Poll: Should parents have to pay back their kids

[karloss01]

borrowing money is the same no matter the relation between the two parties, in my opinion. why should the reason "their my parents" be an excuse from taking money without asking.

 

[Klarinette]

Well.. it sort of depends. I mean, yeah, they spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to raise you.. but if they make it clear that they're borrowing it as opposed to "give it to me and go hug everything I ever gave you," then... they should, to keep debates like this from happening. At least in my house, nobody actually wants to pull the twenty-five-Christmases-plus-your-entire-life card, so mom and dad always give back the gas money/miscellaneous small amount money when they borrow it. It's not like it was serving a purpose that night other than keeping the current shape of my wallet. They're usually just a couple days away from pay day when that happens, so it's never a big deal.

Well, except for when they borrow it from my brother. Mom says borrowing money from him, even if you just need the gas money to get to the bank to get his money back, is like trying to talk him into giving you one of his limbs. With me, if I've got it and it's spare, you can have it.

 

[Eleima]

Oh my gosh, do you have any idea how ungrateful you sound? Seriously, your parents feed you, clothe you, provide your education, and you're actually complaining when they take a couple of bucks from you?
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you need to wake up and smell the coffee, so to speak. If I could give back even a tenth of what my parents have done for me, I would die happy. But maybe that's a sentiment that comes with age when you get older, leave the nest, and start being confronted with the "real world" and how it truly works.

 

[BringBackBuck]

My mum borrows a few quid here and there if she's a bit short when the window cleaner or the milkman comes knocking, or if it's just 40p for a paper. To be fair I really don't ask to get paid back, I spent my early teens living off my parents money so I feel I at least owe my mum something. Though I always figured kids paid their parents back when said parents got too old to look after themself.

Yeah, but as a teen, you don't really have the ability to earn a living. You weren't a tenant, you were a child. Your parents (most likely) chose to have you, and therefore have to support you. However, I also feel that when you start earning money for yourself, any amount that is borrowed or lent between teen and adult should be paid back in full.

Pretty much this. Everyone making the "Do you have any idea how much it costs them to raise your?" argument, needs to read this.

It's not okay for your mom to take your money without asking. That's pretty much the definition of theft. And yes, your parents should repay what they borrow. Or at least make it clear that they are asking for a contribution rather than a loan.

That is true up only up to a point. When you are no longer a minor (15, 16, or 18 depending on where you live) your parents can kick you out of the house. They don't have to give you shit.

From this point onwards if your mom takes your money, i agree that is the definition of theft. But so is you taking a loaf of bread that you didn't pay for from your mum's cupboard, or using power you haven't paid for.

If you are an adult living at home, you should have an adult conversation about paying board and establishing financial independance so that your parents will treat your money as yours.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

it depends case to case, especially on the amount


i had a friend who would work 30 hours on the weekends outside of school (he was an athlete weeknights so didn't have time to work) and nearly every other weekend his mom would take money out of the account or whatever and go to the bars with it, and since she was also on the account as he was under 18 at the time he couldn't do anything about it.


in that case i think it is beyond fucked up wrong.


say my mom or dad needed to borrow some cash to get some food for the family? i couldn't give two shits in the world if they ever pay me back on that, they fed and raised me growing up, and thats fine, if they pay me back awesome, but if not oh well.

so yeah i think it definitely changes case to case and i think in your case your parents definitely need to pay you back

 

[Im Phelpsing It]

Yes, they probably should, but if this were to go to a court or something, unless it was a HUGE amount, they'd laugh it out. They gave birth to you, you can spot them 50 bucks.

 

[JWAN]

Nope, your parents own you.

 

[BottleOfAwesome]

When someone borrows money, they pay the person back. If I borrow cash from my dad I have to at least give him change, but I try to back him back full.

Sometimes he wants to borrow cash so he doesn't have to go to the bank or ATM. I owe him for life basically and he'll write an IOU. He's very good at getting me my money, but if he's late I really don't mind.

