To: Anybody. I'm looking for honest advice..please.

[KillerH]

Here is a good one, get over it! everyone has problems, and for god sake why tell your whole life story on here like it was said before get a damn blog. And big woop your parents divorced when you were young fuck I wish that had happened to me! Boo fucking who you sound like a needy little wuss stop taking shit to heart so much and dont tell me you almost did yourself in that just proves your a dumbarse and if you actually tried and faild well that shows how fucking useless you are.

wow, I thought douchebags like you were only found on fourchan

 

[NoriYuki Sato]

Here is a good one, get over it! everyone has problems, and for god sake why tell your whole life story on here like it was said before get a damn blog. And big woop your parents divorced when you were young fuck I wish that had happened to me! Boo fucking who you sound like a needy little wuss stop taking shit to heart so much and dont tell me you almost did yourself in that just proves your a dumbarse and if you actually tried and faild well that shows how fucking useless you are.

your kinda new here, so i wont be TOO hard on you, but you've been reported because to me, that seems like trying to start a flame war with me and others trying to offer true advice. as it was said by somebody else before you, just don't post in this topic if you're going to be like this. as i said "don't be a dick". please take that advice to heart with this thread.

that all being said, "get over it" just doesn't work like you think it does, honestly. that's how i used to be, and lost all of my friends because of it. i don't travel that road anymore, but you're welcome to.

Life is hard, there's no way around it. From what I read, you let the actions of people around you govern what it is that you think and do. Alone time can be depressing for some, but you can take that time to think over who you truly are, the good and bad parts of you, and set yourself on the path you wish to take.

You also need some perspective on your situation. Your only 20 now, the real chunk of your life is just starting. From what you said (and I don't mean for this to sound like a kick when your down) but your single, can't socialize with the people around you, and your job sucks. What is stopping you from going somewhere new? Get a new step up on life with a fresh start.

You made a reference to a linken park song. I suggest that you listen to these two songs:
Magician's assistant
waiting for the beat to kick in
Both of these song are by an artist called scroobius pip from the U.K. You sound like the kind of person that can understand the meaning in words rather then just read them.

I'll wait to say more until you have time respond to some of the advice that has already been posted.

as for KillerH, i will look up those songs, and if i can't find them i'll at least look up the lyrics for them. the issue with picking up and starting over somehwere new IS mainly the money issue. only reason i have a job right now and am no longer homeless, is due to my friends knew a guy who knew a janitor was getting fired, and got me the job that way. sure, i asked for help, and i'm glad i did. but with the paycut and even current money situation, there no way i can start over at this point in time. that has to wait a few years. when i can afford to move away to go to school again, i plan on it, but that's still years from now, sadly.

 

[Mrsoupcup]

Snipeth agian

You may wanna change dat post, the mods may get just a tincy bit mad.

 

[Mrsoupcup]

I'm not sure if a video game site full of.... well... Nerds is the best place for advice....

 

[KillerH]

Life is hard, there's no way around it. From what I read, you let the actions of people around you govern what it is that you think and do. Alone time can be depressing for some, but you can take that time to think over who you truly are, the good and bad parts of you, and set yourself on the path you wish to take.

You also need some perspective on your situation. Your only 20 now, the real chunk of your life is just starting. From what you said (and I don't mean for this to sound like a kick when your down) but your single, can't socialize with the people around you, and your job sucks. What is stopping you from going somewhere new? Get a new step up on life with a fresh start.

You made a reference to a linken park song. I suggest that you listen to these two songs:
Magician's assistant
waiting for the beat to kick in
Both of these song are by an artist called scroobius pip from the U.K. You sound like the kind of person that can understand the meaning in words rather then just read them.

