Things your girlfriend does that piss you off.

[ReservoirAngel]

The number one thing that annoys me when I've had a girlfriend is the way they see my female friends as a threat to our relationship. Some of my very best friends are women, and they have always been a friend. Nothing more, and I cannot imagine seeing them as anything more. It's just... wrong. But no, any time I have any contact with one of said friends, the whole mood changes between my partner at the time, and I'm put on trial. It's insane and hugely frustrating.

my BOYfriend used to do this shit every now and again. I'm friends with a lot of girls (the gay best friend is an immensely sought-after accessory) and he knows I have no attraction to them, or any girls at all, but until a month ago he used to get really defensive when I went out with the gals, even though nothing was ever doing to happen.

Jealousy or feeling threatened by an individual (in that sense) is not even close to being defined by a gender. In fact in males, it's primal instinct to be protective of they're mate, due to the fact that it is a competition. In females, it's instinct to stick with what they have in order to provide correctly for an upcoming family. On the womens' part, this is why early and late marriages don't work. Too young and they're not even subconsciously thinking of a family, and too late... well, it's too late. The ones that do work are usually subject to the "Well, I just got to make this work for a while" thought process.

makes sense. i just find it funny that my boyfriend used to think it was possible that, despite me being 100% upfront about my sexuality the first time I met him, I was gonna leave him for a GIRL. if i was hanging out with other guys it might have been cause for his alarm, but girls...there's no chance of that.

Here's the funny part (though most likely, completely irrelevant), I have had quite a few lesbian friends, and had female friends that had lesbian friends too (mostly nice people by the way). I've come to find out that being gay is not a choice, but being a lesbian is. The female body is a beautiful, artfully crafted, wondrous thing that has been depicted as the model of beauty in artwork for thousands of years. Men on the other hand, are quite the mess. Through our rough hairy exterior and the mess of what looks to be inside-out organs with mange in out pants, dirty habits, and insensitivity unless to impress someone, there's no way that a straight guy would look at that in any point of they're life and say, "huh... I could probably get up on that." While there have been women who have done exactly that to other women, and for good reason. I could even get into the history of lesbians and Los Lesbos, but I don't think you would probably care that much.

That doesn't surprise me in any way. Even I can notice that females have much greater potential for beauty than males. If I wasn't gay I wouldn't be able to find any redeeming quality in guy's looks. Hell even now I struggle quite often, with a large ammount of men just making me think "who would ever wanna get on that?"

And there you go.

Well I'll be damned. His jealousy WASN'T unfounded...but it was still stupid. Even IF I was gonna go straight, it wouldn't be with one of my closest friends. Plus at this point I'd already told him I loved him. I'm still calling him irrational haha

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Not exist. That gets annoying.

*runs off crying*

There there, we suffer together ;_;
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[keyoga]

ok i can understand the part of them not wanting to shop for the bf. but i guess i didnt go into enough detail, when she DRAGGED me along when she went shopping she would DRAG me into the mens department and say o this would look good on you, then put it back and DRAG me away. the only time i ever had a girl go shopping for me was when she asked me if the lungerai(its 5 in teh morning and ive been up for 24 hours and i worked for 12 of those, i cant spell right now) was sexy. she slapped me when i said id rather just see her naked

Just cos it took me a while to work out, he means "lingerie".

I think the solution to all these horror stories (I consider slapping at naked jokes a horror story. A frown is fine, that doesn't mark) is that people make awful decisions in who to date for a very, very long time :-\

thank you for fixing my spelling. truly i do appreciate it.

i had an ex who always hated my clothes, damn near everything i wore. but when i said, nicely, why dont you and i go *shudders* shopping and you can help me pick something out. she said i dont really want to go shopping today. she loved to shop, and i mean LOVED TO SHOP, where the hell did this mood come from and how the hell do i get it to stay

