Be thankful she didn't say yes, wait a few days, decide she only went out with you on the rebound or some crap and have her friend blow you out of the water for her because she doesn't want to tell you her self...Wilfy said:I like cute, intelligent girls, mainly blondes or brunettes.
I like a girl at the moment, but she said no when I asked her out, so I don't know what to do now
Actually that's happened before as well with a different girl. I'm not very good at relationships.samsprinkle said:Be thankful she didn't say yes, wait a few days, decide she only went out with you on the rebound or some crap and have her friend blow you out of the water for her because she doesn't want to tell you her self...Wilfy said:I like cute, intelligent girls, mainly blondes or brunettes.
I like a girl at the moment, but she said no when I asked her out, so I don't know what to do now
Me either!Wilfy said:Actually that's happened before as well with a different girl. I'm not very good at relationships.samsprinkle said:Be thankful she didn't say yes, wait a few days, decide she only went out with you on the rebound or some crap and have her friend blow you out of the water for her because she doesn't want to tell you her self...Wilfy said:I like cute, intelligent girls, mainly blondes or brunettes.
I like a girl at the moment, but she said no when I asked her out, so I don't know what to do now
Girls get alot of stick for being a collective hive mind when it comes to things like this, and getting you to pay the bill even though they work at a hospital thankyou very much Caity! :/. If your confident enough I would stick with your plan although if your really, really worried about it I would just talk to her about it and get to know where you both stand.wingshot said:I hate to be that guy (apparently I am him quite often...I should probably see a therapist about split personalities). Unfortunately a recent occurrence in one of my friend's lives has effectively scared me shitless in regards to my current pseudo-relationship.
A few of you may have heard of the dreaded "friend zone" which may or may not be as real as the guy with a knife who is living in your closet (don't look for him though, you'll only give him a reason to kill you sooner rather than later). Unfortunately my buddy wound up screwed when he made a move only to have the girl stop him and say (paraphrase),"I thought that we were just friends". Later that night it was discovered that she wouldn't have done that had he made his move earlier on. In short, he got labeled a friend because he hesitated.
Now my situation is vaguely different, I've taken out my girl 5 times (football game, dance, and movies) and I have yet to make a move. Here is the twist: She can't date until she is 16 which she will be in a few months but I still take her out often. When asked whether or not we are dating she always responds with variations of "Not really". I make sure to pay for everything (we had a funny discussion about that actually) and talk to each other often. She does have a good time during these and has yet to say that she doesn't want to get together (which can't be bad).
For as long as I care to remember, the original game plan was in trials: 1st trial was the dance, 2nd trial was going to be Valentine's Day, and 3rd trial was going to be when she turns 16. Then my buddy had his little incident and now I have no idea what the hell I should do. Do I make a move? Do I stick to the original plan and keep things going as usual?
To be honest, I'm not quite sure what to go by considering the general consensus from folks that I know is (ironically) even for both courses of action. Now I turn to my fellow Escapists, so please tell me your opinions on what I should do.
And yes, I am in high school, please do not think less of me because of it. Thanks in advance to anyone who replies
wingshot said:I hate to be that guy (apparently I am him quite often...I should probably see a therapist about split personalities). Unfortunately a recent occurrence in one of my friend's lives has effectively scared me shitless in regards to my current pseudo-relationship.
A few of you may have heard of the dreaded "friend zone" which may or may not be as real as the guy with a knife who is living in your closet (don't look for him though, you'll only give him a reason to kill you sooner rather than later). Unfortunately my buddy wound up screwed when he made a move only to have the girl stop him and say (paraphrase),"I thought that we were just friends". Later that night it was discovered that she wouldn't have done that had he made his move earlier on. In short, he got labeled a friend because he hesitated.
Now my situation is vaguely different, I've taken out my girl 5 times (football game, dance, and movies) and I have yet to make a move. Here is the twist: She can't date until she is 16 which she will be in a few months but I still take her out often. When asked whether or not we are dating she always responds with variations of "Not really". I make sure to pay for everything (we had a funny discussion about that actually) and talk to each other often. She does have a good time during these and has yet to say that she doesn't want to get together (which can't be bad).
For as long as I care to remember, the original game plan was in trials: 1st trial was the dance, 2nd trial was going to be Valentine's Day, and 3rd trial was going to be when she turns 16. Then my buddy had his little incident and now I have no idea what the hell I should do. Do I make a move? Do I stick to the original plan and keep things going as usual?
To be honest, I'm not quite sure what to go by considering the general consensus from folks that I know is (ironically) even for both courses of action. Now I turn to my fellow Escapists, so please tell me your opinions on what I should do.
And yes, I am in high school, please do not think less of me because of it. Thanks in advance to anyone who replies
You say "hey, I've realized that I really enjoy spending time with you and I think I'd like to try going out together so I can get to know you better! How does Friday at seven sound? I'll pick you up."imacharginmehlaz0r said:
You and the majority of the population but like they say "Fortune Favors the Brave"imacharginmehlaz0r said:
You don't. Yeah, it's going to be very awkward but have no shame! If you know how to laugh something off this little fiasco should go fine.imacharginmehlaz0r said:
Then say "I'll meet you there." And I didn't say it was easy to *do*, only easy to figure out *what* to do. Generally, though, from what I've seen nervous guys use obsessing over *what* to say as an excuse not to say anything.imacharginmehlaz0r said:
