Should I file a sexual harassment claim?

[infabread]

Jeasus, shes being nice!
Maby a bit over the top by your standards but she doesnt know that, tell her you want her to back off, your not coming across in a good way (dont worry neither am i in this) by instantly thinking sexual harassment claim.

 

[VicunaBlue]

I dont see how that's sexual. Annoying, maybe, but not sexual.

Also if you're a guy this isn't going to get taken seriously by anyone.

 

[Nopenahnuhuh]

I started a part-time job at a state agency about four weeks ago, and there is a married woman in her early 50s who works there who is not my direct superior, but is still above me. She appears tired and sulky most of the time, but whenever she sees me she brightens up immediately. She acts flirty every time she talks to me and often gives me compliments on what I am wearing that day. She has grabbed my biceps at least twice before and asked whether I work out.

Yesterday I got a buzzcut, and today at work she unexpectedly came up from behind me when I was seated and ran her hands all over my head and commented how I look like the guy from Prison Break.

Now it's very possible she is being an innocent flirt because she is bored at work and means nothing by it, but I am going to choose to feel violated and offended instead. I am not a sexual object, and I demand to be taken seriously at my job!

Should I file a claim and potentially ruin this woman's long career and marriage?

here's a thought, maybe she's just trying to be friendly! Do not continue the ever growing Sexual Harassment cycle just because you're uncomfortable with people touching you. At best tell her you don't like ye olde hands across America in a playful manner, since all I'm seeing here is a woman being friendly.

Don't be a douche!

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Well, try talking to her first.

I mean, did you even consider that?

 

[Vykrel]

So don't become like those American douches who throw the toys out of the pram and bawl whenever they have difficulty in life.

why is it that someone always says something so fucking ignorant like this, for NO reason?

 

[Chrono180]

I'd say go ahead and file it. If you win, you might get a good settlement. If you lose at least you'll have sent a message that you are not to be harassed. Sure, you might wreck her life, but it'd be her own fault. Women should have the same responsibilities as men if they want equal rights, and one of those responsibilities is to not make unwanted sexual advances in inappropriate situations.

And to all you saying that he should "suck it up and deal with it", would you be react the same if it was a woman being groped?

 

[Nopenahnuhuh]

lol

ITT: 19/20 people do not read past the OP

she touched your biceps and your hair? OUTRAGE!

seriously though, it's just your hair. get over it.

I'll be sure to tell my future wife and daughters the same thing. It was just your hair that Jim from accounting was stroking against your will, get over it ladies.

Woooooooooow, ok. Someone has some seeeeeeeeeeeeerious issues! >_>

I don't see your problem mate, honest... I'm from Brazil and down here we're pretty touchy feely all over the damn place. It's a sign of friendship and trust. If a married woman comes over and strokes my hair and touches my biceps I don't see it as her invading my private space but as someone just being freaking friendly!

I mean, DAMN! Get over yourself!

 

[LikeDustInTheWind]

Ask her to tone it down first, if she doesn't SUE HER FOR ALL SHE'S WORTH!

^This

 

[Eirak]

And to all you saying that he should "suck it up and deal with it", would you be react the same if it was a woman being groped?

They would care even less if it was a woman. You think guys here would be offended if a girl was saying exactly the same thing?

 

[Eumersian]

Tell her to stop and make a threat, no, promise that you will file a sexual harassment claim if she continues. That's really the most reasonable thing I can think of. If you don't like how she treats you, you have every reason to make her stop.

 

[blarghblarghhhhh]

Should I file a claim and potentially ruin this woman's long career and marriage?

no. you should tell her that her actions make you very uncomfortable and demand that she stop. if that doesnt work then report her to HR. In my experiences doing that is good for two reasons: one, your making it clear to her that you dont want her to do those things to you and in doing so you will have a much easier time getting taken seriously if she doesnt stop doing them. two, you wont look like an idiot to all of your co-workers for jumping the gun on something that could have been (in there eyes) fixed in a much easier way.

 

[hutchy27]

I'm definitely leaning towards suing. I feel that my few minutes of discomfort a day can only be adequately compensated with the full value of her 401k. Maybe she'll even have to sell her house!

Are you joking here or are you just a complete and utter douche who god damn greedy?

 

[Drauden]

Yes, why not?

Because it's a deuchy thing to do.

Talk to her first. If you're really upset about it.

 

[standokan]

She's maried? Extort that through blackmail, that's your duty.

 

[cystemic]

someone's popular with the ladies...the old ones...
i think you may be going a bit far with the harassment thing, ive had a stranger walk to me and shake me screaming "WITH CLAWS" and no I don't know what she was talking about. unless you desperately need money just tell her to stop, hopefully she'll back off and leave your buzzcut to emanate awesome for the rest of its short lifespan

 

[punkrocker27]

Be a man and slap her derrier, then ask her if SHE works out. It'll turn the tables right 'round.

 

[Dr Snakeman]

Okay, pal, props for the attempt at satire, but it didn't really work that well. You come off less righteously annoyed than douchey.

Although, I'll agree that 'sexual harassment' has gotten way out of hand. If someone says that they feel harassed, then it is sexual harassment; I can't be the only one who feels like that's absurd. It needs to be defined better, so that it won't be so prone to abuse.

 

[Voodoomancer]

*Parrots everyone posting before him*

Try asking her to back off first?