I'll wait to say more until you have time respond to some of the advice that has already been posted.

as for KillerH, i will look up those songs, and if i can't find them i'll at least look up the lyrics for them. the issue with picking up and starting over somehwere new IS mainly the money issue. only reason i have a job right now and am no longer homeless, is due to my friends knew a guy who knew a janitor was getting fired, and got me the job that way. sure, i asked for help, and i'm glad i did. but with the paycut and even current money situation, there no way i can start over at this point in time. that has to wait a few years. when i can afford to move away to go to school again, i plan on it, but that's still years from now, sadly.[/quote]

But it's good to know that you have the future to look forward to, keep on that thought.

I'm going to be logging off soon, but feel free to PM me anytime.

 

[NoriYuki Sato]

yeah they are, Im sick of people looking to cry on someones shoulder and have them cuddle them. And then make excuses later when you give them a sugestion or two. People like this dont want help they want to have people say "poor thing how hard it is for you" it makes me sick. Grow a back bone.

actually, i'm not like that. when i ask for help or advice, i welcome honest help and advice. i don't like people feeling sorry for me, because that's all i get where i'm at. here people will be honest. at least more honest. and offer better advice, because they don't have to worry about making somebody feel bad to their face. but i ask you kindly to stop posting like that on this thread. not because it's depressing, but because i'm sick of people like you in my life, which is why i left Nebraska and Wisconsin with my family, even when given the option to stay with friends.

 

[Rensenhito]

You've had it rough, man, but hey, keeping yourself restrained for four years is quite an accomplishment. You succeeded where many, many others -your long-distance girlfriend included- failed: you succeeded in faithfulness. Not only that, but also forgiveness. I can tell you those are qualities every woman will admire, and quite a few will fall in love with.
You seem like a really nice, sensitive person who's just been steamrolled by life, or more specifically, by certain women. Just don't lose faith in the remainder of the female population.
Also, you know how they say every cloud has a silver lining? Well, hey, you're free. No chains. No attachments. Now is your chance to do whatever you've always wanted to do, and while you're out doing those things, you might just meet someone who's always wanted to do those things too.
Crying blurs the vision, and life goes by quickly. You don't want to be blinded by tears, you'll miss too much.
So, in short, my advice: go be happy.

 

[Cyberjester]

rofl.

Tip, most relationships are fairly superficial. I'm 21 and have never had a gf. For the main reason that if I say I love someone, I mean it. How many relationships you know that go for more than 12 months? 2 years?

Second tip. You're kinda sounding like me and I lose friends from being like me so...
You don't get that involved with people, see above tip. If I call someone a friend, they've just managed to bag the most annoying person they will ever know. It's.. Well, keep a shield up and don't be overly.. Obsessive? Suffocating? *shrugs*

Third: Depressed is something in your head. No, you probably aren't lying, (or you're the best troll I've seen in all my internet days of 4Chan) but if you want to be happy, you'll find something worth smiling about.

So, don't expect sparkles and fairies from someone you've just met. Don't make your happiness reliant on someone else.

Love as I see it is insanity. Illogical and against everything we're taught. The biggest gamble ever. From my p.o.v., rushing into another relationship so you have someone to hold you up just isn't smart. Learn to live by yourself, then live with someone else.


Minor note: You said "never asked someone publicly before". Welcome to teh interwebz. I'm Cyberjester, the fragging bard. =P This isn't really public when we're all wearing masks. Anon is all, anon doesn't exist.


Edit:

You say tips for being more social.

How about be confident? Really, it works. Possibly the biggest turn off is someone who looks.. Desperate? About to burst into tears? Consider how many people post messages asking how to talk to people. Easy, assume the other person is as messed up as you are, we're all faking it, and see if you can do it better. =P

Even a lame as pickup line will work if you look confident. Granted, other areas impact, but nothing worse than a 20 year old guy looking like he's asking his first gf out on a date.
You make the rest of us look bad. =P

Second minor note: You had a 4 year relationship that started when you were what.. 15? 16? Not to sound harsh or anything, but a 15 year old girl is going to want more than a few txts or msn convos. Hell, all girls want more than that. Cheating was almost to be expected dude. You can't afford to see her, she can't afford to see you, you spend the majority of your time around other people. *shrugs* Kiss vs a text. Guess which will win...

