDIT: oh wait you're a dude, disregard that. there will be no kids.

 

[Julianking93]

You never heard him or seen him on cam?
Sounds VERY fishy if you ask me.

Listen to her. Teddy knows.

Seriously, he refuses to go on cam and talk to you because of his accent? Yeah and I'll bet those pictures of him are from around 20 or so years ago, right?

You know what this all sounds like?

Spoiler

 

[TheAceTheOne]

While I see the other's points, I must admit, if you go with your parents, you might end up ok.

 

[Reenix]

I have been talking to a boy a year older than me from Norway. We've been talking for 3 years now.
I met him online on a game called Puzzle pirates, I have him on facebook and msn so I've seen pictures of him. He refuses to go on web cam and speak on XBL because of his accent. I've wanted to go to Norway for a long time before I knew him. So when I finally go there should I meet him with my parents, or wait 10/15 years so if he's a paedophile he'll be about 60 and I'll be 25 so I can fight him off? I'm 14 nearly 15 and he's nearly 16.


EDIT:Bit of background Info..... I speak to a friend of his also, (who I met before him) I also googled his fathers name and got his address and it is a genuine house. He's on some school photos and football team photos and has 200 or so friends, he wasn't the one who instigated this and one time I was ill off school I appeared offline on msn all day and he wasn't on it once. And obviously I'd go with my parents. (How else would I afford it )

Try no. My best friend got with his girlfriend over ONM forum but at least they live in the same country and are both equally crap. Find someone closer to home; someone who will give you the honour of webcam or chat - just to be social.

 

[Joshdemon]

I have been talking to a boy a year older than me from Norway. We've been talking for 3 years now.
I met him online on a game called Puzzle pirates, I have him on facebook and msn so I've seen pictures of him. He refuses to go on web cam and speak on XBL because of his accent. I've wanted to go to Norway for a long time before I knew him. So when I finally go there should I meet him with my parents, or wait 10/15 years so if he's a paedophile he'll be about 60 and I'll be 25 so I can fight him off? I'm 14 nearly 15 and he's nearly 16.

I say go for it. But don't tell your parents, they won't understand-- you should sneak away to meet him at a private location of his choosing. Obviously he's a trustworthy and friendly person or you wouldn't even be considering this let alone talk to him for 3 years, so there's very little risk involved.

I would say that there is a very high element of risk involved in going to a foreign country on your own to meet someone for the first time. Even if this guy is geniune and shy, after 3 years he should feel comfortable enough to show himself on webcam. If you do intend on putting yourself in this incredibly vulnerable situation, tell your parents at the very least.
P.S. It's incredibly easy to fake pictures these days. A simple Google image search can sort out an image of whatever this guy wants to look like to you.

 

[Canid117]

If he refuses to speak on webcam then he is probably a thirty year old bald pedophile hoping you are enough of a sucker to fall for that fake facebook page. Ate least you should assume that every time something as suspicious as "I don't want to talk on webcam because of my accent" is sent to you.