There is nothing wrong with that, he's family and if he doesn't pay you back for a while then no problem and if its a trivial amount then no I wouldn't expect to be paid back however...
My mum does the same thing and I'm completely fine with it.

My mom on the other hand, who is just a stay at home mom, will sometimes just take money from me and not tell me. Sometimes she just goes out of her way to avoid paying me back.

I'm assuming she's taking more than just a trivial amount (Trivial amount: a few dollars I guess)
I don't see this as okay, yes, she's your mum and all but she should ask or at least tell you she's borrowed some of your money, its not like you'd say no either is it?
She may have raised you and such but there is no reason to act like that.
It seems very childish by taking your money and not telling you and then avoiding you so she doesn't have to pay you back.
You should probably talk to her about it, though I personally think that if she wants money she should ask your dad, not take it from you.

 

[El Poncho]

As long as my parents tell me they are borrowing money and I know I can rely on them if I need money then I wouldn't mind if they paid me back or not, but they always do.

 

[brunothepig]

It's a situational thing. There's been times my mums been short on money, so I've walked up the shop and bought bread and milk or what ever with my own money. Other times shes borrowed $100 or so, then payed me back come pay day. Basically, my mum doesn't have to pay me back, and I don't expect her to with the small things, but she still does sometimes. However, your mum not even asking is just not cool. Then she's not borrowing in any sense of the word, she's stealing.

 

[BodomBeachChild]

No. Think of all the money they put down on the stupid shit you bought all your life. I would never expect my parents to pay me back unless it was a few grand.

 

[Tim Mazzola]

Do what I did, get the hell away from your parents.

Parents are a touchy kind of thing. On the one hand, they're basically paying all your bills and for your food... on the other, you have a right to your personal stuff and they should respect that.

 

[Thumper17]

How much money are you lending these people? My dad will ask me for a penny to even up the price of lunch or coffee at MOST. My mom might ask me to pick up groceries and pays me back for that. If yoru lending your parents 100's of dollars then yeah, they need to pay you back, but if it's just 20 or 30 dollars, unless you badly need it, no, they paid a lot of money to raise you, consider that you paying THEM back.

 

[Nemo____]

Cost of raising a child from birth to 18 is $166549. Not including time and all the responsibility of looking after a child.

If you start paying your parents back now,....

 

[Worgen]

its one thing to just borrow money, its another to steal it, which is what it sounds like your mom is doing, she can justify it all she likes since they had to pay the cost of raising you but its still stealing

 

[Bugerion]

How much money have they given up to raise you?Once you give that money back then you can request everything to be paid back

However she should at least tell you she is taking the money

 

[therandombear]

Erm yes...if my mom or dad borrows some money from me they pay me back.

 

[Jewrean]

Kids make me laugh. Look, they brought you into this world. They put a roof over your head. The majority of your possessions are thanks to them. If anything, you owe them... tens of thousands of dollars. The average price of raising a child, putting them through school, hospital visits, clothing, food, etc. Although your situation does sound shitty, kids never have the right to complain in this regard. Just wait until you emancipated then you can do what you want with your cash.

 

[soul_rune1984]

My mom always paid back any money she's borrowed from me especially, when I was a kid. Your mother should do the same it's disrespectful otherwise. And to all every one who's been saying "They gave you life so they don't.", the best way to pay your parents back for all their effort in raising you is to try and stay out of trouble do the best you can and be a good person.

 

[Gigano]

Of course they should pay back what they borrow, and if they take money to which you're legally entitled without consent then that's not borrowing, that's stealing.

Whether you then want to enforce that legal obligation is another matter. But it should certainly be there.

As for the whole "they paid for your upbringing" thing, that's nonsensical. Not only does gifting something to others not mean that you get to take away possessions of theirs in return, but it was also solely the choice of the parents themselves to have a kid and the expenses that come with it. The kid had no say in it, and hence no obligations on it can spring from it.