Should I file a sexual harassment claim?

[ultimateownage]

I have a feeling that you like being litigious, and are just ignoring the other options so that you think you have to sue. But you don't want to show that so you're pretending like you're against the idea. I notice that you've been ignoring most of the sensible posts and only commenting on the ones saying 'sue her!'.

 

[Jacklin]

dont be a twat dont file harassment u ponce
she likes you and u should say oi, btich, u like ugly and old

yeah really just tell he to go munch some rug

 

[Mr. Eff_v1legacy]

While she may make you uncomfortable, I would be reluctant to even call it sexual harassment. Just tell her to stop.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

Actually, I'd talk to her first. If you don't say anything, and smile out of awkwardness or just to be polite, then I think she assumes you may like the behavior. Don't pretend to be comfortable with it if you are not, because then she'll continue and it could get a lot worse. Tell her you feel it's inappropriate and that she should stop because it's highly unprofessional. If she continues after you've told her to cease, then speak to the higher up that's supposed to assist in these matters. Such as your HR representative, and see if this can be stopped without a lawsuit and without the whole 'destroying her life' thing.

*Or you could flirt back - because apparently in this thread it's alright. It's probably also alright for her to grab at your crotch and treat you like a piece of meat, even if it makes you extremely uncomfortable. Because you're a guy right? You're supposed to want it no matter how you really feel. Like they say, "You are asking for it".* [/sarcasm]

If you feel uncomfortable, then you shouldn't HAVE to put up with it because you are a man. I'm getting really tired of this, 'Men can't be victims' jargon, because everyone thinks you shouldn't have feelings, or be uncomfortable, and be a pig towards everything with breasts and a vagina. Because, "That's what a man does". But trying to utterly destroy someone elses life and taking the up-most pleasure in it, is just disgustingly greedy and abhorrent; whether you are a man or woman.

 

[ThatDaveDude1]

'Tap' That Ass.

 

[Merkavar]

yeah talk to her first.

cause from what you have said seems like sort of normal social interactions. maybe a little extreme with rubing your head all over and the fact that she is 50. how old are you?

 

[kinggamecat]

I don't think ya should file a sexual harassment claim, maybe a complaint to the company, if she does something that really IS sexual harassment, THEN you should file a sexual harassment claim. Did ya ask her to stop?

 

[PrototypeC]

You know what sexual predators and perverts tell the courts (and themselves)?

"She/he didn't say anything until I was already going for it, they didn't say stop believably, they seemed to be enjoying it until they screamed."

Wow, that was dark. Sorry about that. You understand what I'm getting at though, yes? It would be more than a little douchey to try to sue this woman (not to mention, even that would still be a risk), especially when her career is picking up. Follow RealityCrash's advice, because once she realizes that you are so uninterested as to potentially sue for it, she WILL stop. Her steady, good job is worth more and she knows it.

Unless you're being sarcastic or trying to make a point, in which case stop screwing around and belittling those molested in the workplace.

 

[captaincabbage]

Like everyone else with a braincell here, it's pretty obvious that you should tell her to stop first. If she keeps persisting and/or makes a bigger gesture then go for it.

 

[someonehairy-ish]

The advice to tell her to stop, then formally complain is sound. Or at least threaten to.

If she goes for the junk... skip the asking her to stop bit and jsut complain.

Tis my 2p.

 

[Natdaprat]

Women sexually harassing men? Don't make me laugh. The courts would have a good laugh at that.

Seriously though, just deal with it or tell her. Don't go all American and sue when you're upset.

 

[Comrade_Beric]

Me? I'd just be happy I was being found attractive by someone else and move on. There would be considerably less friction in the world if everyone acted more like that.

That said, you're not me. If she truly makes you uncomfortable, say something to her. If she doesn't get the message, her boss probably will. If her boss doesn't, that is when you finally tell someone official about it. I'll warn you now, though, that telling someone to stop like that can sometimes make them highly uncomfortable around you from then on, being afraid of accidentally doing or saying something that might "set you off" and get them reported. Rational or not, most people who file sexual harassment claims end up changing jobs within a year or so because the uneasy feeling it often produces in their coworkers becomes too unsettling to work around.

 

[willsham45]

If you get a buzz cut what do you expect...
But seriously, ask her to stop and maybe she will stop
Or stick some semi permanent hair dye in your hair, it will come off on anyone hand who touches it...and everything your head touches...and run down your face when it rains but it would work as a good.

 

[Squeaky]

Say how you feel towards her its probly harmless fun, so if it makes you uncomfortable and tell her before you jump to legal she should understand and easy off.

But i hate legal action when there is another choice so depends if you have a back bone ?

 

[rutger5000]

I started a part-time job at a state agency about four weeks ago, and there is a married woman in her early 50s who works there who is not my direct superior, but is still above me. She appears tired and sulky most of the time, but whenever she sees me she brightens up immediately. She acts flirty every time she talks to me and often gives me compliments on what I am wearing that day. She has grabbed my biceps at least twice before and asked whether I work out.

Yesterday I got a buzzcut, and today at work she unexpectedly came up from behind me when I was seated and ran her hands all over my head and commented how I look like the guy from Prison Break.

Now it's very possible she is being an innocent flirt because she is bored at work and means nothing by it, but I am going to choose to feel violated and offended instead. I am not a sexual object, and I demand to be taken seriously at my job!

Should I file a claim and potentially ruin this woman's long career and marriage?

Hell no you big pussy, you don't deserve to be taken seriously if you make such a big deal about this. Sorry for the name calling, but filing sexual harassment is the last thing you do. You'll be making an extreme fool out of yourself and her. First ask her to stop yourself and if that doesn't work even after months and months of trying then threaten with sexual harassment and then go for sexual harassment.

 

[Alordo]

Read my later post. They say the same thing, but there are more examples of the typical reactions to a guy claiming it.

 

[Droppa Deuce]

OP, what's the big deal?

Next time she grabs your bicep, flex it. Make her feel how ripped you are under the shirt; make her realise that you're a weapon of mass sexual destruction.

It sounds like she needs to be liberated. Help her explore new and daring sexual boundaries. Venture to the nether-reaches of pleasure with her on a dangerous liason of lust and passion.

Next time you walk past her, giver her a firm and dominant slap on her backside, and keep walking as if nothing happened.

She has served the state well; you should honour her service by giving her what it is she desires.

 

[darkless]

And now...REVERSE THE ROLLS!

Girl: A co-worker touched my hair in work today while I wasn't expecting it and said I was attractive should I file a sexual harassment suit?

Everyone here: HANG HIM!, BURN HIM! How dare he touch you what a dirt bag!.

Don't deny it.

 

[Zhukov]

I'm going to repeat what many others have said.

Ask her to stop first. She may well not realise that it bothers you.

If she keeps doing it or gets nasty, then yeah, go official on her arse.