 

[nicholaxxx]

snippeth

Are the swearwords really necessary? Seriously, there's a fine line between being a douchery and construtive critisizm.
Also better punctuation is your friend.

yeah they are, Im sick of people looking to cry on someones shoulder and have them cuddle them. And then make excuses later when you give them a sugestion or two. People like this dont want help they want to have people say "poor thing how hard it is for you" it makes me sick. Grow a back bone.

grow a brain, you can give adivce, fine but don't be an asshole about it, if you asked me the time of day and I said "sure, it's X:XX' and went on you're way, you'd be more grateful than if I said "why don't you have a watch then, if you want to know that time, you f**king moron?!? it's X:XX!"

it's common sense and common courtesy man, go on one of the #chans if you want to be a putrid f**kwad, or better yet GROW UP.

unless, tough love maybe? whatever.

 

[Rensenhito]

Here is a good one, get over it! everyone has problems, and for god sake why tell your whole life story on here like it was said before get a damn blog. And big woop your parents divorced when you were young fuck I wish that had happened to me! Boo fucking who you sound like a needy little wuss stop taking shit to heart so much and dont tell me you almost did yourself in that just proves your a dumbarse and if you actually tried and faild well that shows how fucking useless you are.

Define your concept of usefulness, please. This interests me, because I didn't know human beings were tools. Well, except for people like you.
Also, OT: There's a fine line between "doing what you want" and "doing things that hurt others." As an amendment to my previous post, don't cross it.

 

[I38VWI]

Crying blurs the vision, and life goes by quickly. You don't want to be blinded by tears, you'll miss too much.

That is a great quote!
Really beautiful and poetic.
And you pretty much gave better advice is less words than I.

The best advice of all is to be happy and have fun, because those are the important things in life.

 

[sky14kemea]

Crying blurs the vision, and life goes by quickly. You don't want to be blinded by tears, you'll miss too much.

That is a great quote!
Really beautiful and poetic.
And you pretty much gave better advice is less words than I.

The best advice of all is to be happy and have fun, because those are the important things in life.

Yeah, sometimes I get jealous when people can be so poetic and I'm just a klutz with good intentions xD

Querie, is it possible to have fun on your own? I mean sure, gaming is a release for a while, as are many other hobbies, but isn't it much better to laugh with someone? I think that's kinda what he means by the social thing. (Or not, hey, what do I know? Dx)

No way im gonna read all that shit

I'd like to nominate this as 'Most Pointless Post In Thread'.

 

[NoriYuki Sato]

You've had it rough, man, but hey, keeping yourself restrained for four years is quite an accomplishment. You succeeded where many, many others -your long-distance girlfriend included- failed: you succeeded in faithfulness. Not only that, but also forgiveness. I can tell you those are qualities every woman will admire, and quite a few will fall in love with.
You seem like a really nice, sensitive person who's just been steamrolled by life, or more specifically, by certain women. Just don't lose faith in the remainder of the female population.
Also, you know how they say every cloud has a silver lining? Well, hey, you're free. No chains. No attachments. Now is your chance to do whatever you've always wanted to do, and while you're out doing those things, you might just meet someone who's always wanted to do those things too.
Crying blurs the vision, and life goes by quickly. You don't want to be blinded by tears, you'll miss too much.
So, in short, my advice: go be happy.

that's some good advice, but your first guess was right. steamrolled by life more than certain women ((considering everything that's happened thus far versus two relationships))
i haven't lost faith considering the only one of my friends that never bullshits me is female.

rofl.

Tip, most relationships are fairly superficial. I'm 21 and have never had a gf. For the main reason that if I say I love someone, I mean it. How many relationships you know that go for more than 12 months? 2 years?

