Yeah of course they do. Every now and then I need to loan my parents money but they always make sure to pay me back.
Poll: Should parents have to pay back their kids
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I assume you didn't earn money from day one and your parents wanted you?BodomBeachChild said:
It's their damn responsibility that they have to provide you with everything after they got you.
And the OP stated he is mowing the lawn for money which implicates that he isn't so old and doesn't have much money.
And taking away money from him without asking is wrong and its bad parenting from the mothers side.
Really, everyone rooting for the parents should think about it for a second and the whole "they made and you fed you, so you owe them"-argument is retarded.
Except that they chose to do that well beforehand and knew what they were getting into. They didn't write IOUs for every expense made at his cost and therefore all of it was a gift from them. He, on the other hand, has his job for another reason. Perhaps he's saving for something, or whatever. It doesn't matter. If they take money from him, it's stealing.Jewrean said:
What you're talking about here is emotional blackmailing: "Well, we did [THING X] for you, so you're a horrible person if you don't do [THING Y] in return". If a parent does this, he/she is a bad parent.
Also: those saying "well, it's okay if the family needs it, I guess," you know what that is? Child labour. You know what child labour is? Illegal.
Despite the fact that your parents have presumably been financially responsible for you for quite some time, it is still a bit disrespectful for your mother to seemingly steal from you.
In the same sense, if you needed money for something, you would probably tell them and then they would give you the money. You wouldn't just steal it because that would be disrespectful, even if you knew they would have given it to you anyways.
If your mom takes your money, but when you are broke your parents will still give you money, it doesn't much matter who pays back who. Its a bit annoying that someone takes money after you earn it, but that's basically what taxes will feel like too.
I remember borrowing money from my parents, but when I would try to pay them back they would just tell me to keep it. Inevitably I would need money for something later, so they figured it was an exercise in futility.
In the same sense, if you needed money for something, you would probably tell them and then they would give you the money. You wouldn't just steal it because that would be disrespectful, even if you knew they would have given it to you anyways.
If your mom takes your money, but when you are broke your parents will still give you money, it doesn't much matter who pays back who. Its a bit annoying that someone takes money after you earn it, but that's basically what taxes will feel like too.
I remember borrowing money from my parents, but when I would try to pay them back they would just tell me to keep it. Inevitably I would need money for something later, so they figured it was an exercise in futility.
As a general rule, yes of course they should. It encourages you to work as it isn't all taken off you, it means that you have a healthy understanding of having to pay people back and the like.
That said, legally tough luck if you are a minor. I would reccomend talking to your mom about it. Of course do be aware that people do trade money for favours ie I'll lend you X amount and you do my washing, etc. If your mom is tidying your room and the like you have a much weake rleg to standf on.
Either way talk to her in a calm manner. Most mums want what's est for their kids so there should be a reason behiend it.
That said, legally tough luck if you are a minor. I would reccomend talking to your mom about it. Of course do be aware that people do trade money for favours ie I'll lend you X amount and you do my washing, etc. If your mom is tidying your room and the like you have a much weake rleg to standf on.
Either way talk to her in a calm manner. Most mums want what's est for their kids so there should be a reason behiend it.
Probably been said already, but there is a huge difference between stealing and borrowing. Your mother is taking money from you without your constent with no intention of ever giving it back to you. Even if she did intend to give it back, it's still wrong to take it without asking.
This whole "it's the parents house so they should be able to treat the child as poorly as they like and if the child doesn't like it tough luck" really needs to go out the window. I'm sick and tired of hearing that as a valid argument. There is a HUGE difference between a parent setting rules and boundries, and a parent abusing their child. It sickens me that some people seem to think the two are one in the same.
And really? We're going to pull the "they raised you" card? The parents are supposed to take care of the child, not the other way around. Just because parents have to support their children until they are able to get a job does not mean the child has any obligation to pay the parents back when they have the money to do so.
This whole "it's the parents house so they should be able to treat the child as poorly as they like and if the child doesn't like it tough luck" really needs to go out the window. I'm sick and tired of hearing that as a valid argument. There is a HUGE difference between a parent setting rules and boundries, and a parent abusing their child. It sickens me that some people seem to think the two are one in the same.
And really? We're going to pull the "they raised you" card? The parents are supposed to take care of the child, not the other way around. Just because parents have to support their children until they are able to get a job does not mean the child has any obligation to pay the parents back when they have the money to do so.
That has never happened to me, but if my mom needs money i just give it to her and don't ask to get it back, we live in the same house and we share the expenses for food, rent and taxes so i would feel like a douche if i didn't pitch in. And if you really want to keep that cash just put it somewhere safe, like a bank.
Yes they should have to pay back. It is theft unless you agree to give them money as a gift without them having to pay them back before they take the money.
Yes. That's how money works. You barrow some, you owe it back.
You lend it, you should get it back.
I say take it back!
You lend it, you should get it back.
