So, I'm dating my cousin now... Yeah...

[Oh That Dude]

"you know you're a redneck when you go to family reunions to pick up women" - jeff foxworthy

if you're SERIOUS about it... well i am sorry to say you're mentally ill and there is nothing anyone can do.

Kindly step outside this thread, troll.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

I personally would say not to, there's a lot more at risk then just a friendship.

However, im not you so all I can do really is just speculate the outcome.

If you have to, but its kinda condemned by sociatity (aaargh how do you spell that?!), normally genes as well, and just is squick. Please try not to have children. Help the genetic future of mankind.

Society good sir.

 

[crypt-creature]

The family might have a slight problem with it, just because most of them will be linked by a closer blood relation than you and will have a different mindset with it.
As others have said, wait a while to see where things go. If they last a good while and things seem to be going positively, you might want to tell the family together.

I see where you're coming from however, as I am adopted and have no blood relation with anyone in my adoptive family. Sure, they're all 'family' but at the same time they're also of no blood relation to me, so I can think of them as any other non-relation if I choose to do so.

 

[Czargent Sane]

How closely related are you exactly? Because I think your family(ies) would find that to be an extremely uncomfortable to be around. But hey youse guys are young, so it's not entirely the end of the world and it sounds like your respective families aren't really that close, if you haven't seen her in a while.
In perspective, I once hooked up with my cousin, but she was my mom's half-brother's stepdaughter (I'm not making this up), so there was no blood relation (not a big deal) but the creep factor was there at least minimally, so we kept it somewhat hush-hush. Also, marrying your first cousin is legal here in Manitoba(Canada) too.

How close of a cousin? Genetically, at around 4 or 5 it's okay, just a social taboo.

Were not related by blood but we are fairly close due to some adoption that happened farther up the family tree...

no blood relation, then go for it. I'm not saying that I'd be burning you at the stake if you were blood related, its just less complicated this way

 

[similar.squirrel]

Wait. Her grandmother was adopted. So you don't share any genes?
I suppose that's okay, but I wouldn't go announcing this state of affairs to anybody.

 

[mikecoulter]

Anyway this is a continuation of a poll I started yesterday. It asked the question, " Would you date a close relative?" but in truth it was one of those relationship advice threads, that I never participate in. The whole thing started when I met a cousin I haven't seen in like a good couple years(I'm 17 she is 16 now) at a family reunion a week ago. I was out of town or else I would have posted earlier. I got the feeling she was coming on to me so I got her number and we've been talking and doing things together everyday since, I.E. Movies, mall, shopping ECT. All the time she's been dropping, extremely unsubtle, hints that she likes me more than a cousin. So at the time I thought, "I like her too we have a lot in common, and we have some decent chemistry together, so why not?" Today I worked up the nerve to tell her how I feel and to my surprise it wasn't extremely awkward, only slightly, but anyway she says she likes me too and, like me, wants there to be more between us. So were off but the first thing that crossed both of our minds was how the family would react. I mean our family is very supportive and close but that could cause more problems than actually help.

So what do you think I should do about the family? and have you ever been in a relationship that your family didn't approve of?

Also, keep in mind that it's legal in California to marry your cousins...

Edit: let's get something straight Her Grandmother was the 3rd cousin of my grandfather but was adopted by my great grandparents at a young age and from that point had a daughter than her daughter had a daughter...

It's legal, and you two seem to get one really well together. As long is it isn't a problem for either of you, go for it. You officially have the mikecoulter seal of approval.

 

[RobCoxxy]

We all share a common female ancestor about 150,000 years ago, as well as a common male ancestor 80,000 years ago... so we're all related anyway.

Why the hell not, if you like her, do what it takes to be happy.

 

[Nalgas D. Lemur]

The last time I was in Hawaii visiting friends I got invited to this party thrown by this massive samoan dude, has this stupid hot cousin that's maybe a third his size. Cool guy, had a place on the beach, roasted a suckling pig, limbo and all that neat stuff to Hawaiian liberation music. Anyway, I head inside to use the bathroom/stalk that cousin I saw as she went in earlier. I stumble around looking for the jon, drunk as sin, and I wind up stumbling in on the samoan just reaming his cousin.

There I am just staring before I state the obvious, "Um, that's your cousin."

And he says to me, "It don't count if it up the butt, haole."

So I guess my advice is, anal.

