Good lord! Look at all these people talking about MARRIAGE and possible genetic outcomes for CHILDREN! Are you guys serious?! Have you all never been seventeen?
Hey, OP. Here's the real answer to your perfectly legit question: you're seventeen. I'm sure you're sure your feelings are clear and intense. But you're seventeen. When you're seventeen, lots of things are new and exciting and lots of decisions feel like they're crucial, life-changing, and massively important. But they aren't!
There is a 10% chance that any romantic relationship at your age will outlast 1 month. A 1% chance that such relationship would survive 1 year. Relax and have fun. Make sure you don't trap yourself in anything that could affect your long-term life (disease, pregnancy, injury, commitment). And above all else, DON'T TELL ANYONE. I mean, why would you? You would gain nothing and lose something (familial respect, emotional stability, whatever).
I was once unfortunate enough to be seventeen. I had my share of firsts: first loves, first forbidden loves, first lost loves. Each time I bumped into another "first," I thought it was the most important thing in my life, and I KNEW that it would last forever. It didn't. They never did. Attraction grew into infatuation which, when satisfied, bred comfort. Comfort led to boredom, and boredom became contempt. Sometimes it was a month, sometimes it was a year. That's what it is to be seventeen.
So go to the movies! Go shopping! Make out a little if you really must! But don't make plans, don't make promises, don't damage your future, and don't say a word.
Hey, OP. Here's the real answer to your perfectly legit question: you're seventeen. I'm sure you're sure your feelings are clear and intense. But you're seventeen. When you're seventeen, lots of things are new and exciting and lots of decisions feel like they're crucial, life-changing, and massively important. But they aren't!
There is a 10% chance that any romantic relationship at your age will outlast 1 month. A 1% chance that such relationship would survive 1 year. Relax and have fun. Make sure you don't trap yourself in anything that could affect your long-term life (disease, pregnancy, injury, commitment). And above all else, DON'T TELL ANYONE. I mean, why would you? You would gain nothing and lose something (familial respect, emotional stability, whatever).
I was once unfortunate enough to be seventeen. I had my share of firsts: first loves, first forbidden loves, first lost loves. Each time I bumped into another "first," I thought it was the most important thing in my life, and I KNEW that it would last forever. It didn't. They never did. Attraction grew into infatuation which, when satisfied, bred comfort. Comfort led to boredom, and boredom became contempt. Sometimes it was a month, sometimes it was a year. That's what it is to be seventeen.
So go to the movies! Go shopping! Make out a little if you really must! But don't make plans, don't make promises, don't damage your future, and don't say a word.
