SEX!!!

[ThrobbingEgo]

I was exaggerating and being slightly sarcastic (something which i will regret due to everyone taking it seriously). And although it will still be special for people who only have sex with a handful of people who they really like you cant deny it will be more special for people who only have sex with the 1 person they spend their life with. Spreading the love doesnt make it not special it just makes it slightly less special.

And why John Thomas, because in all of my replies to this thread i've been using completely ridiculous stand in for a mans length of pipe because i can. John thomas is one of the ones used in monty pythons meaning of life's song about a weiner.

I'd rather find the person special than the act. In a relationship, I'm not so sure I should be so concerned with sex feeling "magical" than me being in the "right" relationship.

Aside: Is it weird that I'm defending sex and putting less emphasis on it than a relationship? I feel like the ambassador from Bizarro-world.

 

[Zykon TheLich]

(i'm running out of bad euphimisms for rods )

Tallywhacker.

 

[Xanadeas]

Oh and something I just thought of... If sex wasn't important in a relationship would people even be discussing it at all?

 

[Nmil-ek]

Well, I really don't understand why people care about it so much, or even want to have it, for that matter. It is disgusting, in actuality. I mean, all the bodily fluids, disease, and proximity to the anus 'n what not...
I'm stayin' a virgin until I find a lifelong mate who can make that sound appealing. (among other qualities of course.)

You've read my mind there.

On Topic: You are saying that sex is absolutely necessary for a relationship to work out? There is that strange strong feeling called Love.

Love is very powerful but lust is just as powerful its a fact humans love/want sex its hardwired into our genetics and mentality. Sex in a relationship dosent mean your banging every other day it just means when the two of you feel like it, and sex does not need to have love attached even in a relationship it can be a quick hit of a good feeling for a couple in monotomous day to day life. I drink for instant gratification why not the same for sex why all this morality and love stuff all the time?

 

[The_Prophet]

That's the thing; his argument was that love is important, but that sex is as well. Let me find a quote:

If in fact we can all agree that a relationship based solely on sex is doomed to fail, then surely one based solely on love is also doomed to the same fate. After all, man is a "carnal" animal.

There, you see? He's saying that they need to exist in balance.

Oh so allow me to correct that.

They don't need to exist in balance.

 

[savandicus]

I was exaggerating and being slightly sarcastic (something which i will regret due to everyone taking it seriously). And although it will still be special for people who only have sex with a handful of people who they really like you cant deny it will be more special for people who only have sex with the 1 person they spend their life with. Spreading the love doesnt make it not special it just makes it slightly less special.

And why John Thomas, because in all of my replies to this thread i've been using completely ridiculous stand in for a mans length of pipe because i can. John thomas is one of the ones used in monty pythons meaning of life's song about a weiner.

I'd rather find the person special than the act. In a relationship, I'm not so sure I should be so concerned with sex feeling "magical" than me being in the "right" relationship.

Exactly, if you only start having sex after you've commited then its removed entirely from the process of deciding whether that person really is the person you want to spend your life with.

 

[tom teh_enforcer]

I think that sex is important in holding a relationship together but you should never base a relationship entirely on sex.

 

[Xelanath]

Why just because something is special does it mean it should only be shared with your life long partner?

Becuase if you sleep with every person you speak to it wouldnt be special anymore.

1) How do you know that?

2) There's a big gulf between "every person you speak to" and "a life long partner" and I'm not just talking about numbers, I'm also talking about other categories like "people you care for" or "people who help you express yourself sexually."

I'd like to second this statement. From all evidence that I've personally and impersonally acquired I soundly conclude that sex remains equally special to people, regardless of experience. Of course, the fact that how good sex is changes depending on your partner is an important factor in this being true.

 

[Kogarian]

I don't know anyone on here that looks down on sex...

Me neither

Hmmm. Ssgt. Splatter would be a great name for a male porn star.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

I'd rather find the person special than the act. In a relationship, I'm not so sure I should be so concerned with sex feeling "magical" than me being in the "right" relationship.

Exactly, if you only start having sex after you've commited then its removed entirely from the process of deciding whether that person really is the person you want to spend your life with.

Eh, I'm just saying it's not a priority. Something that's amazing to share with someone, but if you sleep with a few people who you're not going to be together with forever and always, it's not like both your enjoyment of sex and your future relationships will be diminished. That's silly.

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

They don't need to exist in balance.

Please, explain.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

It's obviously very complicated and you can use whatever words you want, but in short: there's a difference between requiring someone to meet one of your subjective tastes and requiring them to meet some objective criterion.

Tastes can be criteria - but you'd hope that personality, character, and competency would be higher on the list than a specific eye colour.

Then again, I like the twisted Adult Swim humor.

I think the whole problem is we think in terms of 'lists'. Personality or character or competency can't replace actually being attracted to a person physically. I think we actually put too *little* importance on looks, and we do so because we put too little importance on our own sexualities.

I'm just using "list terminology" for simplicity. What I'm saying is, if you find a beautiful woman, who's everything you need but has brown eyes - who'd be that choosy? Who'd really care? I sure wouldn't.

 

[A random person]

One thing I fail to understand is the wait until marriage mentality. The logic is that you should save something for marriage, but isn't marriage a big deal in itself? The binding contract, the social consequences, and the massive amount people spend on weddings and gifts seems like a firm commitment to me. Not to mention that if people could freely have sex, people would marry out of actually liking each other.

 

[The_Prophet]

They don't need to exist in balance.

Please, explain.

Well, when there is strong love, there is no need for sex.

 

[Russel1]

no need to make a big deal
sex is sex, its something that should be enjoyed
i would say sex IS important in a relationship, people hook up because they are sexually attracted to each other
if you feel you found an eledgable partner, go nuts
but be smart and use contraceptives where needed. stay healthy
religious/older people might have different opinions about sex, leave them to it
in my opinion as long as you know what your doing, have sex as much as you want, do whatever makes you happy.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

I was exaggerating and being slightly sarcastic (something which i will regret due to everyone taking it seriously). And although it will still be special for people who only have sex with a handful of people who they really like you cant deny it will be more special for people who only have sex with the 1 person they spend their life with. Spreading the love doesnt make it not special it just makes it slightly less special.

And why John Thomas, because in all of my replies to this thread i've been using completely ridiculous stand in for a mans length of pipe because i can. John thomas is one of the ones used in monty pythons meaning of life's song about a weiner.

I'd rather find the person special than the act. In a relationship, I'm not so sure I should be so concerned with sex feeling "magical" than me being in the "right" relationship.

Exactly, if you only start having sex after you've commited then its removed entirely from the process of deciding whether that person really is the person you want to spend your life with.

One, life doesn't work that way for lots and lots of people. Some people want both the act AND the person to be special. Maybe you two don't, but you can't judge the sexual identity of others on the basis of your own.

Two, you can know what kind of sex you want before you have sex for the first time. Maybe you two were blank sexual slates, but that doesn't mean the rest of us are.

1: If the person's special, then the sex is special. That doesn't change with the number of sexual partners.
2: There's a thing called compromise and communication. If you like something, and she likes something, you can in most cases have it both ways. In the event of some off the wall sexual fetish, either have an open mind, or talk about it beforehand. Duh.