Shopping for you is a lot of girlfriends' least favourite pastime. Sister-in-laws/brothers' girlfriends have tons of opinions though. Be warned.

ok i can understand the part of them not wanting to shop for the bf. but i guess i didnt go into enough detail, when she DRAGGED me along when she went shopping she would DRAG me into the mens department and say o this would look good on you, then put it back and DRAG me away. the only time i ever had a girl go shopping for me was when she asked me if the lungerai(its 5 in teh morning and ive been up for 24 hours and i worked for 12 of those, i cant spell right now) was sexy. she slapped me when i said id rather just see her naked

I think we're in the same timezone.

then as ive been asked a dozen times already, what the hell are you doing up at 5 in the morning?

 

[Fumbl3s]

In the space of about 4 months, I did the following

[Insert list here]

Just before we broke up, she accused me of NEVER SHOWING HER LOVE OR APPRECIATION. Instantly angry, I reminded her of all these things (and more, but it's been a while and I don't remember EVERYthing) and turned it back on her, accusing HER of never showing ME love or appreciation. Her response? Here's what she's done for me:

(1) I bought you a camera for your birthday (NOTE: with MY money, even though she had more than enough at the time and we were financially independent of each other).
(2) I let you kiss me.
(3) ... ... (silence)

Like Tristan and Victoria on Stardust.

Be prepared to yell at me, quotee.

In her defense, you didn't really show her "love" the way girls understand it. You whipped out your wallet and stole scenes from romantic movies, feels a little like you were rattling through a 'to do' list.

To be fair within four months if you did all that (and I was a girl) I'd be running for the hills - talk about too much flash too fast :-/

Maybe I would have yelled at you when I was 12, but I'd like to think I've grown up a bit. Also, for the sake of brevity I left out a lot of details I considered extraneous, but I have to defend myself here:

Maybe this sort of thing WOULD scare the daylights out of you, but the reason I did these things is because I know SHE loved it. Thanks to a particular demographic I am in (keeping it anonymous so that this whole thread doesn't spiral onto another topic altogether) dating is...well, not normal. We play by different rules.

Her complaint was that I didn't do ENOUGH of these things to make her feel appreciated ("You haven't bought me flowers for almost two months now, why don't you love me!?"). As far as it being a "To Do" list...well, you would have to have been there to be able to judge if I was just going through the motions or if I actually put my heart into it and meant it. I thought I did, anyways. Plus, these are just the examples I remember because they stood out in my mind: I know how with guys we like to go big and all out, whereas girls pay attention to the LITTLE day-to-day things. I tried to throw in a few of those for contrast.

Plus...nothing about her response? Really? I mean, when she said "I LET you kiss me", I thought that was one of the cruelest things anyone has ever said to me. Is being intimate with me such a horrible experience that you have to grin and bear it and feel like you're doing me a favor? You think that I am so shallow that that is the ONLY thing I want from a woman? It made me feel like she thought that I considered her a whore that I could just throw money at for affection. The fact that that was the best she could come up with was one of the major factors that lead to me dumping her.

Finally, cut me a LITTLE slack here...I thought some of my ideas were fairly original. You can point at anything and say that SOMEBODY has done it before. I tried to personalize stuff to places and things that were special to US, and some of it was done on the fly (I got the idea for the scavenger hunt thing and threw it all together in 1 hour, for example).

 

[Reshkar]

Lol as if I would ever need a Girlfriend... They take up valuable anime and gaming time

Hehe.. this

 

[MrAkuma201]

yes guys are screwed too but girls can be crazy at time as guy can too

 

[dillinger88]

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and there will always be a few niggling things that annoy me, more so now that we've moved in together. We're generally very happy but the single thing that is a hands down, sure fire way of pissing me off is using past relationships to justify her stances, when I am a totally different person to her ex boyfriend.

For example, her ex used to lie to her about being ill and that he couldn't see her so he could go on raids in WoW. As a result she 'hates' gaming with a passion. She doesn't mind me playing games for hours, however.

