Sacman said:
Anyway this is a continuation of a poll I started yesterday. It asked the question, " Would you date a close relative?" but in truth it was one of those relationship advice threads, that I never participate in. The whole thing started when I met a cousin I haven't seen in like a good couple years(I'm 17 she is 16 now) at a family reunion a week ago. I was out of town or else I would have posted earlier. I got the feeling she was coming on to me so I got her number and we've been talking and doing things together everyday since, I.E. Movies, mall, shopping ECT. All the time she's been dropping, extremely unsubtle, hints that she likes me more than a cousin. So at the time I thought, "I like her too we have a lot in common, and we have some decent chemistry together, so why not?" Today I worked up the nerve to tell her how I feel and to my surprise it wasn't extremely awkward, only slightly, but anyway she says she likes me too and, like me, wants there to be more between us. So were off but the first thing that crossed both of our minds was how the family would react. I mean our family is very supportive and close but that could cause more problems than actually help.
So what do you think I should do about the family? and have you ever been in a relationship that your family didn't approve of?
Also, keep in mind that it's legal in California to marry your cousins...
Edit: let's get something straight Her Grandmother was the 3rd cousin of my grandfather but was adopted by my great grandparents at a young age and from that point had a daughter than her daughter had a daughter...
While they may not support you, the choice remains. Your happiness or theirs. Deep down, I would normally say family is important, but if they don't understand then it's really not their fault, because a lot of people would be unprepared to deal with something like this, as it's considered taboo in many places. However...your happiness, and hers, is likely the best choice. You can always wait until you are 18 to tell them, then if things get heated in the ''this is my house'' etc department, you can always move out. Sounds cruel, but people need to accept you in order to love you. :x
I say do what's right for you, but be very careful about it. Even if you aren't blood relatives. When you do decide to tell them, make sure you are ready to leave if it goes downhill. :x
I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you guys are happy together!
