So you discover that your girlfriend is transgendered.

[RowdyRodimus]

If it was my girlfriend, I'd dump it on the spot since it was a lie by omission. That's kind of something you should bring up during the courting process.

 

[Solo Wing Pixy]

I'm afraid I have no idea how I would react, because those who are kind enough to remember me know how very reclusive I am. The girlfriend scenario is eliminated by default because I've never had one, but as far as friends go if they were nice to me then I'd be nice back, I hope that isn't too narrow minded?

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

Depends on how hot it is. IT'S ONLY GAY IF THE BALLS TOUCH!
No seriously though, If it was my girlfriend, I would dump her and I would have this weird awkward feeling for a while. If it was just someone I knew, I probably wouldn't care too much.

 

[Tharwen]

Umm... I'd like to think that I wouldn't get that far without noticing, but still... I have no idea how to deal with all these hypothetical situations the internet keeps throwing at me.

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

I wouldn't care seeing as I am a Transexual myself.

To the OP: It isn't Transgender, it's Transexual. Transgender refers to all the diffrent Trans-statements i.e. Transvestites.

To all who say "IT's A TRAP!" - No it isn't. For it to be a trap, the person would need to look really really feminim on the level of Bridget. I.e. still a Male and not intending to do an SRS at all but are perfectly happy being a male.

Puke

Should I be offended by the pukers?

Haha, you beat me to the transgender correction. Yup, it's an umbrella term, like queer. Queer still doesn't sit well with me, though, considering what the word actually means. Anyway, I'm transsexual also, and the pukers don't really offend me. Guess I have a thick skin. Anyway, yeah, on-topic. I would accept her, keep dating her, and then want to talk to her about it, of course. What else would you expect from a transsexual? What else would you expect from a good relationship?

I'm assuming that because we were already dating, I would not have been put off by her/his appearance (a bit shallow, but that's just how I am). I wouldn't blame her for putting it off, at least for a little while, because I imagine that it might be a somewhat difficult subject to bring up. Ultimately, if I cared about the person enough, I would move past it. I'm not planning on having kids anyway, and if I changed my mind, we could always adopt.

You get a cookie-

Spoiler: cookie

 

[LightspeedJack]

You ape creatures and your silly antics If she's good enough to fool you, she's good enough to fool family and friends. The only problem is what to do if you decide you want to marry, settle down, and raise a family because you'll have to adopt.

Of course the real issue isn't her gender but yours and how secure you are in it... right ?
I'm gonna laugh at you now.

Wha....?

 

[Blackvegie]

I think the worst part may not be the 'transgendered' but the deceit. If my partner lied to me on such a grand scale it would be difficult to cope. Then again, honesty in this circumstance probably wouldn't end well..

 

[ADDLibrarian]

If it was someone I was dating, I'd hope that she or he would feel comfortable enough with me to be upfront about their life, including their sexual identity.

This.
I've had friends who are gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, transvestites- they're just as human as anyone else.

 

[AnarchistScum]

I'm bisexual and into crossdressing (even if I don't do it myself, there's an appeal to it) and I wouldn't mind having a transgendered "girlfriend" with fleshy man parts actually. As long as she hasn't removed her dick it's fine. Mainly because I have an issue with artificial vaginas if they're made by doctors.

Also I wouldn't mind a crossdressing boyfriend or hermaphrodite with a girl body.

And somewhat related, I hate kids, which would be perfect for my part, can't stand the little creatures. Also I don't understand why people dislike or fear transgendered people.

 

[Yureina]

"Hmm, that's interesting" is probably what i'd say.

Beyond that, the only thing I care about is the person. It really would depend upon what I thought of the person before I found out they were a TG. If it was a good relationship then no problem, but if this was someone who had in the past been deceptive or someone I could not really trust because of past incidents, then learning that probably would be the beginning of the end and i'd start getting ready to get away from this person.

I really don't know. I don't understand myself very well in this department, so I don't think I would fault someone else for having acted upon that uncertainty. It really just depends on how my dealings with that person had been prior to finding that out.

 

[BlueHighwind]

You break up with her/him. If you didn't know this from the get-go, s/he was obviously hiding it from you from the start. S/he obviously doesn't trust you, and will keep secrets in the future. If s/he choose to wait to tell you this, what ELSE could s/he be hiding?

 

[Pariah87]

If it was someone at work, or even a friend, it wouldn't bother me seeing as what my friends do is up to them. I'd still see them as the gender they were born as, but it wouldn't affect how decent a person they are. It may be ignorant of me but I've never understood the whole "I was born a guy in a female body" or vice versa. Although I'm pretty sure I'm a lesbian cursed to reside in a male form haha.

If it was my partner, or someone who I perceived to be my girlfriend then that would be it, over, go away, never set foot within 100 yards of me again. More because of the deceit, all the hormone treatment and surgery in the world can't take away that Y chromosone buddy.

Why would I be different towards a friend? Simply because I wouldn't have been sleeping with my transgender friend under false pretences, or contemplating the prospect of one day maybe having children, it's a piece of information that, when ommited, completely changes what the relationship was, is, and potentially could be.

 

[Xeros]

My dad's good friend is transexual. She's actually a very nice woman now. They're people too, just living as the sex they feel they should have been born as. So, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

 

[Da_Schwartz]

If it was someone I was dating, I'd hope that she or he would feel comfortable enough with me to be upfront about their life, including their sexual identity.

This.
I've had friends who are gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, transvestites- they're just as human as anyone else.

Yes there's nothing wrong with any of these things. Some of my best friends are Gay/Les as for the other genderbenders whatever floats your boat, it's you life, i can respect it. But to be realistic for a second if your dating someone without being upfront about your lifestyle then that's completely uncool. And worthy of an absolute flip the F out. As much as you wanted to be recogonized as equal and accepted is one thing, people should be open minded enough nowadays to do that. BUT on the same side deep down you also have to realize that yea. you are different. And if a significant other one day "discovers" your transgendered, well don't take it personal if you get what u deserve.

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

I wouldn't care seeing as I am a Transexual myself.

To the OP: It isn't Transgender, it's Transexual. Transgender refers to all the diffrent Trans-statements i.e. Transvestites.

To all who say "IT's A TRAP!" - No it isn't. For it to be a trap, the person would need to look really really feminim on the level of Bridget. I.e. still a Male and not intending to do an SRS at all but are perfectly happy being a male.

Puke

Should I be offended by the pukers?

Haha, you beat me to the transgender correction. Yup, it's an umbrella term, like queer. Queer still doesn't sit well with me, though, considering what the word actually means. Anyway, I'm transsexual also, and the pukers don't really offend me. Guess I have a thick skin. Anyway, yeah, on-topic. I would accept her, keep dating her, and then want to talk to her about it, of course. What else would you expect from a transsexual? What else would you expect from a good girlfriend?

Perhaps you'd be interested in joining my [a href=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/groups/view/Transgenders-of-Escapist]Group[/a] then?

Of course.

 

[Aura Guardian]

I wouldn't care seeing as I am a Transexual myself.

To the OP: It isn't Transgender, it's Transexual. Transgender refers to all the diffrent Trans-statements i.e. Transvestites.

To all who say "IT's A TRAP!" - No it isn't. For it to be a trap, the person would need to look really really feminim on the level of Bridget. I.e. still a Male and not intending to do an SRS at all but are perfectly happy being a male.

Puke

Should I be offended by the pukers?

I had a feeling you'd be here.
And to the OP. I'd be shocked at first but whatever. It won't bother me.

 

[Zykon TheLich]

Yell, "IT'S A TARP!" and proceed to fleet in error.

Seriously though, discovering your 'girl'friend was a dude is a whole different ballgame to a friend or casual aquaintence.

My friend, a sex change operation does not transmogrify a human being into a piece of camping equipment. I am so sorry.

Neither does it mistakenly send you to a small town in Hampshire, but who really cares?

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

Haha, you beat me to the transgender correction. Yup, it's an umbrella term, like queer. Queer still doesn't sit well with me, though, considering what the word actually means.

...Shit, really? 'Transgendered' is an insulting term?

Lol, don't worry, it's not. It just covers more than what the OP stated.

Here's a handy list of definitions for you. [http://www.tsroadmap.com/start/tgterms.html]