Second tip. You're kinda sounding like me and I lose friends from being like me so...
You don't get that involved with people, see above tip. If I call someone a friend, they've just managed to bag the most annoying person they will ever know. It's.. Well, keep a shield up and don't be overly.. Obsessive? Suffocating? *shrugs*

Third: Depressed is something in your head. No, you probably aren't lying, (or you're the best troll I've seen in all my internet days of 4Chan) but if you want to be happy, you'll find something worth smiling about.

So, don't expect sparkles and fairies from someone you've just met. Don't make your happiness reliant on someone else.

Love as I see it is insanity. Illogical and against everything we're taught. The biggest gamble ever. From my p.o.v., rushing into another relationship so you have someone to hold you up just isn't smart. Learn to live by yourself, then live with someone else.


Minor note: You said "never asked someone publicly before". Welcome to teh interwebz. I'm Cyberjester, the fragging bard. =P This isn't really public when we're all wearing masks. Anon is all, anon doesn't exist.

i can promise i'm not a troll, just been in a bad place for a longer while than i care to believe possible, and i find things to smile about, the trouble i find is to keep smiling and staying happy for more than 9 hours. 9 hours is a HUGE jump for me, considering what it's been before. ((thank the gods for music, huh?)) but music also brings up bad moments, which is when i skip the songs and try to move on. and i would never make my happiness reliant on anybody but me, which is why i said, it isn't fair to people to be in a relationship where they have to keep the other happy. that just isn't fair to anybody.

and with choices i've made, and things i've done, it's hard to live with myself most of the time. only 2 things usually keep me going, but i wont bother you or the flame war starters with what those are. ((no reason to put fuel on a dying ember, right?))

and thank you kind fragging bard, honesty such as yours is always welcome, as well as shared or similar experiences from anybody.

 

[NoriYuki Sato]

No way im gonna read all that shit

I'd like to nominate this as 'Most Pointless Post In Thread'.

you ninja'd me in a way, so i would like to agree and add to Dethsane...

"then don't. it's that easy, just don't mention you aren't. it makes a pointless post, but otherwise, thanks for your input."

 

[sneakypenguin]

snippeth

Are the swearwords really necessary? Seriously, there's a fine line between being a douchery and construtive critisizm.
Also better punctuation is your friend.

yeah they are, Im sick of people looking to cry on someones shoulder and have them cuddle them. And then make excuses later when you give them a sugestion or two. People like this dont want help they want to have people say "poor thing how hard it is for you" it makes me sick. Grow a back bone.

Amen brother. People who ask for help in such a public forum don't want help they want attention. If one seriously wanted help for depression/relationships, there are far better resources for such things.
Seriously if I wanted to ***** about life I could do the same thing but it gets nothing done except people feel bad for you.

People sicken me with how weak minded/thin skinned (for lack of a better word) they are.

 

[Mbellarusa]

Here is a good one, get over it! everyone has problems, and for god sake why tell your whole life story on here like it was said before get a damn blog. And big woop your parents divorced when you were young fuck I wish that had happened to me! Boo fucking who you sound like a needy little wuss stop taking shit to heart so much and dont tell me you almost did yourself in that just proves your a dumbarse and if you actually tried and faild well that shows how fucking useless you are.

Do you find this kind of stuff offensive to your "ub3r manlin3ss" or something i mean jesus christ...
Anyway,
Whenever i have broken up i found the best way to deal with it is to just talk with your friends and try to forget what's happened.

 

[NoriYuki Sato]

Amen brother. People who ask for help in such a public forum don't want help they want attention. If one seriously wanted help for depression/relationships, there are far better resources for such things.
Seriously if I wanted to ***** about life I could do the same thing but it gets nothing done except people feel bad for you.

People sicken me with how weak minded/thin skinned (for lack of a better word) they are.

please read what was said to him and the other flame war starters beofre you post something like this again, thank you.