I say take it back!
yes they should. Especially when said kid has a job and their own bills to pay. My parents pay me back when they borrow money. My mom makes me go pick her up from work and stuff and take her on errands(since my dad and i are the only two with cars) and she repays my gas that she uses. Or I just let her take my car cause I'm too lazy to go out. Or its too hot. But then I also have the rule in my car of you better be paying me gas money if I'm taking you somewhere cause gas is too expensive right now.
Just a stay at home mom 
. I think she should at least inform you that she is going to take some of your money. It would probably be nice if she were to give it back as well, but I don't think a couple of dollars here and there really tips the scales of balance too far in her favour, since she is presumably doing so much for you just on the basis that you are her child.
. I think she should at least inform you that she is going to take some of your money. It would probably be nice if she were to give it back as well, but I don't think a couple of dollars here and there really tips the scales of balance too far in her favour, since she is presumably doing so much for you just on the basis that you are her child.
if they can't afford to pay you back then they should just not give you the money in the first place, there's no justification for stealing it, even if they are your parents
That "their house, their rules" argument holds absolutely no water when stealing is involved, hell, even if a parent borrows money from their child, it should always be paid back in full because that's how borrowing works.
If a parent "borrows" money and doesn't pay it back, yeah...That's not borrowing, that's taking something that isn't theirs, and guess what? Also stealing.
If it's a small amount, I don't mind so much. If my mum or step-dad needs to borrow a hundred or two for a week, then sure, that's fine, so long as it gets paid back. If they need a 10, then that's fine and I don't mind so much if it doesn't get paid back.
But if a parent says that they'll return the money, and then doesn't? There's a problem there.
If a parent "borrows" money and doesn't pay it back, yeah...That's not borrowing, that's taking something that isn't theirs, and guess what? Also stealing.
If it's a small amount, I don't mind so much. If my mum or step-dad needs to borrow a hundred or two for a week, then sure, that's fine, so long as it gets paid back. If they need a 10, then that's fine and I don't mind so much if it doesn't get paid back.
But if a parent says that they'll return the money, and then doesn't? There's a problem there.
I've never had a problem with it and since I moved out there's never really been a situation where my parents have borrowed my money. They live in another country, it's a little hard.
Regardless, when I lived with them my parents would often borrow money because I have an irrational hatred for banks and kept most of my money at home in various 'safe spots', so when they needed money they'd take it.
My dad would sort of try and see how much he could give back before I'd forget that he owed me more. So if he owed me 40, he'd put down 10 at a time on the table, staring at me. Never fooled me, but I'm pretty sure it was in good fun.
Anyway, I think that they should pay back, especially if its money you earn. Because lets face it, parents should be teaching good habits. And not paying back is not a good habit. Taking without asking is especially wrong, if you're trying to grow up and start getting your own money, they shouldn't just be taking it from you. I'd have a few words.
Regardless, when I lived with them my parents would often borrow money because I have an irrational hatred for banks and kept most of my money at home in various 'safe spots', so when they needed money they'd take it.
My dad would sort of try and see how much he could give back before I'd forget that he owed me more. So if he owed me 40, he'd put down 10 at a time on the table, staring at me. Never fooled me, but I'm pretty sure it was in good fun.
Anyway, I think that they should pay back, especially if its money you earn. Because lets face it, parents should be teaching good habits. And not paying back is not a good habit. Taking without asking is especially wrong, if you're trying to grow up and start getting your own money, they shouldn't just be taking it from you. I'd have a few words.
Looks like I kind of fucked up what I was trying to say, so I'll have another shot.
The parents are in every way obligated to pay their child back. The idea that they can simply take money from their children is abhorrent, no matter the previous history between the two.
However, if the child were to choose to let their parents off the hook - taking into consideration the money spent by their parents with no expectation of return, and for the sole benefit of the child - then that would also be acceptable.
So long as the choice remains in the hands of the child, then the outcome, whatever it may be, is acceptable.
The parents are in every way obligated to pay their child back. The idea that they can simply take money from their children is abhorrent, no matter the previous history between the two.
However, if the child were to choose to let their parents off the hook - taking into consideration the money spent by their parents with no expectation of return, and for the sole benefit of the child - then that would also be acceptable.
So long as the choice remains in the hands of the child, then the outcome, whatever it may be, is acceptable.
If they're borrowing money off of you - money that you earned - then yes, they should give it back.
Before you take the moral high ground though, try and visualise exactly how much money they've spent on you, with no expectation of ever getting it back. If they do it too often, then yeah, sure, try and get repaid. If it's reasonably uncommon though, think about letting them off the hook.
Before you take the moral high ground though, try and visualise exactly how much money they've spent on you, with no expectation of ever getting it back. If they do it too often, then yeah, sure, try and get repaid. If it's reasonably uncommon though, think about letting them off the hook.
I dont mean to sound bad, but I honestly havent heard of parents borrowing from the children before. Mind you, my children arent old enough to have a job or anything, but I would still never consider borrowing money from them. If I got to that point, I would simply have to get a second job.
either hide your money better or tell your mom to stop stealing your money(that's what 'taking without permission' is, after all) or you'll just quit your job.
ask her what reason you have for working if she just takes your gains?
ask her what reason you have for working if she just takes your gains?