When I say it's not the game its the fact the your ex is a cock, she doesn't agree. To make my point I say to her that religion is the cause of most of the wars in the world she then states that it's the person not the religion (She says this as her parents are Christian and doesn't like me shitting on it. She's not actually religious herself) and that the situations are not analogous... YES THEY FUCKING ARE!!!!

That turned into a little rant and makes her sound terrible but she's really not. She's still the only girl I could ever want to be with .


Disclaimer: Not trying to start a flamewar about religion. I am atheist, but I have no strong feelings about religion and don't care whether people are religious or not. It is the actual statement I use to show why she's being silly about blaming games for bad boyfriend behaviour.

 

[MrAkuma201]

I know dude that suck especially in front of lots of people 8(

 

[Shadows Inc.]

That doesn't surprise me in any way. Even I can notice that females have much greater potential for beauty than males. If I wasn't gay I wouldn't be able to find any redeeming quality in guy's looks. Hell even now I struggle quite often, with a large ammount of men just making me think "who would ever wanna get on that?"

I feel like we're on the wrong sides of this argument but I disagree, there are plenty of fantastic examples of male form and horrible examples of female form. I personally find the female form much more attractive, but in regards to potential beauty they're equivalent in my mind.

If you really want to get nit-picky about it, the same argument could be said for a root canal, and eggnog. At first glance it's easy to tell which is better, but then the merit of your argument suggests that "Well, a root canal isn't so bad when you get Novocaine and laughing gas, and eggnog isn't so great left outside for a month." It's a valid argument, but an argument that is only really usable in very particular, specific, and rare occasions.

 

[Shadows Inc.]

ok i can understand the part of them not wanting to shop for the bf. but i guess i didnt go into enough detail, when she DRAGGED me along when she went shopping she would DRAG me into the mens department and say o this would look good on you, then put it back and DRAG me away. the only time i ever had a girl go shopping for me was when she asked me if the lungerai(its 5 in teh morning and ive been up for 24 hours and i worked for 12 of those, i cant spell right now) was sexy. she slapped me when i said id rather just see her naked

Just cos it took me a while to work out, he means "lingerie".

I think the solution to all these horror stories (I consider slapping at naked jokes a horror story. A frown is fine, that doesn't mark) is that people make awful decisions in who to date for a very, very long time :-\

thank you for fixing my spelling. truly i do appreciate it.

i had an ex who always hated my clothes, damn near everything i wore. but when i said, nicely, why dont you and i go *shudders* shopping and you can help me pick something out. she said i dont really want to go shopping today. she loved to shop, and i mean LOVED TO SHOP, where the hell did this mood come from and how the hell do i get it to stay

Shopping for you is a lot of girlfriends' least favourite pastime. Sister-in-laws/brothers' girlfriends have tons of opinions though. Be warned.

ok i can understand the part of them not wanting to shop for the bf. but i guess i didnt go into enough detail, when she DRAGGED me along when she went shopping she would DRAG me into the mens department and say o this would look good on you, then put it back and DRAG me away. the only time i ever had a girl go shopping for me was when she asked me if the lungerai(its 5 in teh morning and ive been up for 24 hours and i worked for 12 of those, i cant spell right now) was sexy. she slapped me when i said id rather just see her naked

I think we're in the same timezone.

then as ive been asked a dozen times already, what the hell are you doing up at 5 in the morning?

What is your answer to the question? I'm just still up, and haven't gotten around to going to bed... plus I had an assignment for college anyway.

 

[keyoga]

ok i can understand the part of them not wanting to shop for the bf. but i guess i didnt go into enough detail, when she DRAGGED me along when she went shopping she would DRAG me into the mens department and say o this would look good on you, then put it back and DRAG me away. the only time i ever had a girl go shopping for me was when she asked me if the lungerai(its 5 in teh morning and ive been up for 24 hours and i worked for 12 of those, i cant spell right now) was sexy. she slapped me when i said id rather just see her naked

Just cos it took me a while to work out, he means "lingerie".

I think the solution to all these horror stories (I consider slapping at naked jokes a horror story. A frown is fine, that doesn't mark) is that people make awful decisions in who to date for a very, very long time :-\

thank you for fixing my spelling. truly i do appreciate it.

i had an ex who always hated my clothes, damn near everything i wore. but when i said, nicely, why dont you and i go *shudders* shopping and you can help me pick something out. she said i dont really want to go shopping today. she loved to shop, and i mean LOVED TO SHOP, where the hell did this mood come from and how the hell do i get it to stay

Shopping for you is a lot of girlfriends' least favourite pastime. Sister-in-laws/brothers' girlfriends have tons of opinions though. Be warned.

ok i can understand the part of them not wanting to shop for the bf. but i guess i didnt go into enough detail, when she DRAGGED me along when she went shopping she would DRAG me into the mens department and say o this would look good on you, then put it back and DRAG me away. the only time i ever had a girl go shopping for me was when she asked me if the lungerai(its 5 in teh morning and ive been up for 24 hours and i worked for 12 of those, i cant spell right now) was sexy. she slapped me when i said id rather just see her naked

I think we're in the same timezone.

then as ive been asked a dozen times already, what the hell are you doing up at 5 in the morning?

What is your answer to the question? I'm just still up, and haven't gotten around to going to bed... plus I had an assignment for college anyway.

*smartass answer* waiting for teh coffee pot to get done brewing my coffee duh.

*long but true answer* got off work, car broke due to failed repair job by body shop, to pissed off to sleep, waiting for said bodyshop and insurance to open, waiting for dad to wake up so i can tell him what happened to the car like he is always asking me to make sure i tell him if anything happens.

 

[Justank]

That doesn't surprise me in any way. Even I can notice that females have much greater potential for beauty than males. If I wasn't gay I wouldn't be able to find any redeeming quality in guy's looks. Hell even now I struggle quite often, with a large ammount of men just making me think "who would ever wanna get on that?"

I feel like we're on the wrong sides of this argument but I disagree, there are plenty of fantastic examples of male form and horrible examples of female form. I personally find the female form much more attractive, but in regards to potential beauty they're equivalent in my mind.

If you really want to get nit-picky about it, the same argument could be said for a root canal, and eggnog. At first glance it's easy to tell which is better, but then the merit of your argument suggests that "Well, a root canal isn't so bad when you get Novocaine and laughing gas, and eggnog isn't so great left outside for a month." It's a valid argument, but an argument that is only really usable in very particular, specific, and rare occasions.

And we're talking about absolute potential for beauty, not averages, so we are talking about a very particular, specific, and technically non-existent occasion. Or at least I was talking in absolute terms. Even considering the averages, I see such a vast quantity of girls that just look so fake as to be a complete turn off I'd say the two aren't so far apart.

 

[Shadows Inc.]

In the space of about 4 months, I did the following

[Insert list here]

Just before we broke up, she accused me of NEVER SHOWING HER LOVE OR APPRECIATION. Instantly angry, I reminded her of all these things (and more, but it's been a while and I don't remember EVERYthing) and turned it back on her, accusing HER of never showing ME love or appreciation. Her response? Here's what she's done for me:

(1) I bought you a camera for your birthday (NOTE: with MY money, even though she had more than enough at the time and we were financially independent of each other).
(2) I let you kiss me.
(3) ... ... (silence)

Like Tristan and Victoria on Stardust.

Be prepared to yell at me, quotee.

In her defense, you didn't really show her "love" the way girls understand it. You whipped out your wallet and stole scenes from romantic movies, feels a little like you were rattling through a 'to do' list.