This is clearly the best advice in the entire thread. Possibly the best relationship advice ever, even. I can't help being reminded of this [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cG-6AP8DIOU] by it, which is always a good thing to be reminded of.

 

[hurfdurp]

All I can say is that, if you're serious, this is a massive mistake.

Edit: You're 17, she's 16. There are MANY other girls out there. Going public to your family with this will have lasting implications. Regardless of what the law is, the general attitude toward this kind of thing is worse than the attitude toward gay marriage in CA. Couple that with your age and the likelihood that no one in your family will even consider for a second that your feelings for each other will amount to anything (which, given the track record of teenage relationships, isn't exactly unfounded), it probably won't end well.

Sorry for the sort of knee-jerk reaction, but this hits a bit close to home. Had a friend that went down this road in high school, and he's not in great shape emotionally these days...

Sadly not the fairytale response I think this guy was hoping for, but definitely the best to highly consider.

 

[otterhead]

Sounds fine then

How closely related are you exactly? Because I think your family(ies) would find that to be an extremely uncomfortable to be around. But hey youse guys are young, so it's not entirely the end of the world and it sounds like your respective families aren't really that close, if you haven't seen her in a while.
In perspective, I once hooked up with my cousin, but she was my mom's half-brother's stepdaughter (I'm not making this up), so there was no blood relation (not a big deal) but the creep factor was there at least minimally, so we kept it somewhat hush-hush. Also, marrying your first cousin is legal here in Manitoba(Canada) too.

How close of a cousin? Genetically, at around 4 or 5 it's okay, just a social taboo.

Were not related by blood but we are fairly close due to some adoption that happened farther up the family tree...

Sounds fine then. You have good reason to be close.

 

[Shycte]

How closely related are you exactly? Because I think your family(ies) would find that to be an extremely uncomfortable to be around. But hey youse guys are young, so it's not entirely the end of the world and it sounds like your respective families aren't really that close, if you haven't seen her in a while.
In perspective, I once hooked up with my cousin, but she was my mom's half-brother's stepdaughter (I'm not making this up), so there was no blood relation (not a big deal) but the creep factor was there at least minimally, so we kept it somewhat hush-hush. Also, marrying your first cousin is legal here in Manitoba(Canada) too.

How close of a cousin? Genetically, at around 4 or 5 it's okay, just a social taboo.

Were not related by blood but we are fairly close due to some adoption that happened farther up the family tree...

Not related by blood?

Then there's no problem! Tap that ass.

 

[Brandon237]

How closely related are you exactly? Because I think your family(ies) would find that to be an extremely uncomfortable to be around. But hey youse guys are young, so it's not entirely the end of the world and it sounds like your respective families aren't really that close, if you haven't seen her in a while.
In perspective, I once hooked up with my cousin, but she was my mom's half-brother's stepdaughter (I'm not making this up), so there was no blood relation (not a big deal) but the creep factor was there at least minimally, so we kept it somewhat hush-hush. Also, marrying your first cousin is legal here in Manitoba(Canada) too.

How close of a cousin? Genetically, at around 4 or 5 it's okay, just a social taboo.

Were not related by blood but we are fairly close due to some adoption that happened farther up the family tree...

If there's no blood relation then I don't see anything wrong with that, in fact I'd probably have done the same as you, but unless you guys decide to get really serious, I would still advise keeping it away from the rest of the family.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Sac it doesn't matter how much you try to sugar coat it, if you delude blood with water there is still going to be some blood in it

It's horrible when your water has delusions, isn't it?

 

[inFAMOUSCowZ]

While I would not date a cousin, on my side of the family. I can say this go for it. And dont worry I dont think any less of you because of this.

 

[XYLM]

Sac it doesn't matter how much you try to sugar coat it, if you delude blood with water there is still going to be some blood in it

It's horrible when your water has delusions, isn't it?

Dilute* dohhh

 

[MrHero17]

You know, I'm pretty sure that Japanese society has been proving that nothing wrong happens when you marry your cousin for a few hundred years now. You guys aren't even very closely related so I don't think it's even something to consider. Still like others have said, best to keep it secret in case it doesn't work out.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

Dont see no problem.
I guess around here a marriage would be legal too, afaik with a doctors approval regarding genetical problems.

 

[Cabisco]

I will be brutally honest.

NO. NO NO NO. NEVER EVER EVER!!!

Your 17 16, it won't last long and you'll never be able to hang out with that part of the family again, because you know... cousins....

ew ew ew.

I'm sorry, but thats what I honestly think.