So, I'm dating my cousin now... Yeah...
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Can I kindly remind everyone that they are 16 and 17 and therefore completely un-fucking-likely to get married or go too far long-term in the first place?
Seriously, untwist your knickers and look at it practically. Outside of the taboo, there is virtually nothing that is likely to actually go wrong with this. I don't think he should tell his parents, but it is just his cousin, so it's not as though it'd be THAT conspicuous unless someone caught them kissing.
I would perhaps recommend being VERY careful in the event that you have sex (IE CONDOMS), but even then, you're far enough removed that any accidents would result in deformed grandchildren.
Seriously, untwist your knickers and look at it practically. Outside of the taboo, there is virtually nothing that is likely to actually go wrong with this. I don't think he should tell his parents, but it is just his cousin, so it's not as though it'd be THAT conspicuous unless someone caught them kissing.
I would perhaps recommend being VERY careful in the event that you have sex (IE CONDOMS), but even then, you're far enough removed that any accidents would result in deformed grandchildren.
Eh if your not blood related I don't see what the big deal is, I say go for it and if it works out then awesome. Just cause your 'legally' family doesn't mean you need to think of yourselves as like a brother-sister type deal. Its completely different when your not actually related though understandably still awkward because of what some people will say / think who don't approve.
But then my whole life philosophy is pretty much 'ignore as many rules / society demands' as possible so I'm probably not the best advise giver lol.
But then my whole life philosophy is pretty much 'ignore as many rules / society demands' as possible so I'm probably not the best advise giver lol.
Given that it's not even a blood relation just a technical one and not even that close then I'd say Meh see where it goes then if it goes somewhere, start getting ready to broach the subject with family.
The title cousin in this case is just a word, even if it was distant blood I'd still say try it.
I mean it's similar to saying what if you are dating a girl then your parent and her parent hook up and suddenly you are brother and sister!, it's just a word =p.
As long as you stay clear close blood you're not running a risk of spawning crazy 3 legged things any more than the next person so no big deal =p
The title cousin in this case is just a word, even if it was distant blood I'd still say try it.
I mean it's similar to saying what if you are dating a girl then your parent and her parent hook up and suddenly you are brother and sister!, it's just a word =p.
As long as you stay clear close blood you're not running a risk of spawning crazy 3 legged things any more than the next person so no big deal =p
Well good for you mate. If you aren't closely related, and you like her, then it's fine. Don't know what you could do about the parents though, if I was you I wouldn't say it was a relationship until a bit later. Just say you're friends for now.
If you are serious about leaking this info to your family you need a few things first:
1. a shotgun, the bigger the better
2. a willing disposition to murder anyone who disagrees with your mode of logic
3. a lawyer to draw up a contract to make them legally bound to silence
but really, this is all a colossal mistake, do not date your cousin or any other closely related family member. no matter how it turns out there is always the probability that people will realize whats going on and forever you will be known as the 'inbred hillbilly retard.'
1. a shotgun, the bigger the better
2. a willing disposition to murder anyone who disagrees with your mode of logic
3. a lawyer to draw up a contract to make them legally bound to silence
but really, this is all a colossal mistake, do not date your cousin or any other closely related family member. no matter how it turns out there is always the probability that people will realize whats going on and forever you will be known as the 'inbred hillbilly retard.'
Not blood relation, ok in my book. Very fucking weird by most social standards, but fuck most social standards. If you two actually love each other, and think it's going to last, do it. Of course, if you -don't- think it's going to last, steer far, far the fuck away from it. It will cause pain, and then probably make things rather difficult later in life, rather than just a little social stigma.
Damn right.jonnosferatu said:
You can't honestly expect this relationship to go all the way in life. You're still changing and growing as people, and the relationship is extremely unlikely to last. I imagine if you tell your family, it could make things pretty awkward, and if you break up (probably) at some point, things will be made so much worse.
My advice, don't tell your family. Not until you've been together maybe 8 months or so and are still going strong should you even consider going public with it. This isn't like normal relationships, so play it cool.
hey its your own buisiness, if you think it could work go ahead, but just remember that because youre blood relatives, any children you have will be blue with eight legs and tentacles
My personal opinion is that it's wrong considering you're cousins. But I'm not going to let that blind me in this post.
This is your decision and I can only suggest that you be pretty careful about what you're doing considering the social issues that will arise if you get caught. Love can be a strange thing and in this case I can't really comment too much considering how things have gone for me in the past.
But again, this is your decision. Just be careful and I wish you two the best of luck for the future!
This is your decision and I can only suggest that you be pretty careful about what you're doing considering the social issues that will arise if you get caught. Love can be a strange thing and in this case I can't really comment too much considering how things have gone for me in the past.
But again, this is your decision. Just be careful and I wish you two the best of luck for the future!
Distant cousins, I dont see an issue with, it may be kind of werid, but you say you havent seen her in years, while I see most of my cousins 3 or 4 times a year. Also since its your cousins by adoption rather than blood that will also change how people percive it. Meh just go with it for a while and see where it goes. If it comes to nothing then no issue. If things take off then consider spreading the word.
EDIT: On reading some other posts your barely related to her at all, as others have said, there will be hundreds of people who are related to you that you might end up screwing with that many generations of separation.
EDIT: On reading some other posts your barely related to her at all, as others have said, there will be hundreds of people who are related to you that you might end up screwing with that many generations of separation.
She is only cousin by adoption, genetics wise she is incredibly diluted being like 6 times removed.Treblaine said:
.. um yeah i say find another... im from california and i didnt know cousin could marry here... so why are people worried about gays marrying.. dude don't do it.. be it for your family or your future 3eyed kids
and yes the deliverance theme popped in my head when reading it
and yes the deliverance theme popped in my head when reading it
I say go for it, i doubt you will read this due to the Huge amount of replies you've recieved, but in my opinion, looking at the fact that it is legal where you live, and she is tbh quite distantly related, go for it, i see nothing wrong with that personally
The best thing to do would be to take it slowly. You might feel differently about each other in a month or two, but if you do stay together it's best you tell your family rather than let them find out on their own. You can't control who you fall in love with but whether it is legal or not you'll have to decide if you can live with the moral complications, possibly without the support of your family.Sacman said: