The Girl Next Row.

[Mr.logic]

I never said there wasn't a difference.

 

[Danny Ocean]

A bit off topic, but I don't get why people say things like "breasts are over sexualized in western society. Maybe if people weren't so afraid of the human body and saw it as a natural thing, rather than a sexual thing, it wouldn't be a problem."


I'm sorry, but who doesn't want to sexualize breasts?


I mean, life would suck if every time I saw a naked girl I was like "meh, its a natural thing"


Seriously people!

Spoiler: Oh my god..

We agree on something for once.
However, you have to admit that people that focus completely on sex are well...not nice...I can't think of a word to describe it.

Agreement?!?! Quick, say something bad about capitalism!




Yeah, I guess they're 'not nice'. That is, assuming "they" doesn't refer to teenage boys.

CAPITALISM CAUSES CORRUPTION!

*snip*.

There is a difference between being sexual and being a person that thinks only of sex.

It's the difference between being Glen Quagmire and a regular person. Something I've grown out of, luckily. It's a pain in the ass to be so oversexual. You can't think.

 

[Pimppeter2]

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I wasn't really talking about scientific theories, more like theories of human behavior. Take for example Hobbes, I would consider that his statement "No arts; no letters; no society; and which is worst of all, continual fear, and danger of violent death: and the life of man, solitary, poor, nasty, brutish and short." in Leviathan a theory

Things like this can not really be tested.

 

[Ossian]

Yeah...do not compare me to non-human life please.

Asari are awesome, it was a complement.

Read my bio and motto on my profile.

So your Klingon?

 

[Eliam_Dar]

Hi all, still sort of new here I know but I had something happen too me the other day and I was wondering if anyone else shared my experience... well I already know everyone probably has, but I wanted people to share their thoughts.

So I was in summer A humanities and was having a good time (I actually like school..) and I that the girl next to me was also in my psych class, so I asked her and we laughed about the other teacher, anyways I hadn't really looked at her too much except her face and maybe a casual glance. So she was sitting next to me and the teacher is going on about mythology when suddenly she stretched her arms above her head, arms back, chest forward... I thought my eyes were going to pop out of my head, I felt like the guy from raiders of the lost ark that face melted... I kept my cool and looked away (I'm christian and don't really think it is right to stare)

The rest of the class I had complete mush brains, [http://www.thelondonpaper.com/thelondonpaper/news/london/news/researchers-talking-to-women-makes-men-thick] I was just utterly freaked out by the experience because I hadn't really had this happen before (Homeschooled) Now I have to sit next to her in class for the rest of the term (NOT COMPLAINING) but I find myself severely distracted in class at times.

Who else has this happened to? Discuss.

(PS if anyone has tips on how a tall, skinny, shy guy could go about befriending this lady, would be nice... =D)

welcome to manhood, and rest assure this has happened to us all, we all noticed a girl that we liked sooner or later, since you are a christian, you may want to stay clear of temptation (which I didn't) however, let me tell you that it is a great experience, you could go out with her and if you are lucky be her boyfriend, without breaking your convictions. To befriend her, jus do what you did before you noticed she attactedd you, talk to her, but if the attraction is strong and it goes both ways, I would try to be more than a friend.

 

[Professor M]

Yeah...do not compare me to non-human life please.

Asari are awesome, it was a complement.

Read my bio and motto on my profile.

Ooh ... bit harsh. I'll contradict you on your views of humanity in the universe, but the sexuality bit I don't mind

Edit: Woah woah wait, you don't know what a Klingon is?

 

[Caligulove]

I guess my personal advice is that glancing has no fouls in it, everyone does it and its only natural. It's just a matter of knowing how long until its staring and if it might be considered rude to the person.

Nothing wrong with a little 'art appreciation' though... Its understandable.

As for talking to this girl, just try to focus on what she says and less on her looks (which can be REALLY HARD) but it makes real conversation flow much better. The most important thing is to never let your eyes wander around. Sure theres the occasional glance at something besides her, but when you talk to her- and when she talks to you, look her in the eyes

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Yes, the female figure is a new and exciting puzzle, but I don't think that any of my stories would be appropriate for this forum.
However, if you want my advice, just be nice, be yourself, and strike up conversations here and there. One thing can lead to another and you may begin to hang out. Just be warry of your wording when you ask her if she wants to chill (a misunderstanding tends to kill things). Also, don't come off too strong. Just be laid-back and confident.

 

[Mr.logic]

I never said there wasn't a difference.

Then why did you quote me with a paragraph?

I quoted many paragraphs I was mostly quoting pimppeter2. But why did I quote everyone else? no real reason.

 

[Aerosmith250]

you've made first contact (well done, hardest part over) and you have at least one thing in common (taking the same class) try and extend any conversations you have till after class (complain about the teacher or workload or something like that while you're packing up your books to leave)and then ask her would she like to grab a coffee or something, talk to her outside of class a few times to get more of an ideaa of her interests etc. and ask her out. If you really like her i'd advise against waiting too long because soon you'll be in the 'friend zone' where she mightn't want to go out with you for fear of ruining your friendship. Alternatively, if you're too shy to ask her out directly, work a film into conversation in class one day then afterwards ask would she like to go and see it and the magic will probably happen in the cinema if it's meant to.

On your PS point, i wouldn't let being skinny and shy worry you, I'm a girl and I'm way more attracted to skinny geeky guys than any other kind and (depending on her age/maturity) your appearance probably won't matter. shyness can even be kind of endearing so long as you try your best to avoid awkward silences for the first while.

And, as others have already said, Just go for it. you'll regret it if you don't, even if it ends up awkward between it'll have been worth the shot.

(sorry for the long post)

 

[Professor M]

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I wasn't really talking about scientific theories, more like theories of human behavior. Take for example Hobbes, I would consider that his statement "No arts; no letters; no society; and which is worst of all, continual fear, and danger of violent death: and the life of man, solitary, poor, nasty, brutish and short." in Leviathan a theory

Things like this can not really be tested.

I'm struggling with your definitions here. A theory of human behaviour in psychology is the same thing as a scientific theory, as psychology is surprisingly a science.

But I get what you mean by that I suppose, just your general sweeping statement from before threw me off

 

[bad rider]

A bit off topic, but I don't get why people say things like "breasts are over sexualized in western society. Maybe if people weren't so afraid of the human body and saw it as a natural thing, rather than a sexual thing, it wouldn't be a problem."


I'm sorry, but who doesn't want to sexualize breasts?


I mean, life would suck if every time I saw a naked girl I was like "meh, its a natural thing"


Seriously people!

Spoiler: Oh my god..

We agree on something for once.
However, you have to admit that people that focus completely on sex are well...not nice...I can't think of a word to describe it.

Actually according freud we are mostly driven by sex.
"Freud is also renowned for his redefinition of sexual desire as the primary motivational energy of human life," - quote from his wikipedia page

Freud is also renowned for creating fanciful theories based solely on his own beliefs, with no possible way to verify them

Sorry, studying psychology, had to be said

Pfft, if your evidence and verification you should go study a real science

(I've also studied psychology and this is what any of my friends who did any of the main three sciences used to tell me)

 

[Professor M]

Yeah...do not compare me to non-human life please.

Asari are awesome, it was a complement.

Read my bio and motto on my profile.

Ooh ... bit harsh. I'll contradict you on your views of humanity in the universe, but the sexuality bit I don't mind

Edit: Woah woah wait, you don't know what a Klingon is?

No I do not

Famous alien race from Star Trek

 

[HotFezz8]

man up! ask her out!

seriously dude, this is your future self. ask. her. the. fuck. out. do it tommorow. or (and i promise you this) you will regret it.

Completely against what others have stated, so no offense I'll pass

@guy above me: Yeah! my psych teacher was saying the same exact thing.

no mate, seriously, i absoloutely promise you (seeing as you seem to have been quite affected by this girl) if you don't give it a try you will be really pissed off with yourself in (i promise you) as little as next year. also, if you don't you may end up as a "friend" with
actually hurts more.

seriously man, you have alot more to be gained by trying it than you risk by trying it and getting knocked back (which also counts as valuble life experience).

I kind of agree with this guy. I'm assuming you'd like to start a relationship with this woman instead of just having some eye-candy in class without your grades dropping too much, else you wouldn't be telling us this since you don't seem like the "Wooo I just saw boobs, high five!" kind of guy.

Beware though, when it goes sour you're stuck next to her in class for a long while. Still, it's better to have taken a shot at it instead of wondering what could have been.

Funny thing: In a couple months I will be in the same class with a girl I really liked but dumped me before it got serious. That'll be great.

that said, this is a good point. (oh and thanks for the support :-D) all of that said sennz0r, aren't you happy you had a crack? it beats beating yourself up over it later...

 

[CloggedDonkey]

I am in the same situation.

Well, kind of the same.

And by that I mean I can't work up the courage to talk to this one girl. At all.