To be fair within four months if you did all that (and I was a girl) I'd be running for the hills - talk about too much flash too fast :-/

Maybe I would have yelled at you when I was 12, but I'd like to think I've grown up a bit. Also, for the sake of brevity I left out a lot of details I considered extraneous, but I have to defend myself here:

Maybe this sort of thing WOULD scare the daylights out of you, but the reason I did these things is because I know SHE loved it. Thanks to a particular demographic I am in (keeping it anonymous so that this whole thread doesn't spiral onto another topic altogether) dating is...well, not normal. We play by different rules.

Her complaint was that I didn't do ENOUGH of these things to make her feel appreciated ("You haven't bought me flowers for almost two months now, why don't you love me!?"). As far as it being a "To Do" list...well, you would have to have been there to be able to judge if I was just going through the motions or if I actually put my heart into it and meant it. I thought I did, anyways. Plus, these are just the examples I remember because they stood out in my mind: I know how with guys we like to go big and all out, whereas girls pay attention to the LITTLE day-to-day things. I tried to throw in a few of those for contrast.

Plus...nothing about her response? Really? I mean, when she said "I LET you kiss me", I thought that was one of the cruelest things anyone has ever said to me. Is being intimate with me such a horrible experience that you have to grin and bear it and feel like you're doing me a favor? You think that I am so shallow that that is the ONLY thing I want from a woman? It made me feel like she thought that I considered her a whore that I could just throw money at for affection. The fact that that was the best she could come up with was one of the major factors that lead to me dumping her.

Finally, cut me a LITTLE slack here...I thought some of my ideas were fairly original. You can point at anything and say that SOMEBODY has done it before. I tried to personalize stuff to places and things that were special to US, and some of it was done on the fly (I got the idea for the scavenger hunt thing and threw it all together in 1 hour, for example).

Different demographic?... hmmmm.... Yiff?

 

[Shadows Inc.]

That doesn't surprise me in any way. Even I can notice that females have much greater potential for beauty than males. If I wasn't gay I wouldn't be able to find any redeeming quality in guy's looks. Hell even now I struggle quite often, with a large ammount of men just making me think "who would ever wanna get on that?"

I feel like we're on the wrong sides of this argument but I disagree, there are plenty of fantastic examples of male form and horrible examples of female form. I personally find the female form much more attractive, but in regards to potential beauty they're equivalent in my mind.

If you really want to get nit-picky about it, the same argument could be said for a root canal, and eggnog. At first glance it's easy to tell which is better, but then the merit of your argument suggests that "Well, a root canal isn't so bad when you get Novocaine and laughing gas, and eggnog isn't so great left outside for a month." It's a valid argument, but an argument that is only really usable in very particular, specific, and rare occasions.

And we're talking about absolute potential for beauty, not averages, so we are talking about a very particular, specific, and technically non-existent occasion. Or at least I was talking in absolute terms. Even considering the averages, I see such a vast quantity of girls that just look so fake as to be a complete turn off I'd say the two aren't so far apart.

On average though, women are more attractive than men; And I know a lot of women that would agree to that as well. I will admit, that there is some significance to your argument, although be it minute, there have been occasions where there are men who seem attractive, but you must think of it this way, you said that there are a lot of girls who seem to be "fake". The muscles of Hollywood actors and body builders, are virtually the same, setting a none-reachable standard for the masses. Then you have the more "pretty-boys" who seem to be flooding the gates lately. Let me just tell you right now that the only reason either a woman or a man would think that they are attractive, is because they take a "Final Fantasy" body type of "what is it?" giving female characteristics to a male figure. (All of this is purely on a physical standpoint of coarse)

 

[drdamo]

I'll keep it simple: Lying, hypocracy & lack of empathy. You got any of those as my girl and its done. I wouldn't care if you want to sleep with another, as long as yer being honest about it before things happen, wish me fun if I'd ask the same a week later and at the end of the week we laugh, share stories and have some fun.
Its not that hard, but they always fail on not lying. Usually because they believe that telling the truth will hurt my feelings, while the opposite happens.
And if my girl would have silly mannerisms, I'd rather enjoy them as a part of her, than whine about them and make them a problem.

 

[Justank]

Maybe I would have yelled at you when I was 12, but I'd like to think I've grown up a bit. Also, for the sake of brevity I left out a lot of details I considered extraneous, but I have to defend myself here:

Maybe this sort of thing WOULD scare the daylights out of you, but the reason I did these things is because I know SHE loved it. Thanks to a particular demographic I am in (keeping it anonymous so that this whole thread doesn't spiral onto another topic altogether) dating is...well, not normal. We play by different rules.

Her complaint was that I didn't do ENOUGH of these things to make her feel appreciated ("You haven't bought me flowers for almost two months now, why don't you love me!?"). As far as it being a "To Do" list...well, you would have to have been there to be able to judge if I was just going through the motions or if I actually put my heart into it and meant it. I thought I did, anyways. Plus, these are just the examples I remember because they stood out in my mind: I know how with guys we like to go big and all out, whereas girls pay attention to the LITTLE day-to-day things. I tried to throw in a few of those for contrast.

Plus...nothing about her response? Really? I mean, when she said "I LET you kiss me", I thought that was one of the cruelest things anyone has ever said to me. Is being intimate with me such a horrible experience that you have to grin and bear it and feel like you're doing me a favor? You think that I am so shallow that that is the ONLY thing I want from a woman? It made me feel like she thought that I considered her a whore that I could just throw money at for affection. The fact that that was the best she could come up with was one of the major factors that lead to me dumping her.

Finally, cut me a LITTLE slack here...I thought some of my ideas were fairly original. You can point at anything and say that SOMEBODY has done it before. I tried to personalize stuff to places and things that were special to US, and some of it was done on the fly (I got the idea for the scavenger hunt thing and threw it all together in 1 hour, for example).

First and foremost the girl is retarded and the "I let you kiss me" me line is utter bullshit, I would have dumped her for that alone. Now, to deal with this line from Charley "In her defense, you didn't really show her "love" the way girls understand it." That's true but I wouldn't use the word love, I would use the word attraction. The things you listed are certainly good things to do if you want it to be a long term relationship, but at the base level, they aren't going to cause her to be attracted to you and want to stay with you. Just pointing it out, I don't know the whole story behind how you got together etc.

 

[Julianking93]

Not exist. That gets annoying.

*runs off crying*

There there, Fargo. It's okay *hugs*

[sup][sup][sup][sup]You know all of your problems would be solved if you just admit your feelings for me, right? ^-^[/sup][/sup][/sup][/sup]

 

[Justank]

On average though, women are more attractive than men; And I know a lot of women that would agree to that as well. I will admit, that there is some significance to your argument, although be it minute, there have been occasions where there are men who seem attractive, but you must think of it this way, you said that there are a lot of girls who seem to be "fake". The muscles of Hollywood actors and body builders, are virtually the same, setting a none-reachable standard for the masses. Then you have the more "pretty-boys" who seem to be flooding the gates lately. Let me just tell you right now that the only reason either a woman or a man would think that they are attractive, is because they take a "Final Fantasy" body type of "what is it?" giving female characteristics to a male figure. (All of this is purely on a physical standpoint of coarse)

I'll give you the point that women are more attractive on average, but I still say the difference is not nearly as large as you make it seem. The muscles of Hollywood actors and body builders are the same idea, but that idea doesn't actually pan out in the same way. I see fewer guys who are trying to be roided out than women who are trying way too hard to fit the female Hollywood stereotypes, resulting in the fake appearance. I live about 45 minutes from Hollywood so my pool of women may be poorer for it.

 

[Deguasser]

She doesn't eat meat.

 

[JokerCrowe]

What is this "Girlfriend"-thing of which you speak?
Is it like a pet?